Hey all, I've been a lurker for ages but this is my first thread.
Ever since I first started dating, I've gravitated towards bigger women. I simply find them more attractive, more fun, and less inhibited. I briefly dated a very thin girl before, and it definitely confirmed my feelings.
I struggled with it for awhile (society being what it is), but I've since learned to have fun and worry less.
I guess my problem is twofold. Firstly, my family. My brother (who is married) and my father constantly bust my balls for dating big girls, who they often make disparaging remarks about. It's more playful teasing than outright mean, but it's all the time. I avoid having any girls I date meet my family. I feel terrible about it, but I'm not ashamed of my date, but more irritated of my family's rude behavior.
I think if I confronted them they would stop. And I'm going to have to do it eventually, but I'm not looking forward to it.
Second, all of the bigger women I have dated have been very self-conscious about their weight. They weren't comfortable with themselves like a lot of you guys are. They always talk about losing weight and how bad they feel about themselves, and I don't know how to say much more than "I like you the way you are" without sounding like a perv. Several of them gained weight (not on purpose), and I told them they looked cuter but they didn't believe me
One of them gained quite a lot of weight, and I know it bothers her. She was depressed and eating a lot of comfort food. About 50 pounds later, I thought she looked great! But it was hard to make her feel better about herself when she was always so focused on how "terrible" she looked.
I don't even know what answers I'm looking for, but writing this is kind of therapeutic.
Ever since I first started dating, I've gravitated towards bigger women. I simply find them more attractive, more fun, and less inhibited. I briefly dated a very thin girl before, and it definitely confirmed my feelings.
I struggled with it for awhile (society being what it is), but I've since learned to have fun and worry less.
I guess my problem is twofold. Firstly, my family. My brother (who is married) and my father constantly bust my balls for dating big girls, who they often make disparaging remarks about. It's more playful teasing than outright mean, but it's all the time. I avoid having any girls I date meet my family. I feel terrible about it, but I'm not ashamed of my date, but more irritated of my family's rude behavior.
I think if I confronted them they would stop. And I'm going to have to do it eventually, but I'm not looking forward to it.
Second, all of the bigger women I have dated have been very self-conscious about their weight. They weren't comfortable with themselves like a lot of you guys are. They always talk about losing weight and how bad they feel about themselves, and I don't know how to say much more than "I like you the way you are" without sounding like a perv. Several of them gained weight (not on purpose), and I told them they looked cuter but they didn't believe me
One of them gained quite a lot of weight, and I know it bothers her. She was depressed and eating a lot of comfort food. About 50 pounds later, I thought she looked great! But it was hard to make her feel better about herself when she was always so focused on how "terrible" she looked.
I don't even know what answers I'm looking for, but writing this is kind of therapeutic.
14 years