Myself and my wife, have started to embrace the sub/dom thing in the last year, it's great fun !
I sometimes fantasise about the sub side, but in reality, I am definitely a dom. My wife is naturally sub, and I have talked about having some 'fun' with male chastity etc, even got a cage for myself, but she just doesn't seem into it at all.
I guess if you are not getting off on 'whatever it is your trying' then it is not going to appeal to you.
She really likes tame 'restriction', and sensory deprivation, and really gets off on that, and I enjoy providing it for her ;-) so I could not ever see myself being a sub in reality (even though I sometimes quite secretly like the idea of switching).
7 years