As some of you may know by now, I’m a Dutch male gainer with a serious interest in getting fatter.
Due to the frustratingly low number of people in Holland who share my interests in gaining, feeding and encouraging, I decided to try my luck in the BDSM world several years ago, by visiting the meetings of the local BDSM society.
Since then I’ve discovered that my interests are not solely limited to gaining and feeding, I’ve met some great new people, and even met a fantastic mistress who’s willing to play with me from time to time. But when it comes to actually living out my gaining fantasies, I’m no further than I was back then.
When I first started to visit those meetings I was sometimes approached by people who were interested to know about my reasons for exploring the BDSM world, and although I found it extremely difficult to explain my primary reasons, I did my best to tell them about my gaining desires and the wish to find someone who was interested in feeding me, and encouraging me to grow fatter as I am now. To me it seemed that there were some similarities between a good SM play and a my fantasies about a good feeding play, but it was clear to me, although some showed serious interests in my ideas, that these ideas were not commonly accepted.
Recently I ran into a topic on the forum of this BDSM society, where, apparently, one of the ladies I once spoke to, referred to the discussion she had had with me. Although she admitted that it was not her cup of tea, she, at least, was intrigued by my ideas, so now she asked other people’s view on the topic of feeding and weight-gain as part of a SM play/relationship.
Well, where she at least had tried to keep an open mind, most of the people responding to her question did not; “Since feeding and deliberate weight-gain, even with the willing cooperation of the feedee/ gainer, is resulting in negative effects on the feedee/gainer’s health, it is in conflict with the idea that a BDSM play should be safe at all times!”
The lady even tried to use the counter argument that things like breath control play, needle play, elongated bondage plays or even things like fist ***ing are rarely good for a person’s health either, but nevertheless most people seemed to agree that feeding was NOT something that should be combined with a BDSM play.
Now I must admit I had hoped that people who frequently have to deal with the intolerance of every day people about THEIR interests in BDSM would also have a more open mind to MY ideas, but nevertheless I was not surprised; I’ve had enough of these kind of discussions to know that trying to explain what fascinates me about the idea of growing fatter and being encouraged in that, to someone who does not share this interest, is like trying to explain the beauty of a sunset to someone who is blind; useless, pointless and hopelessly frustrating. Still I would like to know if any of you DID have good experiences with triggering other people’s interest in the whole feeding and weight-gain idea, especially to people who already had an interest in BDSM, and more importantly, how you managed to do so.
Anyone?!?
Due to the frustratingly low number of people in Holland who share my interests in gaining, feeding and encouraging, I decided to try my luck in the BDSM world several years ago, by visiting the meetings of the local BDSM society.
Since then I’ve discovered that my interests are not solely limited to gaining and feeding, I’ve met some great new people, and even met a fantastic mistress who’s willing to play with me from time to time. But when it comes to actually living out my gaining fantasies, I’m no further than I was back then.
When I first started to visit those meetings I was sometimes approached by people who were interested to know about my reasons for exploring the BDSM world, and although I found it extremely difficult to explain my primary reasons, I did my best to tell them about my gaining desires and the wish to find someone who was interested in feeding me, and encouraging me to grow fatter as I am now. To me it seemed that there were some similarities between a good SM play and a my fantasies about a good feeding play, but it was clear to me, although some showed serious interests in my ideas, that these ideas were not commonly accepted.
Recently I ran into a topic on the forum of this BDSM society, where, apparently, one of the ladies I once spoke to, referred to the discussion she had had with me. Although she admitted that it was not her cup of tea, she, at least, was intrigued by my ideas, so now she asked other people’s view on the topic of feeding and weight-gain as part of a SM play/relationship.
Well, where she at least had tried to keep an open mind, most of the people responding to her question did not; “Since feeding and deliberate weight-gain, even with the willing cooperation of the feedee/ gainer, is resulting in negative effects on the feedee/gainer’s health, it is in conflict with the idea that a BDSM play should be safe at all times!”
The lady even tried to use the counter argument that things like breath control play, needle play, elongated bondage plays or even things like fist ***ing are rarely good for a person’s health either, but nevertheless most people seemed to agree that feeding was NOT something that should be combined with a BDSM play.
Now I must admit I had hoped that people who frequently have to deal with the intolerance of every day people about THEIR interests in BDSM would also have a more open mind to MY ideas, but nevertheless I was not surprised; I’ve had enough of these kind of discussions to know that trying to explain what fascinates me about the idea of growing fatter and being encouraged in that, to someone who does not share this interest, is like trying to explain the beauty of a sunset to someone who is blind; useless, pointless and hopelessly frustrating. Still I would like to know if any of you DID have good experiences with triggering other people’s interest in the whole feeding and weight-gain idea, especially to people who already had an interest in BDSM, and more importantly, how you managed to do so.
Anyone?!?
13 years