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accepting yourself as a fat person3 years

Even though I am now over 300 lbs, I must admit until very recently I saw this as a temporary state. I had always thought that I would reach a point and say "ok fun's over" and diet and exercise down to what I believed a more normal weight. I have now accepted that I am a fat person and no longer see this as a temporary state (at least not one in which my weight will be lower than it currently is). My question to those who have had a similar epiphany is what changed in your lifestyle after accepting yourself as a fat person. Did you stop becoming self conscious about what or how much you ate in public? Did you seek out friendships with others who were heavy? How important was some form of exercise? Did you find new hobbies that were more comfortable to do at your new size? I think I know how I will adjust, but was curious to know what others have experienced.

accepting yourself as a fat person3 years

Its a great epiphany! Im no longer "getting fat" I AM fat. And Im really starting to FEEL fat. Im slower I noticed, and I feel pretty heavy. Its harder for me to run than it was a six months ago. I mean- I CAN run, but my gut slaps up and down when I do and I get winded pretty fast. A few years ago I decided that instead of counting calories to gain weight Id just "eat like a fat person would". For awhile it took conscious effort but now its hard NOT to overeat.

accepting yourself as a fat person3 years

I too have a feeling that im about to cross this line in the very near future. While im doing so intentionally, it will be no less of a moment when I finally realize im Fat...

accepting yourself as a fat person3 years

Looking back, I think I crossed over two lines. One where I realized that I was fat (even though I was in denial over that for a while) and one where I accepted that I was fat and embraced that a new lifestyle would evolve. For instance I won't be playing men's league basketball this winter as I don't see that being enjoyable at my weight (it was tough enough last year and that was quite a few lbs ago), so I think I'll join a bowling league instead. As activities change, the circle of friends change as well. I'm thinking it will be more enjoyable to hang out with other heavier folks on occasion because I won't have the guilty conscience of what others are thinking like "put down the fork big fella" not that I'm planning to abandon friendships, I'm just going to spend more time with new ones that I can let it go with no guilt. Thanks for your feedback I am really interested in what others experienced as they finally accepted themselves as a fat person. I'm hungry now, think I'll go have some ice cream. Lol

accepting yourself as a fat person3 years

I agree that there is a difference between realizing that you are fat and accepting or being emboldened by a fat lifestyle. I would think the true epiphany comes when you are able to live the lifestyle you choose without needing approval of others. This site is helping to raise the awareness that it's entirely possible to be fat, happy and healthy. There are a lot of people making a lot of money by spreading the myth that it is not. Enjoy your new lifestyle!

accepting yourself as a fat person2 years

Well, I actually have a different side. I tried to loose weight once I couldn't accept myself as a skinny person!

Because of problems with my foot I lost 50lbs to try and take pressure off of it, it didn't work. I was 30lbs away from being my "ideal" weight and it just felt weird. I didn't like it at all, it felt like I had chopped off an arm or something.

So I happily return to eating whatever I damn well pleased and my body plumed back to where it was. I now feel complete again.

I never 'accepted my self as a fat person', I am a fat person through and through. Skinny makes me feel weird, cold, and lonely inside. No thanks!

accepting yourself as a fat person2 years

Good for you Lisbeth. I think some people love themselves thinner and some love themselves fatter. It's important to be happy with yourself and also important to surround yourself with those that love for you to be happy in your own skin, whether it has rolls or not.

accepting yourself as a fat person2 years

jrm:
Even though I am now over 300 lbs, I must admit until very recently I saw this as a temporary state. I had always thought that I would reach a point and say "ok fun's over" and diet and exercise down to what I believed a more normal weight.


Me too! I've always been on the curvy/chunky side and for most of my adult life I was a small BBW in the low 200-220 lbs range. Then a medication made me lose a bunch of weight, and I simply could not accept myself as a smaller person. Part of that was why I started to gain a little more than 2 years ago.

Flash forward to now and nearly 120lbs fatter. I'm solidly over 300lbs and my body and appetite have both undergone major changes. I'm only full if I'm stuffed, I order fast food for imaginary people (me) all the time, and the thought of getting even fatter still turns me on like nothing else, despite having blown past my original goal 40 lbs ago. My belly has grown disproportionately since then, resulting in a bulging spare tyre so big and jiggly that it wobbles to it's own separate rhythm when I walk. If it sounds like I'm getting a little poetic, it's because I'm in love.

With that, it's starting to dawn on me that maybe I'm not just popping up to 300 for a quick visit, and 300 may not be the fattest I get... I'm only planning on another 10 lbs, but I've been saying that every 10 lbs since 260! What's funny is that I had a very well developed and comfortable identity as a fat person, but that's not the same as being a very fat person (although it did mean I'd made peace with my body and society long ago). It's obviously not as dramatic a change as someone going from actually thin to fat would experience, but it' seen significant for me!

I will say that I feel more at ease with other fat people, but for me it's mostly about adjusting to the changes. I'm much slower now, especially if I've recently put on a few and my muscles aren't used to it yet! For some reason new weight makes my lower back ache like crazy if I have to walk any real distance without stopping for a break, so I'm getting used to planning them in. Same thing with my commute time- I now count the walk from the car to wherever. I'm making an effort to learn how to dress in a way that I feel looks cute and accommodates my belly comfortably, because now it's this big soft but unyielding thing that sort of demands to be dealt with in all sorts of ways. I travel with an extender, and if I get much bigger I'm going to have to get one for my car. I'm somewhere between disbelief and taking these milestones in stride.

The thought of fully giving in to life as a 300-something pounder is more exciting than it is worrying, so I guess I'm on my way! Acceptance certainly feels a lot more likely than a diet smiley

accepting yourself as a fat person2 years

LilRascl,
I think you look great and it sounds like you are in a really good place as far as embracing who you are right now.

accepting yourself as a fat person2 years

Anyone out there decided that 2016 is the year you accept yourself as being fat if you haven't already?
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