Gaining

What & why do we have these fetishes?

I've had this fetish (weight gain) since before puberty. I don't why either. I just love the thought of myself or women/girls gaining weight. I love big, huge bellies either pregnant or otherwise. I can't explain what makes me this way. But I don't really mind. I do have some behaviors that are related. I did deliberately gain fifteen pounds this past summer. I wear bikini cut briefs (mens) and I shave my belly area. I don't have much hair on my body anyway, so it really doesn't stand out. I just prefer no hair. Well that's it, nice thread.
8 years

What & why do we have these fetishes?

When I was 9-ish my mum bought Men in Black 2 for my birthday, I loved the men in black series, but I always got this weird feeling at the start of the second movie when the alien women devours a guy that gives her a huge belly. I always felt like I shouldn't be watching that scene, especially with other people.

So my guess is I was born with a fat fetish, I just didn't realize it was a thing until later on in life.

Also everything promoting "thin" back then.
8 years

What & why do we have these fetishes?

I have been a feeder and fa as long as I can think back. It really defines my sexuality, it is not a fetish for me, but who I'm, it is the most passionate thing I have in my life, it feels more powerful and satisfying than anything else. I doubt very much if you could condition anybody into being a fa or feeder or feedee: In my theory, you either are (and will always be) or you are not (at which point you will never really find it exciting)
My like for feeding has developed and gotten stronger and stronger, and I also realized that I should gain myself and that I'm really a mutual gainer and that being in a relationship where both want to gain and were both have a very natural and happy relaxed feeling towards fat and fattening must be heaven. For me, fat is probably the sexiest thing there is, what it does with our bodies, how it moves, how it feels, in a way it is pure sensuality and also seems to be made out of pure sex ;-)
Funny enough, while running my website for over 15 years now, everybody that I got in contact with, that I could identify as a real feeder or feedee reported that they had fantasies about weight gain as far back as they can remember and that it has always been there.
8 years

What & why do we have these fetishes?

I also had erotic fantasies about weightgain in my childhood so I think such things are not defined by some incident in puberty. The french philosopher Georges Bataille has interesting thoughts on lust in general. He writes that it is always connected to transgression - crossing into forbidden territory, so to speak, like 'get dirty'. In hies view, the thrill of arousal is linked to fear, comparable to the thrill we experience when riding a roller coaster or doing a base jump etc. So, this is like a general underlying pattern of any kind of sexual orientation and we feeders, feedees and FAs just find our specific way of getting into forbidden territory in the taboo zone of fatness.

Personally, I feel my interest in feederism is a variation of sadism, a sadism with the outer appearance of friendly care. I�m really into the details of a woman getting out of shape, supporting that with encouragement is not a friendly act on my side but a strategy to get her into a state of unfitness so that I can tease and humilate her. Don�t get me wrong, I value mutual respect, I have a sense of awe towards women I find attractive and generally I try to be a friendly, 'good' person. But concerning feederism I must say that I perceive it as some kind of lust of manipulation, of fooling someone and than taking advantage.
I found it to be tricky to be outspoken about these darker aspects of lust in a relationship, the women I encountered that can relate in some way to the role of a feedee were mostly interested in aspects of support and care that are linked to food and it�s supply. Where are you in real life, masochist feedees?
8 years

What & why do we have these fetishes?

I am a masochist feedee, in my fantasies anyway. This whole thing is mostly just in my head and not in my real life. But my fantasies are not about someone taking care of me with food. I like the idea that something I can't resist (food) makes me gain weight, get fat, out of shape, looked down upon by many, makes me lose control again and again of my body and I like the idea of a feeder who gets off on that with me. You would never guess this about me in real life, so I'm sure there are others like me out there.






giwi:
I also had erotic fantasies about weightgain in my childhood so I think such things are not defined by some incident in puberty. The french philosopher Georges Bataille has interesting thoughts on lust in general. He writes that it is always connected to transgression - crossing into forbidden territory, so to speak, like 'get dirty'. In hies view, the thrill of arousal is linked to fear, comparable to the thrill we experience when riding a roller coaster or doing a base jump etc. So, this is like a general underlying pattern of any kind of sexual orientation and we feeders, feedees and FAs just find our specific way of getting into forbidden territory in the taboo zone of fatness.

Personally, I feel my interest in feederism is a variation of sadism, a sadism with the outer appearance of friendly care. I�m really into the details of a woman getting out of shape, supporting that with encouragement is not a friendly act on my side but a strategy to get her into a state of unfitness so that I can tease and humilate her. Don�t get me wrong, I value mutual respect, I have a sense of awe towards women I find attractive and generally I try to be a friendly, 'good' person. But concerning feederism I must say that I perceive it as some kind of lust of manipulation, of fooling someone and than taking advantage.
I found it to be tricky to be outspoken about these darker aspects of lust in a relationship, the women I encountered that can relate in some way to the role of a feedee were mostly interested in aspects of support and care that are linked to food and it�s supply. Where are you in real life, masochist feedees?
8 years

What & why do we have these fetishes?

Being fat is partly genetic, so there has to be a certain percentage of the population that is attracted to fat people, or else those genes would have died out.

It makes sense that evolution would create some fat people and some people who want to have babies with fat people because famine and starvation used to be a real danger where the ability to store a lot of fat would help someone survive.
8 years

What & why do we have these fetishes?

Wayy before puberty. Stuffing, ripping, finding new larger clothes. During and after puberty drawing, finding photos (advert for Women en Large comes to mind) five large naked women posing in a natural environment my first porn. The Internet Google search found the hungry feedee, dimensions magazine, big Cutie's, and FF. I have been on here for a long time just under different names. And now an active paying member.
8 years

What & why do we have these fetishes?

Always had a facination with weight growing up. Any kind of change- gaining or losing- caught my attention. Losing probably only to be able to gain over and over. But weight gain fascinated me since as young as 2nd grade. Maybe it was because my mom went on weight watchers and lost about 100 when I was little. Maybe it's a vestigial evolutionary desire to survive the scarce season. Maybe it's my rebellion against how I was raised. Sexuality and what causes fetishes is an interesting topic and I wonder how much of it is "born that way" or as my BF thinks, imprinted
7 years

What & why do we have these fetishes?

I am a masochist feedee, in my fantasies anyway. ...I like the idea that something I can't resist (food) makes me gain weight, get fat, out of shape, looked down upon by many, makes me lose control again and again of my body and I like the idea of a feeder who gets off on that with me.


Yay!
;D
7 years