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anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

Yesterday, my girlfriend of two years broke up with me. A woman I love, a wonderful woman who's smile brightened whatever room she was in. I lost her because I took her for granted. Because of my fetish I made her feel like she wasn't good enough for me. All responsibility on this is my own. Anyone else lost anyone they truly loved or regret this fetish?

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

Yeah, I've never orgasmed without having my fetish present, which means that at 27, I've still never orgasmed with another person in the room, let alone touching me! I'm a hetero female whose fetish only involves women gaining weight or fat women overeating, so it pretty much sucks. If my fetish was conducive to my natural sexual identity, I might not feel this way.

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

I can certainly relate. I married my first wife as a SSBBW who dieted, losing more than 1/2 of her bodyweight. We are still friends, but the point is, i discovered that i actually had a fetish. We don't choose these things, they choose us, like it or not.

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

Sorry about you losing your girlfriend; that sucks.

My life is a ruin but that doesn't really have anything to do with my sexual preferences. It certainly would be simpler if I had a "normal" sexuality but that wouldn't really of helped my love life nor my life in general.

Finding love is its all about finding someone who has the complementary sexuality to yours and who meshes with you in the other aspects of life.
Not all that hard a prospect but a time consuming one and a total crapshoot. As complex as people are and as many of us as there are, its incredibly hard to find what you are looking for.

Except for specific sexualities (like maybe vitalia's as she listed above that are difficult to work with into a two person relationship) can really ruin your life. In fact I think its difficult for any one thing (barring maybe medical problems or another person) to ruin a person's life.

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

Not at all... Why would it?

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

I can't orgasm unless I'm with/fantasizing about someone fat or gaining. Its frustrating because it limits my dating pool, like I might click with someone, but if they aren't fat or going to gain weight, I can't have an enjoyable sex life with them.

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

aho:
I can't orgasm unless I'm with/fantasizing about someone fat or gaining. Its frustrating because it limits my dating pool, like I might click with someone, but if they aren't fat or going to gain weight, I can't have an enjoyable sex life with them.


I'm in the same boat, it's something I wish I could change. Or at least I wish I had more kinks/fetishes to be interested in 😞

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

I wouldn't say ruined, but it does make things more difficult. But everyone has a fettish when we get down to it. Some guys like breasts, others like feet, some like bellies. Its largely what society deems acceptable and "normal" to some extent this whole fetish is labeled a "fetish" is because of silly standards. I try not to let it get me down.

Anyway..... I keep thinking back to how sexually my last relationship tapered in some degree, because of my fetish. My gf was gaining some weight, and she was looking even better as she gained more. Then she felt she was fat and lost all of it and she was VERY skinny. She was;t un attractive but whenever I told her she looked better with some weight she thought I was a gross disgusting person for thinking that. And while she was far from overweight, said I just liked "fat girls".

Now our fetish didn't end or really ruin our relationship much, what did was infidelity and lies. But it is hard some times. I learned to put it aside and at the time, just the thought of her and being in love with her was more than enough get me off, but having her 100% physically how I would have liked on her end would have been nice. I stated trim and fit for her, why could she not gain 20lbs for me? Its a funny double standard.

/rant hah

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

aho:
I can't orgasm unless I'm with/fantasizing about someone fat or gaining. Its frustrating because it limits my dating pool, like I might click with someone, but if they aren't fat or going to gain weight, I can't have an enjoyable sex life with them.

sugarkitten7:
I'm in the same boat, it's something I wish I could change. Or at least I wish I had more kinks/fetishes to be interested in 😞


I can definitely relate and agree. I've made the same wish myself numerous times.

anyone else feel their life has been ruined by our fetish?2 years

SS_FA:
I can certainly relate. I married my first wife as a SSBBW who dieted, losing more than 1/2 of her bodyweight. We are still friends, but the point is, i discovered that i actually had a fetish. We don't choose these things, they choose us, like it or not.

I agree totally with this comment
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