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how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)5 months

When I'm aroused, I'm really into the idea of gaining. The rest of the time, I don't dislike it but I also think about working towards an athletic bodytype. I'm having trouble weighing my options objectively.

I have always been rail thin (and I hate it), but I'm in my mid/late 20s now and my metabolism is finally slowing down. Without trying, I have already gained 5-10lb, which is very apparent on my small frame. This change has made me want to embrace gaining, but a part of me is afraid that I'll gain a moderate amount and then realize that I'd rather lose it all and work towards an athletic body.

If I hold off on making a decision, then my weight will probably continue to increase slowly and it will become harder and harder to keep from giving in to gaining.

I realize that my decision doesn't have to be final, but I'm having trouble deciding what to do none-the-less. I'd appreciate any advice. Thanks!

how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)5 months

If you gain and don't like it, you can lose it. Fortunately it's not like a tattoo... not permanent. smiley

I think a lot if not most of us have been conflicted whether to gain or not. At one point it was only when I was aroused that I liked it. As time went by and continues to go by, I love it more and more. Yes, I think about losing but then I ask myself "why!?"

Especially when I see a store window reflection showing how big my belly is getting, how my belt slides down nd how snug my shirts are getting.

It's a process, not an overnight yes or no. smiley

how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)5 months

Jack Valedole:
Encourager/Mutual Gainer here. For me, personally, it's not about arousal. I've always been bony and "rail thin" like you described yourself as being. For as long as I could remember I've hated how my body looked and the remarks I would get because of it.

"Have you eaten today?"
/in a hushed tone/ "Are you Anorexic?"
"Do you want me to buy you a sandwich?"

I was a preteen when I knew I wanted to be big. I would get really jealous of the other kids who were larger. I wanted to be fat like they were.

However, my metabolism has prevented it. Every time I go to the pool I would wear a shirt to hide my ribs and hip-bones. Every time I looked in the mirror I disliked what I saw.

Getting fat and LIKING what I see there is something that I've always wanted and will hopefully soon achieve.

I would rather be happy with the way I look and mocked for being fat than hate my body...and still get mocked.

Hope my rant helps lol


I can absolutely relate to everything that you said one hundred percent!

"Are you eating enough?"
"You should eat more."
"How are you so cold?! / Your hands are purple?!"

Just the other day, I was having a meal with my parents for Father's day and they were asking all those questions for what felt like the millionth time. For the first time, I was able to tell them that I'd actually gained a little weight. I wasn't sure if they would ask if I was eating healthy or something along those lines since they are health nuts, but they responded with a resounding "GOOD!". Wonder how long that'll keep up if I decide to gain for real...

Edit - More War Stories:

I knew that I was into fat on some level from an early age so I was pretty excited when I was given the high-calorie Ensure shakes sometime around age 12 (doctor was worried about my weight). Turns out that 3+ years of drinking the stuff daily does diddly squat when you have the metabolism of a racehorse. smiley

Years later, I tried every kind of bulking regime to see if working out could do anything. Nope. The best I ever managed was around two pounds up from baseline and it took a ton of work. I ultimate stopped because years of effort really didn't get me anywhere. In time, I accepted the situation and waited for my metabolism to calm down.

One more story in case the purple hands thing is foreign to anyone interested... When you're very underweight, cold hits like a truck. I can dress for the cold in Winder, but air-conditioning in Summer is the real killer. Way back in high school, they liked to crank the AC and whenever I was seated under a vent I would get really cold and my hands would go deep purple and very numb. One time I was writing a math test and halfway through I had to ask the teacher if I could switch seats with anyone. Of course, the teacher was confused so I had to show him my hands and explain that I was no longer able to write. Naturally, the whole class saw/heard and somebody had to move. That wasn't a great day, but it did teach me to always pack a sweater in Summer which has been an invaluable lesson.

how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)5 months

MarshmallowMinotaur:
If you gain and don't like it, you can lose it. Fortunately it's not like a tattoo... not permanent. smiley

I think a lot if not most of us have been conflicted whether to gain or not. At one point it was only when I was aroused that I liked it. As time went by and continues to go by, I love it more and more. Yes, I think about losing but then I ask myself "why!?"

Especially when I see a store window reflection showing how big my belly is getting, how my belt slides down nd how snug my shirts are getting.

It's a process, not an overnight yes or no. smiley

Absolutely. If I gain and don't like it then I can lose it. However, it'll be easier if I make the right choice from the start so I'm giving it a fair bit of thought before I start down either path.

I think that it comes down to me wanting to be bigger. It could be muscle or fat - both have their pros/cons but I just don't want to be thin/scrawny/etc.

An athletic muscle physique is a good look for pretty much anyone and universally acceptable, but it would be a difficult adjustment to work out (don't enjoy it) and watch what I eat (never had to do that before). I believe that I have the willpower to stick with it, but only if I feel that the payout is worth it.

A chubby physique is taboo, but appealing in a sensual way. Eating whatever I want and as much as I want (I would be fairly mindful of health) would be enjoyable on many levels. I'm somewhat of a foodie so the food itself is a motivator. I'm also turned on by the idea of overeating while knowing full-well that it's making me fatter.

Both have their merit, but getting fat has more risk (having to lose the weight if I don't like it, health, social, relationship, etc) but also possibly more reward. In some sense, going for muscle is the easier way out despite the effort required.

One concern is that, while being bigger in any way is a constant desire, being fatter has only been a desire when I was aroused. This has changed recently and I now feel more-or-less neutrally towards getting fat when I'm not aroused. Is that enough of a green light? Maybe I'm more confident so the idea of being fat in everyday life is more acceptable now. Maybe it's just the excitement of realizing that my metabolism is slowing and switch back and cause issues. The whole situation is sexually charged so it's difficult to think about it rationally.

A little context:
My inclination isn't to be massive, just big.

If I go for the athletic look, it'll be a slow process (ectomorph, etc) and I'll just keep at it with no specific goal. I wouldn't expect to really feel bigger for at least 2 years.

If I give in to gaining then I'd start with another 20 (up 25-30 from baseline) and see how I feel. I'd keep up walking/cardio for stamina and maybe a do a little bit of at-home workout so that it's not purely a skinny-fat look (I have very little muscle at present). If all is well, then I'd aim for 50 up from baseline. After that, I probably wouldn't want to gain intentionally but I could see myself ending up +60-70 in the long run.

how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)5 months

This basically how It is for me too. when I'm aroused I just want to gain and get huge etc but when I come back down I like to go out and exercise and eat healthy - a sort of yin and yang situation. Even now I can't think of myself ever truly letting go. It goes for women too, I like a big girl who eats but I feel I live such an active lifestyle that no woman could truly get fat while with me

how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)5 months

I never really decided I wanted to gain weight personally. I've always been pretty chubby, and though it gave me some self esteem problems when I was younger, I came to embrace it with time. Though I've never tried to 'actively' gain weight, I'm still really happy with my body the way it is, and I know I could lose this weight if I really wanted too, which is comforting. If I were to suggest something, maybe just try eating more things that you enjoy, and see how your body handles it. At most, you'll probably only gain a few pounds, and it'll take some time, but I think it'd be a great way to 'test the waters' so to speak. Personally, I've never been happier at my weight, and I no longer have any issues with self esteem, so I'd definitely give it a shot at least if I were you!

how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)5 months

bolitoman:
This basically how It is for me too. when I'm aroused I just want to gain and get huge etc but when I come back down I like to go out and exercise and eat healthy - a sort of yin and yang situation. Even now I can't think of myself ever truly letting go. It goes for women too, I like a big girl who eats but I feel I live such an active lifestyle that no woman could truly get fat while with me


You kind of explain the euphoric arousal of this weight gain fetish. With time it can usually get stronger.

Back just after college My serious girlfriend and I moved in together. She was beautiful and quite chunky...I was thin and muscular and could really never gain weight. Over months of living together we were like the little married couple, she was a great cook and baker and we hung out all the time when I wasn't at my new desk job and she wasn't at classes in her last year of college. The months continued to go by and I noticed she was becoming fatter and fatter and I loved it. I didn't dare say anything because I didn't want her to try and diet. One day I cam home form work to find her on the couch snacking on a bag of chips watching Tv and very sad like she had been teared up....I sat down by her and asked her what was wrong and softly consoled her while she told me she just got back from her annual female check up where she was scolded by her Doctor for gaining so much weight. This excited me but I continued to console her and she said "and here I am still stuffing my face with a bag of chips" I told her she was beautiful and I thought she looked better than ever and that's when she said "maybe we should go on a diet" I thought I mis heard her and asks "we should go on a diet" and she looked at me and stalled for a minute and then said "you didn't even realize that you got heavy to" in a question form.......I had an intense arousal come over me and then I was a bit embarrassed and didn't really say anything and she just hugged me and smiled and said "I think you look great like this"....once again arousal. We decided to have a mutual gaining relationship and it became a very teasing and sexy time....plus it would have been pretty difficult to control our new huge appetites anyways. It was the best both of us eating huge fattening meals that she cooked and massive fattening baked deserts all the time, teasing one another and getting fatter day by day week by week month by month and we kind of become home bodies never really going out with our couple friends anymore. When we did go out with our couple's friends it was kind of embarrassing and shocking because we had both changed so much and gained so much weight we didn't feel the same or comfortable around them. I would go to work and everyone used to know me as the taller thin athletic guy and all of a sudden for new people in the office that never knew me like that I became referred to as the heavy set guy.....so things were a bit strange when my girt
l friend and I were at our town home eating and teasing and growing fatter together it was the best but when I had to see family, friends and even go to work it wasn't the same feeling I was insecure for the first time in my life and even my long time friends would never stop with slight jabs about my new big gut or how much I have changed. Her couple called us the Fat married couple......so it was a ying & yang thing for sure.

Fast forward many years later .....I happened to gain a decent amount of weight unintentionally trying to get my wife fattened up again and I ended up getting fatter than her. I decided to intentionally see how Fat I could get...mostly to see her reaction, or to have her scold me or even tease me for gaining such a big gut. Well, after gaining 40+ Lbs and looking like I was 9 months pregnant my wife only seemed to like the new fatter me. She happened to be gaining along with me although both of us never discussed it. I was getting a lot fatter and eating like a pig she was getting fatter and eating along side with me....we were totally happy our sex life got better and much more active. We were a bit more withdrawn around friends and family which always seems to be the case but it was totally different this time for me. I felt like I could go on forever, not insecure at all now about my big change....I almost flaunted it front of people. My wife only commented a couple of times when she happened to be slightly intoxicated and it was a teasing and endearing way of palming and shaking my new Fat gut and her saying "I don't remember all this" .

I am sure it has to do with age and how the desire of weight gain on oneself or their partner seems to get stronger with time with regard to this fetish.

how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)3 months

I was always a really big kid and I remember seeing cartoons where the characters would fatten up and I was curious. I would.stuff my shirts with pillows then when we got internet I'd spend hours looking up people who got fat. Then as a teenager I reached 300 pounds by 16 and I liked the feeling

how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)3 months

bolitoman:
This basically how It is for me too. when I'm aroused I just want to gain and get huge etc but when I come back down I like to go out and exercise and eat healthy - a sort of yin and yang situation. Even now I can't think of myself ever truly letting go. It goes for women too, I like a big girl who eats but I feel I live such an active lifestyle that no woman could truly get fat while with me

voluptuouslover:
You kind of explain the euphoric arousal of this weight gain fetish. With time it can usually get stronger.

Back just after college My serious girlfriend and I moved in together. She was beautiful and quite chunky...I was thin and muscular and could really never gain weight. Over months of living together we were like the little married couple, she was a great cook and baker and we hung out all the time when I wasn't at my new desk job and she wasn't at classes in her last year of college. The months continued to go by and I noticed she was becoming fatter and fatter and I loved it. I didn't dare say anything because I didn't want her to try and diet. One day I cam home form work to find her on the couch snacking on a bag of chips watching Tv and very sad like she had been teared up....I sat down by her and asked her what was wrong and softly consoled her while she told me she just got back from her annual female check up where she was scolded by her Doctor for gaining so much weight. This excited me but I continued to console her and she said "and here I am still stuffing my face with a bag of chips" I told her she was beautiful and I thought she looked better than ever and that's when she said "maybe we should go on a diet" I thought I mis heard her and asks "we should go on a diet" and she looked at me and stalled for a minute and then said "you didn't even realize that you got heavy to" in a question form.......I had an intense arousal come over me and then I was a bit embarrassed and didn't really say anything and she just hugged me and smiled and said "I think you look great like this"....once again arousal. We decided to have a mutual gaining relationship and it became a very teasing and sexy time....plus it would have been pretty difficult to control our new huge appetites anyways. It was the best both of us eating huge fattening meals that she cooked and massive fattening baked deserts all the time, teasing one another and getting fatter day by day week by week month by month and we kind of become home bodies never really going out with our couple friends anymore. When we did go out with our couple's friends it was kind of embarrassing and shocking because we had both changed so much and gained so much weight we didn't feel the same or comfortable around them. I would go to work and everyone used to know me as the taller thin athletic guy and all of a sudden for new people in the office that never knew me like that I became referred to as the heavy set guy.....so things were a bit strange when my girt
l friend and I were at our town home eating and teasing and growing fatter together it was the best but when I had to see family, friends and even go to work it wasn't the same feeling I was insecure for the first time in my life and even my long time friends would never stop with slight jabs about my new big gut or how much I have changed. Her couple called us the Fat married couple......so it was a ying & yang thing for sure.

Fast forward many years later .....I happened to gain a decent amount of weight unintentionally trying to get my wife fattened up again and I ended up getting fatter than her. I decided to intentionally see how Fat I could get...mostly to see her reaction, or to have her scold me or even tease me for gaining such a big gut. Well, after gaining 40+ Lbs and looking like I was 9 months pregnant my wife only seemed to like the new fatter me. She happened to be gaining along with me although both of us never discussed it. I was getting a lot fatter and eating like a pig she was getting fatter and eating along side with me....we were totally happy our sex life got better and much more active. We were a bit more withdrawn around friends and family which always seems to be the case but it was totally different this time for me. I felt like I could go on forever, not insecure at all now about my big change....I almost flaunted it front of people. My wife only commented a couple of times when she happened to be slightly intoxicated and it was a teasing and endearing way of palming and shaking my new Fat gut and her saying "I don't remember all this" .

I am sure it has to do with age and how the desire of weight gain on oneself or their partner seems to get stronger with time with regard to this fetish.

This is so hot!

how did you decide if gaining was right for you? (asking for advice)3 months

I've been somehow fascinated by fat since a very young age. Books, fairy tales, even cartoons depicting weight gain were my best friends. When I reached my teenage years, I found out that it can be sexual, and I was on board with that. I spent several years lurking, but I've only recently decided to actively try to become a fat woman. I'm at the beginning of a long journey, only a few pounds short of 200. I can't wait to get bigger, even though I know my family will judge me. I was lucky to find friends who don't care about appearance, but I know there will be stares and comments. I'm finally ready for them. It took me a long time to come to terms with myself, and I am sure there will be weak moments in the future. However, I have decided to accept myself the way I am, with all my desires. Even if those include me not being able to fit into my shorts come next summer. What also helped me was a talk with my very much anti-fat friend, who assured me that I am completely healthy and normal mentally and that there is nothing wrong with me wanting to gain weight. My advice is to talk with someone you know is not going to judge you for anything, consider all pros and cons, and then decide. Good idea is also to gain a few pounds first, to get the general idea of what it is like, and then either lose it or keep gaining depending on how you feel.


DISCLAIMER: Writing this drunk. If there are any mistakes/wrong claims, please do correct me.
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