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prospective girlfriend dilemma!6 days

So i've been hanging out with this girl a fair bit: great personality, really cute. I can tell she's interested and I really like her

However, she's 5 foot tall and about 50 kilo's (slim) and like pretty much everyone here , I like my girls to have some chub: a little cushion for the pushin if you know what I'm saying ahaha

I really like her but physically I find she's just a bit skinny for me. Needs an extra 10/15 kilos, ideally. Is it unrealistic to get involved with the intention of encouraging her to gain weight/fattening her up? I mean she does seem the open minded type. If so, how do you suggest I bring this up?

prospective girlfriend dilemma!5 days

Very Carefully,

This is difficult, because unless you are careful she is going to get the message that she is not "good enough" for you as she is.

On the other hand, if she is really open minded, you might be able to introduce feeding in some way as erotica associated with sex, or affection. Not to fake her out, but rather to give her a chance to react. Then if she does not like it, or is turned off by it, she is not feeling like you are finding fault with her.

If she does like it, and gains a few, then you can rave about how much sexier she is getting. Like you could not imagine how she could be any sexier, but not the larger girl IS much sexier.

You may find out she hates it, or loves it, or somewhere in between.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!5 days

Chubbybo:
So i've been hanging out with this girl a fair bit: great personality, really cute. I can tell she's interested and I really like her

However, she's 5 foot tall and about 50 kilo's (slim) and like pretty much everyone here , I like my girls to have some chub: a little cushion for the

pushin if you know what I'm saying ahaha

I really like her but physically I find she's just a bit skinny for me. Needs an extra 10/15 kilos, ideally. Is it unrealistic to get involved with the intention of encouraging her to gain weight/fattening her up? I mean she does seem the open minded type. If so, how do you suggest I bring this up?


Continue hanging out building a relationship that is usually the best way but still taking things slow not committing anything g to her full force so she doesn't get the wrong idea.

Not knowing your exact preference with this fetish. Do you just like a little bit chubby girls, do you like them overweight and cute or would you really like it if you found the girl like you mentioned and wish she was chubby already and would get nice and Fat over time?

Girls/women typically gain weight as they age a bit but if it is a deal breaker that this smaller and thinner girl that you like on a many levels never gets any bigger....I say tread lightly. I just know from experience that I like my women plump to overweight when I was a bit younger and that has only gone up as I aged as well as many other guys on this site and now I like my wife Fatter and fatter....which is a good thing if your wife keeps getting fatter but if she is skinny and only gets a little chubby it leaves one craving for more and more weight.

So knowing what I know now.....my wife happens to be heavier than I thought I wanted or liked many years ago....but currently she is probably 100 lbs. less than I would love to see on her figure.
Keeping in mind I used to think chubby to chunky girls were my ideal....my taste has certainly gone up and up and up over the years....just so Ethan g to honk about.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!5 days

Please tell her asap. I couldn't bear another 'been dating my gf for two years and I love her but she doesn't want to gain and I don't know how to tell her about my preferences' post.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!5 days

Yep, I see ChubbyHoney's point. There HAVE been a lot of those.

But even my advise is not a "drag things on for months" kind of advise. It is ok to ease into the conversation ... even as I suggested .... but don't let it drag out. It isn't fair to either of you.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 days

Totally agree. You gotta say it. In whatever way feels best. It's hard I've been there. I'm very open about my attraction to Big girls so there's that base going into any relationship.

I struggle with sharing the feederism parts the most. That's been reveled to less then half my partners and only slightly indulged with one. (It wasn't her kink at all) our relationship didn't end because of it, but many other things. Long story short.

If you have a "base weight" or size preferences of a woman that you wish to be with maybe shoot for girls like that?

Idk I'm just thinking out loud here.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 days

Chubbybo:
So i've been hanging out with this girl a fair bit: great personality, really cute. I can tell she's interested and I really like her

However, she's 5 foot tall and about 50 kilo's (slim) and like pretty much everyone here , I like my girls to have some chub: a little cushion for the pushin if you know what I'm saying ahaha

I really like her but physically I find she's just a bit skinny for me. Needs an extra 10/15 kilos, ideally. Is it unrealistic to get involved with the intention of encouraging her to gain weight/fattening her up? I mean she does seem the open minded type. If so, how do you suggest I bring this up?


If you do this against her will, or without telling her you are a garbage human being. If shes not into gaining or anything like that then Id say this would be almost as bad as rape. So take that for what its worth.

You can talk to her, tell her your interests and if shes into it and wants to try it- Then great! But you also cant brow beat her or guilt her into to it.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 days

If you have a "base weight" or size preferences of a woman that you wish to be with maybe shoot for girls like that?

Idk I'm just thinking out loud here.[/quote]


This sounds like simple advice.....but
it is totally true. You should look for women that are heavier and attractive first and then see about the many other characteristics as you get to know them. It should be kind of easy because what generally attracts most guys or girls for to the opposite sex is the physical first and then you can find out all the other important stuff you are looking for.
So aim "not high". .......but heavy!