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when gain becomes noticable1 month

GrowingLoveHandles:
You make some great point, voluptuouslover (love the name!).

One other thing is that in many cases people are just too darned polite to even say anything. Weight gain in our culture is still a somewhat taboo subject. If someone does say something, they will either be someone close who will mention it in private. Or they will be the kind of loud-mouth say-it-all sort (think the Kramer character in Seinfeld) who will just blurt it out in a crowd. What happened to me was an old woman from my church who hadn't seen me for a while. At potluck after church, she practically screamed "Wow! You've really gotten fat!" And others around kind of skulked off in embarrassment. I had no idea what to say![/quote]

Thank....and I love your name as well!

On the same subject.....I myself as a FA and very into weight gain....the other day when I was at a clients office happened to see another employee there and said to my woman client...wow I didn't even recognize her (completely talking about how much heavier the employee was I guess in a caddy type way....but simply bringing up the obvious)....My woman client said yea I had to do a double take myself earlier because she seems to have gained a lot of weight all of a sudden. The FA that I am....and kind of wanting to keep the conversation going...said "She look's good, she was much to skinny before"....when she probably went from 140 lbs. before to probably 180 Lbs. now based on my keen observation. My lady client who is pretty big really didn't say much after....but I assume she probably knew I liked women heavier at that point.

So.....people notice and talk behind the back more than confronting out in the open but it isn't always bad things....they just notice. Also, it seems like that physical changes are always kind of shocking and create something to discuss......even if it was a skinny guy who now becomes muscular or a heavier woman that loses weight....people notice and are somewhat in shock of the physical changes and talk....mainly behind the back if it is weight gain though.....more out in the open if it is weight lose or muscular gain......just being politically correct.

when gain becomes noticable1 month

GrowingLoveHandles:
You make some great point, voluptuouslover (love the name!).

One other thing is that in many cases people are just too darned polite to even say anything. Weight gain in our culture is still a somewhat taboo subject. If someone does say something, they will either be someone close who will mention it in private. Or they will be the kind of loud-mouth say-it-all sort (think the Kramer character in Seinfeld) who will just blurt it out in a crowd. What happened to me was an old woman from my church who hadn't seen me for a while. At potluck after church, she practically screamed "Wow! You've really gotten fat!" And others around kind of skulked off in embarrassment. I had no idea what to say!

voluptuouslover:
Thank....and I love your name as well!

On the same subject.....I myself as a FA and very into weight gain....the other day when I was at a clients office happened to see another employee there and said to my woman client...wow I didn't even recognize her (completely talking about how much heavier the employee was I guess in a caddy type way....but simply bringing up the obvious)....My woman client said yea I had to do a double take myself earlier because she seems to have gained a lot of weight all of a sudden. The FA that I am....and kind of wanting to keep the conversation going...said "She look's good, she was much to skinny before"....when she probably went from 140 lbs. before to probably 180 Lbs. now based on my keen observation. My lady client who is pretty big really didn't say much after....but I assume she probably knew I liked women heavier at that point.

So.....people notice and talk behind the back more than confronting out in the open but it isn't always bad things....they just notice. Also, it seems like that physical changes are always kind of shocking and create something to discuss......even if it was a skinny guy who now becomes muscular or a heavier woman that loses weight....people notice and are somewhat in shock of the physical changes and talk....mainly behind the back if it is weight gain though.....more out in the open if it is weight lose or muscular gain......just being politically correct.[/quote]

As an addendum to the original poster:

If you want people to comment (and that may be what you want consciously or subconsciously), you can ask them. Ask someone you feel close to, someone you'd like to say something, ask them by saying, "I've gained a little weight recently, but I don't think it is noticeable. What do you think? Have you noticed?"
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