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getting past what others will think?3 weeks

This is simple: don't. Give. A. F***.

No matter what you do, already did or willing to do, you still last by a way or an another a target to any form of social critics. Furthermore, you same willing meant actually overstuff yourself and getting obese into a thin-centric society still nourishing a lot of fatphobic endeavors on many levels : so the bigger you've gotten, the louder the bodyshaming bias prejudices you will know during your gaining journey.

The best way to ignore them is simply a matter of high-esteem: if you show off to them their critics annoy you, they will continue to believe they've got right about their prejudices same as they will believe YOU think also you're wrong. If you content simply to be self-confident, then kick off with a scheming way your opponents, they wil done by been tired to argue with or bully you.

getting past what others will think?3 weeks

It may sound weird, but I hope others do comment and tease me. It's one way to know I'm on the right track.

getting past what others will think?3 weeks

With those breasts and all that blubber, I doubt you have to even wonder about comments and teasing fatboy. Very pretty chest ur growing.

getting past what others will think?3 weeks

Thanks. I was 215 pounds a month and a half ago but im 6"4 so its a normal weight for that height. I've gained 20 pounds after a month and a half. I don't know if i should stop because im liking the feeling and am curious to gain another 15 maybe. My weight gain is appearent but another 20 would actually give me the title of fat person. Decisions...

getting past what others will think?3 weeks

DDcupcake:
As someone who has gained roughly 50 pounds in the past year and a half, I will say that I am actually surprised by the LACK of reaction my changing body has received. I don't know if people are too embarrassed or polite to say anything, so self absorbed they haven't noticed, or simply just not concerned by by gain.

I keep thinking one of these days, someone is going to stage an intervention, but it hasn't happened yet. I do, however, have a doctor's appointment later this month, and am wondering if she'll read me the riot act.
A. Your doctor WILL read you the riot act. B. Friends and family are doubtless either too polite or too embarrassed to mention that you've gone way past a touch overweight. It's okay, One day, in the not too distant future, they'll ask you when's your due date and you will THEN know they officially consider you FAT!!

getting past what others will think?2 weeks

[quote]DDcupcake:

womansbellylover348:
A. Your doctor WILL read you the riot act. B. Friends and family are doubtless either too polite or too embarrassed to mention that you've gone way past a touch overweight. It's okay, One day, in the not too distant future, they'll ask you when's your due date and you will THEN know they officially consider you FAT!![/quote

I did get my first "when are you due?" comment this week. At work. From a woman in my office (works on another floor...I barely know her. We were in the elevator together and she asked me. Funny thing is, she actually is pregnant. Tall and skinny other than her baby bump. I probably look more pregnant than she does, and she's due in December. Needless to say she was mortified, when I told her I wasn't expecting.

getting past what others will think?2 weeks

When I first started putting on weight several of my friends commented on it. As I continued to gain weight the comments stopped, whether to spare my feelings or because they had become used to my being fat. What did surprise me was that when the topic of weight or dieting came up, people who had known me at school when I was skinny imagined that I had always had a weight problem.

My family were different. My mother, in particular, and my sisters continued to make pointed remarks about my weight and nagged me to lose it. Family members who I only saw periodically nearly always mentioned my growing size. Now that I am in a permanent relationship and my partner is also obese (not as heavy as me but we are working on it) the negative comments have stopped, although that has not stopped my mother pulling me aside and badgering me about my weight. I suppose she means well but cannot appreciate the importance to me as a gainer to be an ample size and the effort I have put in to achieve this.

If you are morbidly obese, it is the first thing people notice, even before they have spoken to you. Most people have fairly sterotypical views on obesity and put it down to laziness, greed, lack of self control and esteem. They immediately assume you are unfit and unhealthy. This certainly affects your prospects in the employment market. I changed jobs about five years ago. At the time I was about 250 pounds, so I was obese but within conventional limits so it did not affect my prospects. Now I am more than 100 pounds heavier I think that I would be at a much greater disadvantage at a job interview. It is not fair but a fact to accept. At work I probably work harder than anyone and take fewer days off sick...for what it is worth.

getting past what others will think?2 weeks

DDcupcake:
[quote]DDcupcake:

womansbellylover348:
A. Your doctor WILL read you the riot act. B. Friends and family are doubtless either too polite or too embarrassed to mention that you've gone way past a touch overweight. It's okay, One day, in the not too distant future, they'll ask you when's your due date and you will THEN know they officially consider you FAT!![/quote

I did get my first "when are you due?" comment this week. At work. From a woman in my office (works on another floor...I barely know her. We were in the elevator together and she asked me. Funny thing is, she actually is pregnant. Tall and skinny other than her baby bump. I probably look more pregnant than she does, and she's due in December. Needless to say she was mortified, when I told her I wasn't expecting.


When you think about it, it's GOT to be a bit of a turn-on to have someone THINK you're pregnant when you're not. Especially if you've been gaining purposefully!!

getting past what others will think?2 weeks

One thing I've noticed is that some people just have a fixation on finding fault with other people's weight. My mother (especially as she's gotten older) has become one of them. She's always been really thin, and just assumes everybody would naturally be that way if they didn't constantly overeat and have a poor diet.

I've been pretty much "averaged sized" for a long time. (Gained a few pounds over the years, but I'm still about a 36-38" waist and around 200lbs. at 5'9".) I haven't visited family in about 4-5 years and finally did so recently. One of the first questions my mom had when calling to make final plans to come visit? "Have you gained much weight?" (Seriously?! Why would that be one of your top questions to ask?)
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