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scared of actually getting fat.3 months

Have you determined what you're most afraid of when it comes to gaining? (i.e., others reactions, not being able to lose the weight if you change your mind, potential health issues, etc.)

I think it's helpful to realize that we've been conditioned since birth to believe that fat is unhealthy and unattractive. Our culture enforces this belief on a daily basis. Internalized fat phobia takes place as young as five years old (children said they would rather die of cancer or lose a limb than be fat). This is obviously something they are taught. We aren't born with the fear of fat.

Considering how much overt aggression & discrimination there is in this culture towards fat people, it's totally normal to be afraid of getting fat even as a fat admirer/gainer. Since fat phobia is so prevalent, anyone gaining weight is going to need to develop a support system. I'd recommend getting involved with fat activism, spending time with body positive/fat accepting individuals and limiting exposure to fat phobic people and media that promotes diet culture.

scared of actually getting fat.3 months

I have definitely been scared of getting fat. Initially, it was purely about what others would think... mostly a few close relatives and friends (I actually like reactions from random people and some friends). Then I let go a bit (ok a lot, 80 lbs haha), and the fear subsided a little, but it still prevents me from getting fatter than 250 lbs. I really want to see what another 50 lbs would feel like but I cant get over the fear of others reactions. I also now worry a little more about health as there have been some effects (minor so far). Such a weird conflict because reactions and health (and other) effects turn me on, but also cause fear!

scared of actually getting fat.3 months

person12670:
I have definitely been scared of getting fat. Initially, it was purely about what others would think... mostly a few close relatives and friends (I actually like reactions from random people and some friends). Then I let go a bit (ok a lot, 80 lbs haha), and the fear subsided a little, but it still prevents me from getting fatter than 250 lbs. I really want to see what another 50 lbs would feel like but I cant get over the fear of others reactions. I also now worry a little more about health as there have been some effects (minor so far). Such a weird conflict because reactions and health (and other) effects turn me on, but also cause fear!


Yeah, the social repercussions can really hinder one's confidence and enthusiasm. How does one develop the courage to continue gaining in the face of those fears? I'd love to hear from those who were able to push through their initial apprehension and make that final leap.

scared of actually getting fat.3 months

For me, I am slightly nervous about the reactions of people not in my home, but in various parts of my life. But in the end I kinda just say, you know what? This isn't wrong. This isn't embarrassing. This is me, and gaining makes me feel good. I don't even try hard to gain necessarily even though that is my goal; my love of food is enough in itself for me to eat lots and gain with ease. I assume eventually my weight will stabilize naturally as my body gets used to my food intake, which can be a good thing because I'm not necessarily sure how big I wanna be quite yet. But for now, I'm putting on pounds easily and happily. smiley basically, screw what everyone else thinks. At the end of the day the only people that care about me are myself and a handful of close people in my life, and almost all of them accept me for who I am. Anyone that doesn't usually won't get my trust or respect in the first place to even make it to being a significant part of my life, so I don't pay much attention to them or their moronic opinions.

scared of actually getting fat.3 months

I'm reflexively terrified of getting fat and fascinated by it. I don't usually worry about what other people think; it's weird to try to figure out what exactly causes that fear.

scared of actually getting fat.2 months

I think if you live away from family it's not so much an issue as they won't be able to see you've gained weight I have no fear anymore as I get older.

scared of actually getting fat.2 months

Yeah, it's a real crap shoot because I've found some people who seem compassionate and thoughtful become real spiteful and nasty regarding fat people. Friends of mine who haven't spent time with my wife (big and heavy enough to need help with certain things) getting really angry about fat people. "Et tu...?" I think to myself.

And yet, some people who are openly uncomfortable about the idea of obesity can calm down when it's someone they know.
Both my wife's mom and mine think fat is off-putting, I can tell by the offhand remarks they make. Yet you'd never tell by how nice they treat their massive daughter/in-law. Because she's an important person in their lives, and they can tell she's happier constantly gaining weight, even if they're not really sure how or why.

Friends and family who seem openly disgusted with fat people are sometimes compassionate people at heart, who lose their prejudice when it's someone they're close to.

scared of actually getting fat.2 months

I am scared of constant comments/harassing when it comes to my weight gain because this is what happened to me in the past.
Very nice and close people showed their dark face to me when I was getting fatter and fatter and it was so disrespectful, intrusive and repetitive, that I'm still "traumatized" actually.

I don't care about people in the streets who would do nasty comments, although it can be humiliating of course. But I can deal with it.

I don't want to hear any comment on my body or how it should be from people who are part of my life and this is so strong that I already started to kick out of my life, some of those who did recently (2 friends). I told them exactly why and they were feeling humiliated they said, like I was the harsh one for doing this, but well, this shows even more how stupid and egocentric they were...

Sometimes I worry about the health because of the constant warning about it, and that's why I got back to some slow sport and try to eat various nutritive food.

But the real struggling for me is really to deal with the comments and worries of people of my life. Without this fear, I would live my weight gain truly as a complete bliss. I'm working on it, to free myself and enjoy the gain process completely.

scared of actually getting fat.2 months

Most of the time we avoid maintaining weight and when we realize the time goes. It is better to follow a healthy diet and regular workout which promotes our blood circulation and burns fat. There are many types of weight loss solutions like diet guide which helps to maintain weight. My friend is using a livre régime slimming guide which helps to maintain weight.

scared of actually getting fat.2 months

saraturley:
Most of the time we avoid maintaining weight and when we realize the time goes. It is better to follow a healthy diet and regular workout which promotes our blood circulation and burns fat. There are many types of weight loss solutions like diet guide which helps to maintain weight. My friend is using a livre r�gime slimming guide which helps to maintain weight.


What is your point? We are on a forum promoting weight gain and getting fat and you talk about how loosing it?
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