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Based on my experiences in the trans community, chaser has become more of a negative term used to broadly describe someone (usually a straight male) who is attracted to a single thing about you, usually one that's taboo within society, but sees you as more of a sexual object than a person.

As an example, within the trans community, a chaser refers to a straight male who wants to have sex with a pre-op transwoman because he finds the thought of a girl with a penis hot, but isn't interested in anything besides the sexual component and will often resort to deceitful methods in the process.

So yeah, not surprised the word is being shown in a more negative light

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TendraelUmbra:
Based on my experiences in the trans community, chaser has become more of a negative term used to broadly describe someone (usually a straight male) who is attracted to a single thing about you, usually one that's taboo within society, but sees you as more of a sexual object than a person.

As an example, within the trans community, a chaser refers to a straight male who wants to have sex with a pre-op transwoman because he finds the thought of a girl with a penis hot, but isn't interested in anything besides the sexual component and will often resort to deceitful methods in the process.

So yeah, not surprised the word is being shown in a more negative light


Actually I'm a trans woman and I have no issues with so called "chasers". They're literally just people who find it hot that you're trans. That's a positive thing. Sometimes the person is just sexualy attracted to you, like anyone can be, and sometimes they're attracted to you AND want to have romance. Being a chaser says almost zero about someone's personality. Spare me your fake outrage.

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TendraelUmbra:
Based on my experiences in the trans community, chaser has become more of a negative term used to broadly describe someone (usually a straight male) who is attracted to a single thing about you, usually one that's taboo within society, but sees you as more of a sexual object than a person.

As an example, within the trans community, a chaser refers to a straight male who wants to have sex with a pre-op transwoman because he finds the thought of a girl with a penis hot, but isn't interested in anything besides the sexual component and will often resort to deceitful methods in the process.

So yeah, not surprised the word is being shown in a more negative light

Hey Its May:
Actually I'm a trans woman and I have no issues with so called "chasers". They're literally just people who find it hot that you're trans. That's a positive thing. Sometimes the person is just sexualy attracted to you, like anyone can be, and sometimes they're attracted to you AND want to have romance. Being a chaser says almost zero about someone's personality. Spare me your fake outrage.

Thank you for speaking up. I'm not trans but I am insecure in a lot of ways but what you have said helps a lot. Thank you!

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Estell:
Is there someone who can tell me more about this?

ApronDoubleBelly:
YouTube has some videos on the topic. All the speakers seem
like they are just compartmentalizing fat women. They mistake lust and curiosity for genuine attraction. Its insulting.

Personally a " chaser " of anything means it's a fantasy fling they want to endulge and they aren't interested in anything solid. So, I wouldn't want one. A man who is a fat admirer or weight either way isn't a factor in his attraction is a better target. These are some warning signs:

**Ogling

They feel a fat woman is desperate for attention and stare inappropriately. They lick lips, making moaning noises look up and down. They don't try to hide this behavior. They wrongfully think its a compliment. Its gross.

**Inappropriate compliments

They feel big women are insecure complimenting their body will fast track them to your bed.
They'll verbalize their attractions to " fat, big curvy voluptuous"women . They use terms like"more to hold", "cushion for the pushing". Too sexual.
The nerve , how would this sound if a guy walked up to a fit woman in a bar and said " I love a thin/ fit woman. How everything is well proportioned and balances. Easier to handle ( during sex)" Right? He'd be slapped. Its rude to comment on the body to people you don't know intimately.

**Other comments are offensives

"Fat girls give better bj
"..........better at sex"
"..........are nicer/ not so materialistic"
" ...I like big butts/ breast/ belly"
So okay you're calling fat girls a cheap date easy to bang and she'll thank you for it like a moron? Thanks..no thanks

***They berate thin women

Its not cool for men to group anyone women based on looks. That " thin b**ch could be the big woman's bestie. Again they think large women are so insecure berating another will flatter them.

Narcissistic conversation/ Fat Messiah

When they speak its all about what they want/ like instead of what they can offer to you and a relationship. The big person is just an object for their gratification.
It's all about how the chubby person please their eye, makes them feel superior. They think they're the best thing to happen to the obese person. I call them " Fat Messiah", saving all fatties

That's my list . I'm sure others disagree but if a man does this... I run.

littlejohnboy:
Well said. Lots to consider even for Fat Admirers.


I 100% agree with ApronDoubleBelly. I won't argue terminology, but the key factor in all of this is respect. Being attracted to fat people in and of itself obviously doesn't make one an objectifier. However, seeing someone as an easy target, overgeneralizing, false flattery, and only caring about how you can use that person for your own gratification certainly puts you in the "jerk" if not "narcissist" category.

There's nothing wrong with a purely sexual encounter (vs. a relationship) but even a one night stand can and should involve a mutual respect for one another.

Someone mentioned "fake outrage." That's not what this is. It's demanding the basic respect every human being deserves.

There's nothing wrong with flirting, admiring, or liking to be admired. These things in and of themselves don't make you a creeper. Being a manipulator for your own gain with no regard for the other person does.

how to recognize a chubby chaser2 weeks

Estell:
Is there someone who can tell me more about this?

ApronDoubleBelly:
YouTube has some videos on the topic. All the speakers seem
like they are just compartmentalizing fat women. They mistake lust and curiosity for genuine attraction. Its insulting.

Personally a " chaser " of anything means it's a fantasy fling they want to endulge and they aren't interested in anything solid. So, I wouldn't want one. A man who is a fat admirer or weight either way isn't a factor in his attraction is a better target. These are some warning signs:

**Ogling

They feel a fat woman is desperate for attention and stare inappropriately. They lick lips, making moaning noises look up and down. They don't try to hide this behavior. They wrongfully think its a compliment. Its gross.

**Inappropriate compliments

They feel big women are insecure complimenting their body will fast track them to your bed.
They'll verbalize their attractions to " fat, big curvy voluptuous"women . They use terms like"more to hold", "cushion for the pushing". Too sexual.
The nerve , how would this sound if a guy walked up to a fit woman in a bar and said " I love a thin/ fit woman. How everything is well proportioned and balances. Easier to handle ( during sex)" Right? He'd be slapped. Its rude to comment on the body to people you don't know intimately.

**Other comments are offensives

"Fat girls give better bj
"..........better at sex"
"..........are nicer/ not so materialistic"
" ...I like big butts/ breast/ belly"
So okay you're calling fat girls a cheap date easy to bang and she'll thank you for it like a moron? Thanks..no thanks

***They berate thin women

Its not cool for men to group anyone women based on looks. That " thin b**ch could be the big woman's bestie. Again they think large women are so insecure berating another will flatter them.

Narcissistic conversation/ Fat Messiah

When they speak its all about what they want/ like instead of what they can offer to you and a relationship. The big person is just an object for their gratification.
It's all about how the chubby person please their eye, makes them feel superior. They think they're the best thing to happen to the obese person. I call them " Fat Messiah", saving all fatties

That's my list . I'm sure others disagree but if a man does this... I run.

littlejohnboy:
Well said. Lots to consider even for Fat Admirers.

HanselsWitch:
I 100% agree with ApronDoubleBelly. I won't argue terminology, but the key factor in all of this is respect. Being attracted to fat people in and of itself obviously doesn't make one an objectifier. However, seeing someone as an easy target, overgeneralizing, false flattery, and only caring about how you can use that person for your own gratification certainly puts you in the "jerk" if not "narcissist" category.

There's nothing wrong with a purely sexual encounter (vs. a relationship) but even a one night stand can and should involve a mutual respect for one another.

Someone mentioned "fake outrage." That's not what this is. It's demanding the basic respect every human being deserves.

There's nothing wrong with flirting, admiring, or liking to be admired. These things in and of themselves don't make you a creeper. Being a manipulator for your own gain with no regard for the other person does.


So right in so many ways. Very smart and perceptive.

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There is so much negativity in the world today - anything and everything can be seen in this light. If you've had negative experiences like some of the previous writers in this forum, then this is very real for them. The challenge is to work toward a more positive outlook and life. Having said that - it is really tough especially in today's world of hate and divisiveness to do this. I struggle with it every day - but most days end up stressing the positive.

While I cannot change the experiences people have had - I can offer new much more positive experiences. I absolutely love to look at and talk to larger women who are positive and smart. I love their spirit, mind and body. Lovely on the outside and lovely on the inside. And I have never treated anyone badly. Much more the opposite. So, perhaps there are at least a few good chubby chasers out there.

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Hey Its May:
Actually I'm a trans woman and I have no issues with so called "chasers". They're literally just people who find it hot that you're trans. That's a positive thing. Sometimes the person is just sexualy attracted to you, like anyone can be, and sometimes they're attracted to you AND want to have romance. Being a chaser says almost zero about someone's personality. Spare me your fake outrage.


I'm literally just parroting the opinions of hetero trans women I know, though I will say that based on those conversations, the term chaser is generally used to describe someone who is only interested in you sexually for the "chick with a dick" aspect. I have no experience with chasers myself, since I'm a transbian.
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