ReanimatorBob:
I'm in a committed relationship that's been going on for two years now. I love this person from the bottom of my heart, and will be with her forever. She's a little bigger, but I dont mind in the slightest.
But one day, I mentioned the fact I like bigger girls, and brought up the idea of gaining. She's against it. She actually wants to lose weight. However, this is now a bit of a sore subject for us, and it's frustrating not to want the same thing for sure, and even more so that I can't enjoy the belly she has right now without her feeling bad about her weight.
She means the world to me, more than anything, so I can't and won't make her do anything she doesn't want, even though I want it really bad. I was wondering what you guys would do in this situation
Chances are she's evaluating the relationship at this point to. Now that you've revealed your preference there's 2 scenarios at play here. At worst she now thinks you're a freak of some kind. At best she's now thinking you will no longer find her attractive if she loses weight. Neither option bodes well for the relationship. If you want it "really bad" your own frustration will just get worse over time. Maybe you can both pretend the subject never came up and go about your lives. At the end of the day it doesn't matter what we would do. None of us can pretend to understand the dynamics of your relationship.