Fat experiences

Irl feeders & feedees

Married smiley

Wife went balloon, then heavy diet down, then "oh now I can eat" up. Since she went down she's been under my enabling hand on and off.

Since about a year she knows I like her bigger. We do belly rubs, belly holding, hand feeding at times, talking about rewards for gaining X lbs, etc.

It's a delicate dance. Me taking the spoon and feeding her ice cream when she is busy: cute. My showing her my excitement when she asks for food; she finds it creepy.

Lot of habituating work, moving her points of reference, and moving the goal posts
5 years