Submission and domination

Help starting out

FloralFeedee:
I really want to be submissive with my husband and he has said he would like.to dominate me. But neither is if really knows where to go from there.
He doesnt know about my fetish either but I'm hoping I can gently introduce it via some sub/dom play.
Does anyone have any tips on some good beginner sub/dom type play, that is not super feederism centered?


First, lay down two safe words right away. One for slow down/take it easy, one for full stop. A lot of the struggle of a dom getting into being a dom for the first time is worrying that they're going too far, when they're partner wants to get roughed up or degraded or whatever even more. Having to keep asking if someone is ok can ruin the mood.

Watch some bdsm porn, make a list of things you want to try, and talk about it well before hand, that way when you're ready to go you can just go at it. Then talk about it after when you're done.

Also, have your partner read up on how to perform a stage slap to the face. A good loud slap can blow your tits off, but an actually aggressive and poorly aimed slap can cause real damage.
5 years