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I'm new to the feeder community and so far I really enjoy it. I like the idea of getting bigger and being confident in my body cause I'm big and beautiful. My boyfriend is a feeder and I've been learning more and more with his help but I didn't realize that he looks at feeder porn 24/7. I get I put pictures out and everything cause I want it to be enjoyed but I didn't think he was looking at other girls all the time. I'm trying not to sound crazy cause I don't care if he looks at other feedees and whatever when I'm gone and he wants to rub one off but i was in bed next to him trying to sleep and he is just looking at these girls. I confronted him about it and he got angry saying I'm making a big deal cause it's nothing but he doesn't get it hurts me when he'd rather look at other girls when I'm right next to him or in the room. Is this a normal guy/feeder thing? I already feel self conscious about my body and scars cause I'm not like other feedees and it kills me knowing he does this cause I think he will find or wants someone else and I'll be alone and damaged. Help I just need to talk it out and advice.
4 years

Relationship advice

I'm not sure how to help but I'm a transgender lesbian, but I'd just tell him that it makes you feel like you aren't enough for him maybe? I'm not the best at advise but I at least want to help a little if I can 😸.
4 years

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He says it's no big deal that he just looks to keep up with new pictures and that kind of sucks too cause he wants to keep up with the gains of other girls but he says to chill it's not like he is talking to these girls. I don't know I just wanted to see if casually looking at feedees is normal?
4 years

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I'd say if they're friends and you know it, it's completely normal otherwise I'd be careful.
4 years

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Topofthescale78:
I mean I think any feeder is generally curious about people in the community. I understand wanting to keep up with the gains because there is something so magical about it. It is addicting but more importantly is if you take issue he needs to respect that boundary and curtail his viewing to when you are not there.


I'm hoping he will understand that. It's making me go crazy and paranoid and honestly making me feel inadequate and ugly. But he says he loves me and it's not a big deal. I'm just so scared he will find someone else and I'm stuck here alone all broken and scarred with no one to love me. Its my worst fear and it eats at me
It doesn't help I've hit a wall with gaining too.
4 years

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He also shouldn't do it right in front of you that's just cruel.
4 years

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I will say I was asleep and saw it and confronted him about it tonight. I will say I have some fault because I wanted to confirm what I saw and looked at his history which does not help my case but I need the confirmation or he'd just say I was crazy and accusing him of nothing
4 years

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I don't think it's at all unusual, even for men who love and are attracted to their partners, to look at pictures of other women. I do think it's disrespectful and inappropriate for him to be doing it in your presence, especially since you've voices your feelings.
All of this aside, please don't feel inadequate. You're not. You have every right to be treated with kindness and respect. If this relationship doesn't succeed for whatever reason, you will find love again. I'm not saying you should dump him over this, but don't settle for less than you deserve.
4 years

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pet sounds:
I don't think it's at all unusual, even for men who love and are attracted to their partners, to look at pictures of other women. I do think it's disrespectful and inappropriate for him to be doing it in your presence, especially since you've voices your feelings.
All of this aside, please don't feel inadequate. You're not. You have every right to be treated with kindness and respect. If this relationship doesn't succeed for whatever reason, you will find love again. I'm not saying you should dump him over this, but don't settle for less than you deserve.

This is what I needed to hear thank you
4 years

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Looking at others when he's right next to you is quite a big no-no in my book, especially if he knows how it's making you feel.
4 years
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