First reply ever but I feel like it’s relevant here. On vacation I took a woman out I’d never met, this was last weekend, she is a large women 440 @ 5’4”

She was gorgeous and told me she decided a year ago she was going to enjoy food, life, and not the gym anymore.

She has gained over 100 pounds in a short time and loves her body. As did I!!!!! She was super open about her path to this decision but It has come with work around issues. She gets winded very easy, shoes are harder to put on etc,

I asked her if she had plans to stop her “enjoyment” she said not sure how anymore, I love my food, eat what I want, yeah it’s harder but I don’t mind it.

Watching her walk, do simple tasks, us trying to get seated at a restaurant all were just a bit more taxing. So I completely get your positions here ladies. Yes it’s my preference to feed, grow, love and admire you, but I don’t walk in your shoes

Do what feels right I guess