Extreme obesity

You are right to be concerned about her health. Is she very big right now? Is she gaining? How determined to get immobile is she? Is this something she wants to accomplish with you or is she willing to do this no matter what?

I feel like we need more information.

Does she realize what being immobile entails like being catheterized or being diapered for both pee and poop as well as skin breakdowns and being bathed and so on

This may be right. Just agree to short-term goals for now (150 kgs first), and see how she feels as she reaches them.

I suspect once she has a few health concerns or problems, she may back off from her original idea.

Still, if you are uncertain about going to her immobility goal, express your opinion. Then, you can commit to a smaller goal, and see how things go in increments. This gives you a way out if you do not enjoy this, and it also gives her a way out.

Best to you.

Agreed. Check back in a few pounds with her.

How do you feel about the way she is behaving,?

Surely, you can see how unrealistic that wedding day goal is. I think you both should enjoy the fantasy of all this because I don't think you have seriously considered all this.

In the meantime, enjoy feeding her and watching her bloom into a huge beauty!

Best to you both.

Of course, you can always "punish" her for not reaching her goals. And that can be fun fantasy as well.

That is hundreds of pounds more than the fattest woman on record, so that is not a reasonable goal. It might be a nice fantasy to be immobile, but do you really want to marry someone who will need someone to bathe and clean her, and change her diapers? Not having children, not going anywhere in public?

cornsnake, it's all very well being happy with her at any weight but she wants to be fatter. Do you not want her fatter? There are men who would want her fatter. I don't know if you are just trying to sound virtuous for loving her at any size but really the point of being Feeder and Feedee is you both want it. If you are just going along with her desires JUST to please her then it's not mutual.

Yes obviously it's bad for her health to get that fat but she is weighing up her desire to get fatter with her health concerns. You really don't seem to excited by the idea of her getting fatter and only concerned with her happiness and her health.

Some people here might think that entirely right that your only concern is for her needs and desires and not your own but in a relationship she would be wanting someone who actually desires her to get fatter.

It's gotta be a two way mutual thing. Clearly the balance is difficult if she's the one getting fatter and you're the one running around for her but the desire for her to get fatter has got to be something you both share.

So in conclusion I actually think it's right for her to get fat but not for you. You might need to consider separating so that she can spend her life with someone who shares her desire.