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I'll assume you're not looking for a gender-specific viewpoint and chime in.

I'm in decent shape and like to think I have a healthy relationship with food. Some would probably say I'm a bit too strict with what I eat, but whilst I like to control what goes in my mouth I've never had any clinical/psychological issues with food. My strictness isn't driven by a desire for control, but because I have a relatively slow metabolism and frankly just can't get away with eating crap.

I've never remotely considered that this strictness with food is related to being a feeder. For me that's just a sexual quirk/fetish that otherwise doesn't inform my life or vice versa.

The two things do clash, though. What may have personally started out for me as a vanity thing has matured into a matter of health. I believe that humans are incredibly versatile and athletic physical animals, capable of moving in an extraordinarily diverse and beautiful manner. Just look at gymnasts, parkour etc. This is what I want for myself, and yet what turns me on is women gaining weight. It's a frustrating dichotomy that I have yet to resolve.

Weight gain is a fetish that is typically exclusive to a persons gender-oriented sexuality.

Having an exclusive fetish for girls getting fat and then gaining weight oneself would be like growing a vagina or boobs (both figuratively and literally).

I'm a male gainer/foodee/feedee, and in my time here I've only encountered one female feeder who I actually knew for a fact was anorexic. I didn't get along too well with her because her fascination was partly borne of disgust. But anyway, I've also encountered dozens of other female feeders who appeared, at least outwardly, to have totally healthy relationships with food.

My two cents.

i'm a female feeder and fa of a normal weight but i have absolutely no food issues whatsoever, i love food! actually, i eat a lot and have a huge sweet tooth, i just don't tend to gain a lot of weight cause i keep pretty busy. but yea girl, you're not alone in being a normal sized but non-anorexic female feeder!

I know this question is directed to feeders but I think that my experience as a feedee may also be relevant

I think some people just have an obsession with weight, and from this an eating disorder or a sexual fetish can develop.

I've been both ways, but I don't believe that my fat fetish was born from my eating disorder. Rather, I believe that they both originate from an obsession with weight which I've had since I was a child (which was originally fat positive). They are two different reflections of my fat fascination which were determined through life experiences and social environment. I sometimes think that my eating disorder was not only a deprivation of food but also of sexuality.

In a way I'm not surprised by the number of people I see on here who have/had an eating disorder, but ofcourse the majority of people on here have and always have had a healthy relationship with food and so only have the fat obsession through the fetish, which is definitely the best way to be

I'm a feeder, I'm fine with food though I have bad problems with acid reflux so to a degree I have to be careful with what I eat and how much/etc. I do love food though, not anorexic at all. Chocolate is forever a favourite of mine.

Ok, I'm going to add a different twist to this...

As many of us are, my fat desires were preprogrammed in my DNA. As I came of age and began to focus on girls, my fat desires emerged as a feeder. What young FA hasn't fantasized about a particular girl getting plumper, right?

In high school my fascination with weight or weight gain added another element. You see, it was here that I began to wrestle and this included cutting or making weight for a particular weight class. I started wrestling at 119 lb class and also wrestled at 126 and 135. We weighed in before every practice and after every practice six days a week. Making weight meant skipping meals or having just a piece of fruit. Not allowing yourself to enjoy Thanksgiving or Christmas dinners and wearing layers of heavy clothing in practice to sweat off water weight off.

In my mid twenties my relationship with food changed and my fat desires transformed with it. I found myself wanting to gain weight and enjoying my extra heft.

Ive had a lot of experience with eating disorders, having both anorexia and bulimia myself and studying psychology, hoping to one day be a health psychologis in that area. I would say that there are quite a few ways that feederism and eating disorders can interact. For me i believe i was born with a "feedee disposition" i overate as a child and used food as comfort. I also would stuff my clothes with pillows on occasions and dream about being incredibly obese. My eating disorders stemmed from a mixture of depression, stress and pressure from society and my dad in particular to lose weight. I was only 12 at the time so i wanted to fit in and be liked. over time i realised that starving myself and throwing up what i ate made me miserable so now i am learning to accept my body. Before i found FF i though i was a wierdo for thinking of gaining, eating excessively or even being comfortable with my normal weight. in the past year i have gained 10kg (22lbs), i have a BMI in the obese range, and am quite happy. And happiness is what matters in my opinion.
However in some ways gaining to the point of immobility could be similar to anorexia if it stems from psychological issues. if one is depressed and in a state of giving up on life, then thinks that they might as well eat untill they cant move and eventually die, it could be compared to not eating as a form of self destruction. I believe weightloss and gain can both be either positive or negative depending on the driving force behind them.
Then you could also have (which i think was the main point of the thread) feeders with eating disorders, feeding someone else instead of themselves. This i would expect to find, as people with anorexia and bulimia often take their food obsessions to the point where they will purposely cook food for other people and not eat a bit them selves, or cook and then throw away food. its a kind of test of their self control. I can imagine that feeding someone else would give them a sort of excuse not to eat, in their minds.
Anyway thats my overly long view on the topic. sorry if its confusing, getting stuff out of my head and into words can be difficult for me somethimes

Well, im a size 8 uk dress size, and weight about 112 pounds, but i am very much so into feeding, love watching/the thought of my man getting bigger, hell, id stuff him all day long if i could, then have alot of fun in the bedroom afterwoods. But i deffinatly do not!! have issues with food, i love food, i love treating myself and partner to meals out, and i can sometimes out do him, though i dont like to do that too often, becasue i want him bigger than me. but nope, no issues, i just have a good metabolism and so i dont gein weight apart from when i was pregnant with my daughter.
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its nice to knwo there are female feeders out there who are similar to myself!.. its mainly comercialised as a male thing, and women are the BBWs not very often there are BHM with skinny feeder gf's
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I definetly disagree with this, healthy food is soooo much more expensive than unhealthy food, that is why low income areas are more likely to have a high percent of overweight citizens than higher income areas.

I remember one time working in the city and only having $5 to buy lunch with and looking everywhere for something healthy but all the salads, sushi, rolls etc. were atleast $7-10 so I had to settle for a whopper burger for $4.95 because it was literally the only thing that would fill me up and I could afford.

also the other day I bought a big whole watermleon and it cost me 20$ !!!!! I could have bought 10 x 2$ bags of chips for that ! and at Mcdonalds the other day I noticed salads are like 9$ yet a burger is $5

and not even starting on all the 1$ deals at mcdonalds, I mean you get get a cheeseburger and small fries for $2, what else could you get for that price that would fill you up that much ?


bit of a rant but juat really annoys me when they go on and on about the obesity crisis and how were all such drains on the health care system yet a watermelon costs $20 pppfttt what a joke