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My Wife has known some time that I like her weight/ curves, but now she has started to state that when I compliment her, "your beautifull" she keeps adding that "of course you do, you like me fat." how can I help her to understand? to subtly argue without being in her face?
How can I help her realise that she is hotter now she has gained. She gained while going out with me and then more when she moved in and alot when she was pregnant. Lost some for our wedding and and now is pregnant again. This is a unique oportunity for her to develop but she contradics my compliments. Her mother is probably anorexic as she is that thin and eats just a few mouthfulls a day. And she is always commenting on her weight and telling her weight loss tips, she even told her she should just eat salad for the entire pregnacy. I am angry, but how do I overcome this to stur her into taking the steps to enjoying herself and her curves?

Thank you, Beckie78 and Bella.

@Bella what do you mean when you question, Why does she think you like her fat?

She also says that I "like fat women" in the same argument. What does that mean coming from her?
If it’s a disgust thing then how could I question what her mindset is? / challenge her point of view? Without making her angry or scared or think I'm a nut-job?
How do I tackle "MAINSTREEM" when what I think of as mainstream is "curves are desired" Bigger the better. Every single man I know either couldn't care less or does prefer the curves and body their women have or develop after a few years relationship.

@ Beckie78 I like that, I should just keep on keeping on, and I will. But I think that she needs me to be even more subtle than that, I like her softness, she sees through that, unless I'm missing something, any ideas how I can achieve this.
Or is there just some way unbeknown to me that is tried and tested foolproof, unbeatable way to bring her around to loving my attentions and give her that confidence to throw caution to the wind.
She married me after all

Thank you so very much. This is proper thought generating advice. I can definatly see your angle now. Thanks

I think Kittycatgirl may have a point. There might be some mentality that makes her feel fat is wrong, and that being liked for it is wrong as well. I bumped into that wall a couple of times before myself. Somehow saying to my gf that she was beautiful because of her fat didn't make her feel beautiful, but it made her more comfortable with me.

just my 2 cents