If your family really care about your autonomy, they'll respect your choices in who you're attracted to. No point in living your life trying to please them forever. They're not the ones who are going to be there for you after you've moved out and are living away from them making your own life.
Would you rather be with someone you love each night, or would you prefer to lie alone in bed and think 'well at least I'm pleasing my family'. Choice is obvious to me. You're 30 and more than old enough for them to not have any control over how you live your life and what people you're into, and they have to respect that.
Any rational family member isn't going to throw a raging fit over it. And if they disrespect your partner, you need to stand up to them and stand your ground for the person you love.
Would you rather be with someone you love each night, or would you prefer to lie alone in bed and think 'well at least I'm pleasing my family'. Choice is obvious to me. You're 30 and more than old enough for them to not have any control over how you live your life and what people you're into, and they have to respect that.
Any rational family member isn't going to throw a raging fit over it. And if they disrespect your partner, you need to stand up to them and stand your ground for the person you love.
7 years