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prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 months

So i've been hanging out with this girl a fair bit: great personality, really cute. I can tell she's interested and I really like her

However, she's 5 foot tall and about 50 kilo's (slim) and like pretty much everyone here , I like my girls to have some chub: a little cushion for the pushin if you know what I'm saying ahaha

I really like her but physically I find she's just a bit skinny for me. Needs an extra 10/15 kilos, ideally. Is it unrealistic to get involved with the intention of encouraging her to gain weight/fattening her up? I mean she does seem the open minded type. If so, how do you suggest I bring this up?

prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 months

Chubbybo:
So i've been hanging out with this girl a fair bit: great personality, really cute. I can tell she's interested and I really like her

However, she's 5 foot tall and about 50 kilo's (slim) and like pretty much everyone here , I like my girls to have some chub: a little cushion for the

pushin if you know what I'm saying ahaha

I really like her but physically I find she's just a bit skinny for me. Needs an extra 10/15 kilos, ideally. Is it unrealistic to get involved with the intention of encouraging her to gain weight/fattening her up? I mean she does seem the open minded type. If so, how do you suggest I bring this up?


Continue hanging out building a relationship that is usually the best way but still taking things slow not committing anything g to her full force so she doesn't get the wrong idea.

Not knowing your exact preference with this fetish. Do you just like a little bit chubby girls, do you like them overweight and cute or would you really like it if you found the girl like you mentioned and wish she was chubby already and would get nice and Fat over time?

Girls/women typically gain weight as they age a bit but if it is a deal breaker that this smaller and thinner girl that you like on a many levels never gets any bigger....I say tread lightly. I just know from experience that I like my women plump to overweight when I was a bit younger and that has only gone up as I aged as well as many other guys on this site and now I like my wife Fatter and fatter....which is a good thing if your wife keeps getting fatter but if she is skinny and only gets a little chubby it leaves one craving for more and more weight.

So knowing what I know now.....my wife happens to be heavier than I thought I wanted or liked many years ago....but currently she is probably 100 lbs. less than I would love to see on her figure.
Keeping in mind I used to think chubby to chunky girls were my ideal....my taste has certainly gone up and up and up over the years....just so Ethan g to honk about.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 months

Totally agree. You gotta say it. In whatever way feels best. It's hard I've been there. I'm very open about my attraction to Big girls so there's that base going into any relationship.

I struggle with sharing the feederism parts the most. That's been reveled to less then half my partners and only slightly indulged with one. (It wasn't her kink at all) our relationship didn't end because of it, but many other things. Long story short.

If you have a "base weight" or size preferences of a woman that you wish to be with maybe shoot for girls like that?

Idk I'm just thinking out loud here.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 months

Chubbybo:
So i've been hanging out with this girl a fair bit: great personality, really cute. I can tell she's interested and I really like her

However, she's 5 foot tall and about 50 kilo's (slim) and like pretty much everyone here , I like my girls to have some chub: a little cushion for the pushin if you know what I'm saying ahaha

I really like her but physically I find she's just a bit skinny for me. Needs an extra 10/15 kilos, ideally. Is it unrealistic to get involved with the intention of encouraging her to gain weight/fattening her up? I mean she does seem the open minded type. If so, how do you suggest I bring this up?


If you do this against her will, or without telling her you are a garbage human being. If shes not into gaining or anything like that then Id say this would be almost as bad as rape. So take that for what its worth.

You can talk to her, tell her your interests and if shes into it and wants to try it- Then great! But you also cant brow beat her or guilt her into to it.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 months

If you have a "base weight" or size preferences of a woman that you wish to be with maybe shoot for girls like that?

Idk I'm just thinking out loud here.[/quote]


This sounds like simple advice.....but
it is totally true. You should look for women that are heavier and attractive first and then see about the many other characteristics as you get to know them. It should be kind of easy because what generally attracts most guys or girls for to the opposite sex is the physical first and then you can find out all the other important stuff you are looking for.
So aim "not high". .......but heavy!

prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 months

Chubbybo:
So i've been hanging out with this girl a fair bit: great personality, really cute. I can tell she's interested and I really like her

However, she's 5 foot tall and about 50 kilo's (slim) and like pretty much everyone here , I like my girls to have some chub: a little cushion for the pushin if you know what I'm saying ahaha

I really like her but physically I find she's just a bit skinny for me. Needs an extra 10/15 kilos, ideally. Is it unrealistic to get involved with the intention of encouraging her to gain weight/fattening her up? I mean she does seem the open minded type. If so, how do you suggest I bring this up?


Don't let what could be a great love or great friend slip away!

Our physical "ideals" are only part of the formula for a successful relationship.

Years ago, I, like you, met someone who was perfect in every way -- except way way too thin. But we could talk and laugh for hours.

Fortunately for me, once she was in a long-term relationship with me, she gained a bit and that was wonderful! But even if she hadn't, I can't imagine not having been with her.

See what you can do to hang on to her. I don't think you will regret it.

The other suggestions here of waiting and seeing if she gains weight and possibly introducing "foodplay" and weight gain to sexuality, all those are good.

No matter what, however, don't give up on her because of her appearance. There is much more to the human sexual experience than just the visual.

Besides, we will all change over time, grow fat, grow thin, grow wrinkly, grow bald, whatever. The ability to see past appearance to that shining wonder inside her eyes, to the esssence of her soul, that is much more precious than a few extra pounds on her.

Best to you.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!4 months

Be completely open and honest up front.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!2 months

I'm into BHM's, but I started dating my bf when he was ripped because I loved his personality. I told him about my fetish and he was actually really accepting and wanted to gain some weight. I would just tell her what you're interested in and see what she thinks, but don't pressure her to be involved in your fetish if she does not want to be. Maybe she will open up to you too? Good lucksmiley

prospective girlfriend dilemma!2 months

Chubbybo:
So i've been hanging out with this girl a fair bit: great personality, really cute. I can tell she's interested and I really like her

However, she's 5 foot tall and about 50 kilo's (slim) and like pretty much everyone here , I like my girls to have some chub: a little cushion for the pushin if you know what I'm saying ahaha

I really like her but physically I find she's just a bit skinny for me. Needs an extra 10/15 kilos, ideally. Is it unrealistic to get involved with the intention of encouraging her to gain weight/fattening her up? I mean she does seem the open minded type. If so, how do you suggest I bring this up?

GrowingLoveHandles:
Don't let what could be a great love or great friend slip away!

Our physical "ideals" are only part of the formula for a successful relationship.

Years ago, I, like you, met someone who was perfect in every way -- except way way too thin. But we could talk and laugh for hours.

Fortunately for me, once she was in a long-term relationship with me, she gained a bit and that was wonderful! But even if she hadn't, I can't imagine not having been with her.

See what you can do to hang on to her. I don't think you will regret it.

The other suggestions here of waiting and seeing if she gains weight and possibly introducing "foodplay" and weight gain to sexuality, all those are good.

No matter what, however, don't give up on her because of her appearance. There is much more to the human sexual experience than just the visual.

Besides, we will all change over time, grow fat, grow thin, grow wrinkly, grow bald, whatever. The ability to see past appearance to that shining wonder inside her eyes, to the esssence of her soul, that is much more precious than a few extra pounds on her.

Best to you.
I eliminate guys who are not feedees and wanting to get huge as potential bfs. Yes, it limits my dating pool, but I'm not going to spend my life miserable with a thin guy, or a BHM who's not a feedee.

prospective girlfriend dilemma!2 months

Farleysmom:
I eliminate guys who are not feedees and wanting to get huge as potential bfs. Yes, it limits my dating pool, but I'm not going to spend my life miserable with a thin guy, or a BHM who's not a feedee.


I learned this lesson the hard way after like ill-advisedly trying to to maintain a relationship with a woman who called me a "freak" and told me I "needed help" when I explained to her that I'm a feedee.

Never again will I date a non-feeder. Partially because, like you said, it's not worth the pain. Partially also because now I *am* dating a feeder that I'd better put a ring on, because I'll probably be 500 lbs by like 2019 >_>
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