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have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?6 months

Hi everyone,
Have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?

I discovered that I was attracted by BBW and gaining girls when I was 17 or so. Back then I felt ashamed about it. I didn't understood what it was. I have never really experienced feederism and wouldn't even have thought of telling a girl (although I'd love to be someone's feeder).
Now I'm 25 and I feel better about it because I know that if I'm interested by someone it's better to open myself. To live a good relationship you have to share your kinks with your partner. If she's not into it I'd look for the right person who shares the same fetish as I do and wouldn't engage myself in a long terms relationship.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?6 months

I used to feel that way too when I was younger and single, gross and kinda weird.

Then I fell in love with a chubby woman who was confident, but a little awkward about her size. Making her proud and happy about her obesity "cured" me of my discomfort with loving big fat people!

It's actually gone the other way around...she and I enjoy it a little when her fatness makes other people uncomfortable now!

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?6 months

Since I am from African descent and that I came from a culture where bigger women weren't subject to bodyshaming (quite the opposite! : you can travel miles away before to fall on some Westernized city in my family's homeland or from some subcommunity from whenever which diaspora settled out of Africa where both elders and men in general practising bodyshaming against skinny women aren't a predominant demography) , I never considered my lust for them like something wrong. Most everybody in my entourage know my passion for women isn't a matter of "size norms" - norms which changes anyway almost every single five-ten years - and that I'm not a thin-centered freak : I can overtly flirt, chill and date ladies whenever they are slim, athletic, chubby, lesser fat even extremely obese (and further rarely speaking, skinny women) . Many of them don't give a care about it simply because there has nothing to even care : some, unlikely, find me weird - bordeline mad - because of this to the point one of them once said that he prefers see me becoming gay instead flirt with "out-of-shape" women because he find that digusting. Nowadays, the few oppossed to my likes has done to argue with me because first I am a quite good debater and I know how to destructure your entire raison d'etre in a couple of comments. Also, because I am not insecure about what I really want, own or appreciate : because if I act like a low-key, that would maybe meant there have something of doubtful and wrong about what I hide.
We live in a predatory society. Even in more pacific societies, there have this proverb from my family's homeland which say : "a tiger doesn't have to justify his Tiger-ness" .

I strongly deconsider, personallly speaking, the mainstream use of "fetish" for expressing this drawn towards fat women and gaining women : any form of whatever sexual or aethetical attachment is properly a fetish : this word bear a disgracious innuado when we talk about Macrophilia, letting to insinuate these have something uncanny and abnormal, to marginalize. This prejudice-biased way of thought about the women's beauty merely deserve to be rejected, especially by the F.A. community.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?6 months

My own best girl friend - who's herself a hardcore-level foodie with obvious yet undecisive propensities to Feederism since she fantasize alot at the idea to getting very obese since long, but as so ambiguously speaking show off to be randomly drawn/revulsed simultaneously about her fear to lost her slimness from one part and the implications there were due overtime. Like I as often spoke in a few threads before - is aware about my leanings (without any specificity about it : she hate when I specifiy something, even when this is something she like) and even let me encouraged her both friendly - sometimes, substantially - at the time she once purpotedly sought to fatten up herself, with lesser to no success : to the point she was even willing to move on with me in a common apartment, to engage in a full-fledged Feeder/Feedee relationship with a guy she consider more like a little-brother-like figure rather a platonic affair just so that I can help her more proactively to achieve her goal.

A few of my female friends also noticed I have a tendency to compliment them more when they've gaining weight than when they lose it. And the list goes on and on.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?6 months

@SahX Yes I'm sorry, bad choice of words. I should speak about attraction for large women.
It's interesting because there are a lot of countries, not only african countries, that still has different beauty standards. I believe in central america or philipines for exemple. I'd love to speed a couple of months there to see what people think about all this, especially about our slim/athletic standards that media are trying to sell us.

@projectpolemics Are you still dating that girl? I think it's awesome when you both enjoy the way she changed her body and how you interact now in society.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?6 months

Are you still dating that girl? I think it's awesome when you both enjoy the way she changed her body and how you interact now in society.


I ended up marrying that girl and turning her into my fat princess! She eventually confessed her fantasy is to be the heaviest woman in Japan...
or at least as big as she can get.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?6 months

I have far, far too many kinks to bother feeling ashamed of any one in particular. I'm not into any of the ones that turn most people off upon hearing it, so I view fetishes as "diversified sexual taste"

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?6 months

SuperPieGuy:
@SahX Yes I'm sorry, bad choice of words. I should speak about attraction for large women.
It's interesting because there are a lot of countries, not only african countries, that still has different beauty standards. I believe in central america or philipines for exemple. I'd love to speed a couple of months there to see what people think about all this, especially about our slim/athletic standards that media are trying to sell us.

@projectpolemics Are you still dating that girl? I think it's awesome when you both enjoy the way she changed her body and how you interact now in society.


Yea, indeed. smiley
Beauty standards were various throughout the world.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?6 months

Are you still dating that girl? I think it's awesome when you both enjoy the way she changed her body and how you interact now in society.

projectpolemics:
I ended up marrying that girl and turning her into my fat princess! She eventually confessed her fantasy is to be the heaviest woman in Japan...
or at least as big as she can get.


I'm happy for you and wish you the best with your fat princess smiley I hope I'll find a girl like that some day!

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?5 months

Oftentimes I battle with odd feelings of shame in enjoyment of food, feeding, fat

Oftentimes I'm able to overcome them and express something accurate to my beliefs of food and fat.

people around me can take time to digest my suggestions, and behaviors, and people tuned into what is also in them will join in. I don't need to talk about it to live it with people! I'm definitely down to talk about it as well. We're people, and don't have to be one role

Some people just need exposure to an environment where food is not the enemy or something to control and they will arrive to the conclusion that food is a form of love if I allow a path to it and it's a feeling they want to grow.

If someone I don't know well has a challenge in their relationship with food, I don't want to force them into a way of thinking

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?5 months

I kinda am, since I get turned on by watching people eat themselfs to death without regret, but I dont give a shit, since its a secret, although I am sure my mom is kinda on to it, snooping through my internet history and such, good thing inkognito exists!

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?5 months

SuperPieGuy:
Hi everyone,
Have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?

I discovered that I was attracted by BBW and gaining girls when I was 17 or so. Back then I felt ashamed about it. I didn't understood what it was. I have never really experienced feederism and wouldn't even have thought of telling a girl (although I'd love to be someone's feeder).
Now I'm 25 and I feel better about it because I know that if I'm interested by someone it's better to open myself. To live a good relationship you have to share your kinks with your partner. If she's not into it I'd look for the right person who shares the same fetish as I do and wouldn't engage myself in a long terms relationship.

Rayne:
That's the nice thing about a fetish. It's something private and personal and that isn't most people's business. So, there is no need for approval or acceptance from the outside world. smiley
As long as you're happy and not harming/bothering anyone else, all is good.
There's stuff out there that's a looooot more f*cked up than what we do here, trust me.


I agree but we have to admit that it's hard to keep it private/secret when you walk around with a girl/man 100lbs heavier.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?5 months

fatgrllvr:
I don't think attraction to fat women is a fetish, any more than attraction to thin women or women with big boobs is a fetish. It's just an orientation that probably dates back to our early childhood (really early, in my case) and may even be inborn.


I'm very much in agreement with this - you don't hear people saying they have a 'skinny fetish', even though in most of our societies these days, being average/overweight is probably more common than being thin!

People are only ashamed to have fat partners or be attracted to fat people because they've internalised a lifetime of society being ridiculously fatphobic. If you can make an effort to get over that, not only will you feel more confident in your preferences, you'll probably be a better partner as well. I can guarantee, nobody wants to be dating someone who's embarrassed to be seen in public with them.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?5 months

I used to be really ashamed but it's taken about 10 years and I am learning to embrace who I am now. My weight has yoyo'd a lot in that time but now I am just learning to let go. There isn't anything to be ashamed of. Other people's comments about your weight are not your concern.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?5 months

Attraction to fat people on its own is definitely not a fetish.

The fetish is the thing where I desperately want somebody to dominate and force feed me until Iím housebound, and I will 100% never tell any of my friends the details of that lol.

Except for maybe the one whoís on feabie and either hasnít noticed my profile or drinks to forget my profile. I didnít see him because he wasnít in my filter, but apparently heís dating a friend of my feeder 😶, which we realized by accident when she recognized who I was talking about one time.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?5 months

fatgrllvr:
I don't think attraction to fat women is a fetish, any more than attraction to thin women or women with big boobs is a fetish. It's just an orientation that probably dates back to our early childhood (really early, in my case) and may even be inborn.

My enjoyment of light vore (talk/fantasy only) may qualify as a fetish, however. I'd just as soon not have this kink, but I'm not ashamed of it, since it stays in my head and I'd never harm anyone.


You're absolutely right and I couldn't agree more. What I meant about fetish for me is more feederism. Because that's not only something unconventional for people but it may seem weird to others. On the other hand, it's like you said. You don't have to share your fetish with anybody. It's just that it's hard to come up with this to a freshly met partner.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?5 months

Ashamed,, Not at all !!
Had always been curious about Feeder/Feedee
relationships. Over the past years I have realized
just how much I desire such a relationship.

Still looking for that special person.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?5 months

bellylover1999:
I kinda am, since I get turned on by watching people eat themselfs to death without regret, but I dont give a shit, since its a secret, although I am sure my mom is kinda on to it, snooping through my internet history and such, good thing inkognito exists!


Publicly yes, in private with other like minded awesome belly sutffers and inflaters - nope smiley

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?4 months

yes that'swhy I keep it in secret

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?4 months

I'm not ashamed of s h it. I love that Im a fat fetishist. It makes eating food and having sex more fun. In my experience, and having expressed my fetishy self to other people, it's really not that big of a deal to anyone else. This fetish sure SEEMS taboo, but if you're honest about it (to yourself and people that you're close to), you'll realize that most other people (which is where shame comes from?) don't care at all. PLUS everybody's got some "weird" preferences, fat fetish or not. Don't beat yourself up!

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?4 months

I wouldn't say ashamed of my preference. It can be annoying when people say " you only go for girls cos they are fat".

Yeah I do love bigger women and i'm a proud FA. I also have two plus sized pinup girls inked on my lower arms. A fat mermaid on the left and a fat hillbilly girl on my right lower arm.

But i'm also body positive so I see beauty in all sizes. It is annoying when people from outside our community label you as a fetishist and a creep.

So I tell them I see beauty in all sizes to avoid being branded a creep and a fetishist.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?4 months

Yeah, thus I haven't told anybody about my desire to get fat outside of fantasy feeder.

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?4 months

ChubbyTubby:
To be honest, I don�t consider being an FA a fetish. It�s just a preference. I can see the appeal of all sizes of women, I just happen to find larger women extra appealing.

However, I don�t tell many people about my preference because most people don�t understand it and might think I was nuts. In the same way I don�t talk about my other unusual interests unless I think they may be interested. An example would be my interest in cement dome homes. I like �em but most people think they�re ugly. Oh well.


well said smiley

have you ever felt ashamed of your fetish?4 months

Yes but here I can be myself
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