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Again, you're also kind, and I truly appreciate all the input, from considerations around footwear, to floor layout, and most importantly, enjoying the planning without panicking and driving myself crazy!

My mother, who has given up commenting on my weight years ago for the most part, asked if I was going to try to "size down" for the wedding. I'd be lying if I said that didn't hurt. It means even if she typically doesn't say it, deep down, she thinks a smaller version of me is a better version of me. I disagree. Also, it's my fiance's and my day, and he absolutely loves me, mind, body and soul. And that means every pound of my body, as long as I choose to be at this weight. Plus, we share a home! It's not like he doesn't know what I look like.

Another thing. At the reception you'll be whisked here and there for pictures and talking to everyone that you'll scarcely get time to eat. Plan ahead for that.

Such a beautiful sentiment. Truly, thank you.

If any super-sized women here are looking for formal wear, I found an incredible wedding dress at Loud Bodies. I have an extremely large mid-section, and I wasn't sure whether to order a 9X or 10X and get the shoulders/bust tailored, or to place a custom order. Loud Bodies has a consultant line, and I spoke with a very thoughtful representative who suggested customizing, because there's such a big difference between my bust measurement (60.5" ) and belly (101" ). I was very pleasantly surprised there was no additional cost for a custom order.

Congratulations! The best is yet to come!