A common thread on this blog is an argument, fought with ideological fervour, about what constitutes a "normal" adult female figure. The louder crowd insists that slender women are bizarre anomalies who ought to be force-fed into obese conformity because the rotund figure of the average Australian woman is "normal" and thus ideal.

The other side holds the view that the human body is meant to be lean and fit and disparages the fat lobby's attempts to re-rate our body shape standards to suit an unattractive mean. I'm with the second group. The average Australian woman is 5'4" (163 centimetres) and a size 14. These dimensions may be typical but they do not make a woman normal, they make her FAT.

Arguing that societal norms ought be drawn from the commonplace without regard for merit is completely indefensible and we wouldn't apply the same logic to any other circumstances. Crime is a common occurrence but being a bad one, we continue to fight it. Same goes for fat. Excess weight is an undesirable condition from every aspect. Pretending otherwise doesn't change that. It just encourages complacency and dress size creep.
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So, no. A fat body is not a normal body. It's an aberration that we countenance to the detriment of our looks, health and self-esteem. Shifting the aesthetic goal posts to normalise a disproportionately high fat-to-muscle ratio on the basis of that figure type's ubiquity is equivalent to rewriting home building regulations to accommodate shoddy workmanship. Prevalence is no justification for acceptance. On average, Australians are not normal. We're fat. And if we don't start doing something about it soon, the Lucky Country will one day be better known as the Fugly Country.

* For those who want to know, I'm 5'9" (175 centimetres) and a size 12 but due to a fine boned frame and light musculature I ought to take my own advice and reduce to a size 10.

Phreak wrote:As for mostly what Mintie said, that can pretty much put my mind at ease, at least for now. I kinda forgot how fast food places and resraunts just throw their stuff away effortlessly. [I use to work in a catering place, there WOULD always be extra food that we would take some home; the rest we'd dump]

And thank you for no one really bashing my curiousity. Just as of late this was bothing me, and when I visit this site, where I usually come to enjoy myself, it's been bugging me in the back of my head.

Phreak wrote:
…Which I have been mulling over time and time again. I decided to finally come out of the closet with it and I hope I don’t get bashed to hard by everyone on the site.

Let me first say that I m a female FA, I do not want to gain myself; I just like to see it happen to other women [sorry guys], but I’m not a lesbian. I am usually a lurker on this site and never speak up because, well, only guys want to talk to me. I love the site’s picture and stories, and the few good people that don’t hate me for some strange reason.

But here is my problem, and I’m sorry if I start a war about it on here, or if it’s already been covered:

Don’t some of you feel bad about over eating and getting totally obese? I mean, there are people starving out there in third world countries and Africa or whatever, saying how people are dying of starvation.

I just find it a little weird that sometimes I get off on finding people with big bellies, feeding themselves until they are totally stuffed… but some days I feel like maybe what I have a fetish for is wrong. :[

Does anyone else know where I’m coming from? Anyone else feel this way? Is there a way I can stop feeling bad about the starving people but still enjoy seeing people over feed themselves? Like I said, it’s an internal conflict with myself, and I wonder if anyone else feels the same way and their thoughts or reassuring words.

I know I can’t end world hunger, but feeling bad about people starving and getting turned on by people stuffing themselves is now confusing me to the extreme…

[Again, sorry if I rubbed someone the wrong way. I didn’t mean to.]

herb wrote:
Do you think the food or money would go to third world countries otherwise?

Indeed, like, I wouldn't have a problem going out with someone slimmer, of course, but... I am just not going to be able to satisfy them there, in the bedroom, and I'd rather not let someone down and waste their time. =/ Odds are that they'll want it, and it's an extremely reasonable desire for them to have. I know it's not the primary key to the relationship, but it is an important part of it for so many people, and the likelihood of me being with someone who doesn't value it isn't so likely. They love it, you know? The connection, the intimacy. I can't make my body do something if the chemistry/etc isn't there, believe me, I've tried. =/

okapi wrote:
The fashion world is dictated by gay men who want their models to looks like young boys. Some, perhaps most, women apparently misinterpret this, thinking that men in general want women to look like young boys. Statistically, women want to be thinner than men want them to be.