Helper wrote
I don't really believe in judging most people over most things, I am a big believer in "to each their own", so to me most forms of negative judging are regressive. Call that "not having balls" if you'd like, but I call it the path to a more accepting society.
Helper, my original post was not directed at you, simply a general response to what I consider to be a prevalent attitude among many FA's.
You say you find most negative forms of judging regressive. Does it bother you that most fat people are judged several hundred times a day by people, with snarky looks & comments? I see it on a daily basis. Maybe I'm more sensitive to it because of my time in this community, but it really does exist.
So, how does one deal with that negative judging? In your case, you choose one path, I choose another. I don't know if your way will change the world's perception of fat people, as I don't know if mine is a better way.
During the civil rights movement in th 1950's & 60's, for every person who marched with the very peaceful Martin Luther King, there was an equal group who marched with the more militant Malcom X. King showed peaceful restraint (you), whereas I am more than willing to get in someone's face (X). Either way, if the end result is more fat acceptance, then the stigma of being with a fat person goes away for the "closet" FA.
And having balls is standing up for what you believe in, which you've already done by your follow up post.