Fat experiences

Haha, this is so true. I have actually done the same thing where I've erased a message because "nah, your not fat, Yet... Wait till I secretly fatten you up" is not sexy for a normal guy.

My wife is a foodie in a strictly non erotic sense. In fact, after a rich meal she is less sexual. Me, all things food and fat are erotic.

It is awkward at times, in terms of internal emotional management, bit you get used to it.

Goodness, yes. All the time! The other thing I'm prone to doing is testing the waters in horribly awkward ways. Even now I'm conversing with a long term (and currently long distance) casual romance of mine that I'll be seeing when I visit America next month, and just today I asked him, "how do you feel about bellies?" Lol! For the record, he's too busy looking at a$$ to care much about them. A sad failure, and he's an FA to boot!

So I guess that illustrates it pretty well. I can date an FA. Really, I don't date guys who aren't at least proud FA's, so I don't imagine I'll ever feel the need to hide how much I love being fat. But my fatsexuality primarily expresses itself through how much I love/need my fat to be enjoyed for the abundant squishy goodness it is, much more so than a consistent fantasy about gaining. Although that component is always present, and I'd really like to date someone who shares this fetish so I can have both of those needs fulfilled! That, and non-fetish FA's rarely seem to be into belly rubs

On the note of "fatsexuality," I agree wholeheartedly! Which makes me sad, in a way, because the more I explore my relationship with my fetish/sexuality, the more I realise how unavoidably important it is, and how many great guys it may be ruling out as potential matches. I don't know if I'll continue to make the kind of effort I am now to be with a fellow feedist in the future, as I would like to have a family, etc., and that may not be possible if I only consider being with someone who shares this fetish.

I had the opposite issue, actually...I went so long before I met anyone into this that I automatically self-censored.

When I finally went out on a date with a feedee, saying the words "feeder" and "feedee" out loud felt really weird!

Didn't that lead to a whole bunch of tumblr's freaking out about it and saying it's promoting abuse?

Softly.
That is so beautiful.

Over the years I have learned that I need to be open and up front in a subtle sort of way. I learned years ago that I really cannot date a non-feedee/foodee. In my life experiences, I have tried to date women that watch what they eat closely and never overeat and I can't handle that. I'm not constantly trying to overstuff the woman I'm involved with but I like to engage in feeding, encouraging, overstuffing, feederism activity at least once a week. It's like a person who has some other fetish or fetishes, they need that fix! To me, I find this fetish far easier to explore and bring up in casual conversation with a woman that any other fetish! At the early stages of a relationship the couple are learning about each other and asking questions to discover similarities. We all do that. You ask about hobbies or interest such as music, movies right? It's this simple; so what are some of your favorite foods and restaurants? And I'm very open and quick to state that, I'm asking these questions because in the opening stages of a relationship most of the time we go out to eat. I want to be sure I take you to nice restaurants that you like and really enjoy the food so that you will eat until your hearts content. I also ask about favorite drinks and deserts. After dinner I make it clear that "I really enjoyed seeing how much you loved that dish". Is there anything else you would like? This place has great deserts!

I try to make it a point to encourage her to overeat and enjoy the fact that she did! If after a few dates I see it's pointless then I don't see the point in continuing. With all that stated, I have actually had ladies tell me "you're weird" and I've also heard "you're crazy"! That's okay, I would rather hear that up front and not waste my time! I am a FEEDER! Yes, I'm a FEEDER! It's the one fetish I have that I can enjoy acting out in public with a lovely feedee and not get arrested! Think about that we feedist are the lucky ones! Be it a restaurant, a dinner party, or a barbeque I can actually fulfill my desires. Barbeques are the easiest because walking up to my date (who has already eaten a full meal) with a huge plate of food in one hand and a fork in the other and shoveling food into her mouth with her caressing her already full belly is pure heaven! I also get off on the attention that it attracts.

No, I could not date a non-feedist! And I'm going to make two statements that I am sure will draw criticism; first, as a feeder I love dating women who are binge eaters! Second, a binge eating bulimic is pretty intense as well (here starts the hate mail).

I guess it is the same thing for the admirers. My wife is a BBW but hates it. So I go to sites like these and chat and read the stories,etc.

Ya know all of this in one way or another is exactly what we all experience. I mean the ideal would be to love the person and have them into the exact same fetish but it never really works that way or I should say most of the time.

I will try and be short with the story of my wife and my experience which touches on your post as well as many other's.

When I met my wife she was a Beautiful work out / Gym queen that was curvy with some chubby bits.....and a big sweet tooth. After dating for a while I fell in Love with her for many of her qualities. I told her early on she should slow down on her workouts and relax a bit...she was reluctant but she did and she quickly gained a bit of weight. She didn't seem to like the fact she gained even though I loved it and told her how beautiful she was. She said she used to be quite "Chunky" before she started working out so much. This excited me quite a bit to hear this. I would often watch her snacking while skipping workouts before we would go out to dinner ....and after a few months she gained even more weight. I was much younger at the time.... being this was many years ago....I probably showed to much appreciation for her new Lbs. and even went as far as to wanting to weigh her ...actually many times throughout her gaining. She would stand on the scale in front of me in her panties and Bra which were both extremely tight now with her belly bulging out and hanging over the waist band along with her big breasts flowing out the top of her bra and would shyly not want to see what the scale read. She began to not be very amused with her weight should I say.....even though she was more Beautiful than ever and any guy on this board would certainly agree with her newly added Lbs. and figure. Her modest gaining "in my eyes" got me wanting more. Her 5 ' 3" frame was now 158 Lbs. and she looked breathtaking. When we met she was around 120 Lbs. but just 2 years before that she mentioned to me she weighed just over 170 Lbs. I kept craving for her to gain back to 170 Lbs or even more. I never told her this but as she looked bummed most of the time with her fattened figure...even though she would be snacking on a whole bag of cookies or chocolates I would tell her how beautiful she was. Her it came for the first time..... she said "ho

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"how could you like me all jiggly and wobbly like this instead of when I was working out and all toned" "That is just weird! That is just disgusting thinking that I look better all Fat and out of shape!"

I said "You look prettier and more relaxed to me!"
Not much was said after that other than I have always liked fuller figures on women and I don't look at softer Fat as being worse but I actually thinks it look's and feels better.

We have been married for many years now and her weight has fluctuated after having babies...at her highest she was just over 200 Lbs. She mostly is between 160-170 Lbs. and on occasion she over indulges for to long and gets a bit past 180 Lbs. My fetish for more weight has continually been on the rise as I have become older. I never really bring up weight related things directly other than her initiating them which usually doesn't happen that much other than a slight weight gain teasing after she has gained a little and is feeling in the mood (These times are very good though.)

Also....I believe some things are better left un spoken about with regard to the fetish even though it is tough but that's why I come to this board to talk with like minded people with this related fetish.....and also I tend to discuss my wife a lot because it really is the driving reality/fantasy connection for me in my life......such as dreaming of her gaining weight and gaining more and maybe one day being excited about it and actually liking it and the fetish rubs off on her.
Another thing that I have kept a secret with her is.....I don't ever think she could imagine me wanting or liking her being 250 Lbs. even though I have fanticized about her at
300 Lbs. +. I actually look at women on line that are 300+ that have a similar figure and height to hers and can almost visualize my wife being that big or bigger looking like that.
I would never dare say anything like that because I have not heard the old "That's disgusting remark for many years now".

Many things have changed over the years with my fetish also.....I have found things that really turn me on that didn't really used to....almost like foreplay in the fetish. Watching the changes in her appetite go up and watching her start to eat more junk food and treats...all leading to her potentially gaining weight. Also, with a lack of weight gain on her turning the role on myself and intentionally gaining a few times and being totally into it.....almost the biggest turn on which makes sense....was to have her comment and kind of tease me .....just to hear weight gain talk. Crazy thing is....I never really found out the answer....but when I gained a good 40 + lbs she never mentioned anything other than a few times when she was tipsy and it was in a fun teasing way as if she liked the "Fatter Me". I didn't know if she had some hidden desires only when she was tipsy.....that she liked and was turned on by a Fatter me.....I was extra horny when I was this Fat and constantly wanted to comment on me being so Fat....so I initiated Love making all the time she never ever seemed to turn me down and actually was really responsive towards the new Fat me even though she didn't make comment's during she would endearingly always place her hands softly on my new huge Gut during the sessions. After my Gut was Huge she even started feeding me huge portions and seconds during dinner.
which I tacked up for just feeding what the Big Piggy eats now. But when she started bring me a massive bowl of ice cream directly following dinner I scratched me head for a while and then tacked that up to her watching me eat so many sweets and treats lately seen I have gotten so Fat in which I never really ate any deserts before.
Then I thought that she liked me being so Fat because it made her feel thinner and even if she gained weight and more weight I would still be getting Fatter and Fatter......all of a sudden that thinking put me in a trance/fantasy of maybe she wants a Mutual gaining relationship. There were really to many variables for me to decide what was the real deal. It most likely was ....she doesn't like anyone pointing out her weight gain and she usually notices it on her own and after she gets somewhat control of her appetite she then goes on a workout and eating healthy kick to lose the weight....maybe she was just extending the same courtesy to me.....she figured she would allow me to Fatten myself and actually help by feeding me huge amount of food and desert to eventually get to the point where I couldn't even come close to bending over to tie my shoes because my huge Gut was in the way.....and then make a comment to me if I still didn't figure out on my own......don't you think you should slow it down so that you can actually tie your shoes again"