I recently started dating someone, and found myself really attracted to her personality, and felt I owed it to her to be completely honest about my own attraction to the idea of gaining weight (whether it's her or me, or perhaps both). It was incredibly hard to bring myself to tell her, I have been in a few relationships and they all had expiration dates in my head because I was never willing to completely lay it out on the table.
In this particular instance, I mentioned simply that I was an FA; in my mind she would have bolted for the door, but instead she was really supportive. I've also accepted the idea that each person on this planet has something about them either sexually or in their personality that you need to accept for a solid foundation, so it was a great touching point for us both to explore that area. At the moment, I'm gaining (or trying to) with her support after we talked it out. I spent so much time wondering about what she would say, but at the end of the day, I found it incredibly easy to talk about it with her. There were less unknowns, and much more trust.
At the end of the day, you might feel weird talking to her about it, but this is probably a significant part of who you are, eh? Once you have that conversation, you can begin to understand how you guys can support each other. I'm currently pushing for modest goals of like 210, which in my head is still reversible if we get uncomfortable.
10 years
