You need to help her separate her weight and your weight in her mind.
How much does she know about this stuff? Is she aware of this website? I think she fears that enjoying your fat makes her a hypocrite for wanting to be thin.
She needs to see that they are two separate ideas and can be pursued separately. She can be a feeder/fa and continue to lose weight if she so desires. Just because she enjoys your fat, doesn't mean she has to enjoy her own if she doesn't want to.
I think if she can separate the two for herself, it will go a long way to both of you getting what you want.
10 years
