chubbyhoney wrote:
I'm sure you didn't mean it to, but that post comes over as incredibly shallow. Of course WLS surgery will change the OPs life and that of his wife, but sounds like you're writing the marriage off altogether. As the OP is a FA, you've taken it as a given that as soon as his wife loses weight, there will be zero physical attraction to her any more, as if a woman's weight is the only thing that makes her physically attractive - and once she loses it, there is nothing sexy or desirable about her. As if she has no other attributes whatsoever. If the success of a relationship hinges purely on one person's weight, then it can't be a very healthy relationship.
If you prioritise your own sexual preferences over your wife's health, there is something wrong with your priorities. The OP was looking for helpful advice, not knee-jerk write-off of his marriage. You make it sound like his wife is trying to spite him by losing weight, like she should put his preference before her own autonomy over and preferences regarding her own body.
If something like your dining companion eating less than you in a restaurant even features on a list of things that are more important than the crapload of stuff which makes a great, worthwhile, loving relationship, then you shouldn't be in a relationship. People who feel like that should hire themselves a BBW escort and save some poor woman's feelings.
This is a good post. I'll also add that if any problems start to develop in the bedroom with sexual arousal, Viagra can help there to fulfil both partners sexual needs.
