Midwestguy:
Just wondering how long everyone has looked for their feeder or feedee match and if you ever found it.
I have had the honour of having shared many years, well over a decade, with my partner. We didn't really take on our current roles (her as feeder, me as feedee) until about 4, maybe 5 years or so ago.
I think a lot of it is finding the right PERSON first. Turn ons are important, especially in the "courting" phase (am I, like 100 years old, or do people still call it that?). But being open, honest, trusting and unafraid of your sexuality, your partner's sexuality, and your sexuality as a couple, is way more important.
The reason I mention that is - As a man in my 20s, I never would have thought I would have been a feedee. Never would have even occurred to me! But here I am, and so pleased that I could have this experience.
Just my 2 cents... (which we don't have here in Canada anymore, by the way... so another saying that will make me feel 100 years old! lol)
