Aleph0 wrote:You see, if she is "relatively" confident with her body image, I'd think that she would hardly accept the idea that you want her to gain more weight. If you sound convincing enough, she might think that you are perverted
Anyway, this has been said a thousand times, but the answer to "how do I convince my GF to gain?" is "You do not."
However, you can (and IMHO should) convince her that you really do like big girls (not just say so because she is big and you like HER); at the same time you shouldn't lead her to misunderstand it as if you only liked her because she was big. This message can be a little tricky to deliver sometimes :-)
Ideally, when she really understands and groks this -- and if she is not too dependent on the whims of society at large -- she may truly accept her size. The way I see fat acceptance, it's the same as "haircut acceptance": understanding that a person may choose whatever they like (short, long, or dyed green; fat or thin), and if some strangers think it's their business to tell you what to do, they are wrong.
And finally, when she is completely self-confident and makes herself a personal fat-positive world (with your help of course; tolerance from her family and other people she considers close is a big plus), she will be able to choose whatever SHE really likes, not to suit anyone else's preference.
Some BBWs become quite comfortable with their bodies and see the same special femininity in themselves as we FAs do; so if they gain some more they may like it
(so long as it doesn't physically interfere with normal life). I think that's a good sentiment. Actually, while I'm afraid to admit this to myself, I kinda figured this was the case all along. That last bit though is something that I would never ever dream of doing to her. I tend to think that a girl is too big if she can't move soley on her own steam or needs some other special acomodation beyond a plus sized clothing store and other small concessions.