GardenGrower13:
I'm wondering if anyone might have an experience similar to mine and be able to offer some advice.

I'm a gainer who has truly wanted to be fat since childhood and has never really viewed fatness as a negative thing when it comes to other people. However, I've grappled with a lot of internalized fatphobia and shame about sexual desires, so I have mostly just been a bit chubby throughout my years of on and off gaining. I got over my internalized fatphobia by the time I deliberately crossed into "obesity" and lived there for some time, but then I involuntarily lost a lot of weight because I hadn't been gaining in a healthy way.

I slowly regained some of the weight, then several months ago I came to terms with my sexual guilt and accepted that I did want to actually try to gain again, just being a lot more careful with my diet.

I've been having a lot of success with this for the past few weeks, and I estimate that I've gained over ten pounds without putting a significant amount of strain on my digestion like I did before. A lot of this is easier for me now because I'm using an app to keep track of my macros every day. I PROMISE this isn't an ad, this post is not about that app lol.

So if my guilt isn't about Being Fat, and it's not about the whole Kink of it all, then what am I feeling guilty about, you might ask? The mere act of eating food, more than I physically require. I don't hold other people to the same standards as myself in this, but when it comes to me, seeing the amount of excess food I'm deliberately consuming (while this is all very hot lol) makes me feel guilty when I think about the people who don't have access to food. The fact that every dollar I spend on some extra food for me, especially extra fresh and healthy food, could be spent to help feed someone in need instead... And I don't know how to cope with that.

I spoke with my therapist about it, (leaving out the parts about deliberately gaining because I don't particularly want to be talked out of it) and she suggested that instead of focusing on all the money/time/food I'm Not giving to people in need, I should focus on what I can do and put energy into doing that, whether it's a donation or volunteering.

This is the direction I was leaning before talking to her as well, but I'm struggling to figure out what that should look like for me. I find myself wondering, How much do I need to do before it's enough? How much is too much? Will I ever feel like I'm truly doing the right thing or can I get over feeling like I'm "wasting resources" on myself?

I've cancelled my frivolous monthly subscriptions as a start, looking to cancel the yearly ones next. But how do I maintain a healthy amount of my hedonistic, "live in the moment" mindset that gets me through the hard times without becoming uncompassionate for people who don't ever have the option to live that way?

If you read everything here, I'm grateful. If you have thoughts on this or related experiences you'd like to share, I'd appreciate that too!

Munchies:
I am with everyone else. In our country, we have so much food, no one should go hungry. But thanks to shit the government is doing, we have food rotting in the field, and food assistance being cut off.

If you want to help with the SNAP crisis, you can reach out to local organizations like food pantries, and see what they need. A lot of them are running low on food, so shelf stable items are a must. You can also share resources like 211 or findhelp.org.

Get in touch with community gardens if you have any and see what you can do to help. Volunteer your time with soup kitchens or delivering meals to the elderly and shut in.

You have a lot of options. Pick one or two things and do that. Remember, we have the resources to make sure everyone is fed, so you overeating isn't the problem. The problem is corruption.

FatVixen:
I have judgy family so no. I want to be brave but its hard. I have cosplay pictures I can't post on soc media cause I don't need trolls online cause its mid drift. I used to post swimsuit pics but haven't sense I went over 150.

Random210802:
My fiancée and I have been together for nearly six years. When we met, she was about 160 lbs—curvy, in good shape, and her budget at the time limited how much she could spend on snacks and dining out. Once we started dating, I happily introduced her to a world of new foods, and she quickly became a foodie. In the first couple of years, she had a huge appetite and gained weight rapidly, which I was more than happy to encourage.

These days, her eating habits have settled, though she occasionally expresses concern about her size. Now that we live together and she works full-time, she has the means to indulge freely. Her lifestyle has become very sedentary; when she's not working, she often spends the day in bed with snacks and takeout, which she orders herself. I support her by cooking meals, keeping her supplied with snacks, and generally catering to her requests.

She's now 280 pounds, and while she sometimes talks about wanting to lose weight, any attempt I make to help—like suggesting the gym—is met with a preference for staying in bed with her snacks. A lot has changed since we first met, and I have to admit, I can't wait for her to hit 300 pounds and beyond, becoming even bigger and more settled into her relaxed lifestyle.

Pronepain06:
absolutely dreamy fiancée it sounds like you got. Even though she seems mildly concerned about her weight, she's too invested in her snacks to care. Wish I could seamlessly introduce a partner to such an indulgent lifestyle like you did.

how did you introduce her to this "world of new foods" and how did it stick? I'd like to know whatever secrets there are to turning others into foodies

Random210802:
It's more an annoyance that clothes don't fit than an actual concern about her weight. She enjoys being a big girl and uses my preference to her advantage when she wants food, she's very hard to say no to when asking to be fed.

I only told her about this kink when we moved in together, beforehand she just thought I liked big girls so wasn't worried about the weight she was putting on. I basically just encouraged her to eat whatever she wanted and to be comfortable. Now she's happy having someone taking care of her so she can be as lazy she as wants and eat what she wants.

Johnxyz:
a C cup is not tiny. Was it smaller than that when you were bullied?

FatVixen:
Nope, I was a c cup but they where perky. Which is more then most the females in my family. Most my friends where bigger girls and I couldn't get past like 115 because of my unknown at the time immune disorder. Most where d or f cups. I'd get called mosquito bumps flat and all kinds of stuff. Alot of times their boy friends would have to step in cause itd get bad enought Id start crying. My ex was abusive and would openly mock me in public about how small they where. He was I like big breast guy.

Story time: He loved to pick up fake furit and compare them to my chest. One time he was like this fake mango is what your breast look like. well the fruit its a bit bigger. Not like these grapefurit. Thank goodness my bestie was there to yell at him and help me from crying to bad.
Don't miss that.

My husband now when we where dating. I warned him they where snall back then and he was like I don't care and they arent. Your beautiful. The chest isn't my thing any way, now that adorable belly.

Okeui:
So I haven’t weighed myself since I got rid of my EDs. It’s been 6 years.
I have noticed my body changing, growing into my adult boobs and wider hips, but nothing much.
I have just been on a trip with all inclusive for 2 weeks and I did indulge. Right before the trip I noticed that my belly has started to drop, showing a line underneath it. I have known for years that that is bound to happen sooner or later, I was wondering if by the time I got home the line would be permanent and my belly would hang constantly. It is still pretty firm and extended tho. So I was not sure. It has had moments before when it almost started to hang but didn’t. I spent most of my vacation pretty stuffed and struggled a little with bending down and adjusting my position because of the bloat. On the vacation photos it is clear that my belly is really full, extending further than my boobs. I look rounder than usual. My boyfriend said I would probably come home rounder than I left. When I got home I took out my measuring tape and thought I had gained at least 2 cm around the waist, but was supprised that it showed the same number as always when measuring my waist. 112. So I decided to weigh myself for the first time in 6 years, since my clothes haven’t changed sizes and I still use alot of them now 6 years later without them being more snug I didn’t think I had gained much since being 75 kg, but boom the scale showed 88 kg and I am officially obese

Modulo9:
The bigger the panties the panties the more to fill out. I take that as a challenge when she gets clothes that have room to grow.

She pigged out on BBQ that night and had a nice belly hang. She has bought some very big brief panties that are a bit lose and I can't wait to make her stretch them out and finally trade up a size. I've got her excited for Thanksgiving as I'm buying a Traeger grill and this morning she's literally salivating over the videos of a grilled turkey. I guess I'll have to cook her a few turkey's prior to Thanksgiving to make sure I dial in the new grill...

FatBottomFrau102:
Per request, here's a crockpot version of the stuffed pepper soup:
pin.it/6bnkKrUZo

I personally prefer to make it on the stove in a dutch oven.
-1lb ground beef and 1lbs ground sweet Italian sausage - add just a splash of water to the pot and cook the meats together over medium heat
-Remove the meat from the pot, just setting aside for a couple minutes
-Add one whole chopped sweet onion, cooking it in the fat from the meat
-About 3 mins in, add 3 cloves of finely chopped garlic, continue to cook down for a minute
-Now add 3 whole chopped bell peppers. Cooking them down with the onions and garlic for another 5 min
-Add your meat back in, also adding 1/4 cup brown sugar, 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce, 1/2 tsp paprika, 1 tsp Italian seasoning
-Once combined, add 4 cans of diced tomatoes and 2 cups of water, letting everything heat in and start bubbling. Add salt and pepper to your taste.
-once it's bubbling, reduce the heat to a simmer, put the lid on a leave it alone for at least an hour. Don't touch it, just let it work it's magic.
I personally make this around lunchtime so we can eat it at dinner time, letting it simmer for a couple hours
I will either make rice or corn bread to go with it. I don't add rice to the same pot because I usually freeze some.

Happy eating 🥰

FatBottomFrau102:
So I'm still super new here, it's very possible I just haven't found the right corner of the site yet.
Any who, I'm noticing very seldom home cooking and meal prep are discussed as a whole.
I'm a huge Foodie on top of being a Gainer. I love cooking and baking. I'm so excited for this time of year and making all sorts of great food and eating it of course lol.

So I guess my questions are, where are my fellow home cooks/bakers at? What are some of your go-to dishes, especially this time of year?