You can't get rid of the fetish, but you can decide whether to gain more weight or not.

If you do decide to gain weight, or can't help it, the healthiest thing would be to keep doing what you're doing, but eat healthy food. Fruit, vegetables, unprocessed meat, etc. You can still eat junk food now and then, but start every day eating healthy.

Has anyone had feedee fantasies but not been able to carry them out until they met the right feeder?

My article "How to Get Fat" has helped some: www.deviantart.com/drfeeder/art/How-to-Get-Fat-1146002286

When I'm interested in a relationship with a woman I want both. The fact that you have a thing for her size does not mean you can't appreciate her on other levels.

Of course it is possible for a man to fetishize a woman for her size and not love her or even like her, and she should reject such a man (unless she just wants a roll in the hay!). But having a preference for curvy women certainly doesn't eliminate the possibility of liking or loving her.

I basically agree, though I think there are exceptions.

I think Weetabix is somewhat right, though, in that there are some people (of any gender) who are so down on themselves they won't respect anyone who likes them, and thus reject people who might be great. But I certainly wouldn't generalize that to all BBWs.



Ah yes, the often fallacious "Argument from Authority".

Munchies, if there were an Understanding Women test and we both took it, you might very well score higher. But I bet I'd get some of the questions you missed. Just because you're a woman doesn't mean you're always right in any discussion with a man about women, especially particular women.

Been reading about the "soft girl" trend. I know it's not "soft" in the sense that fat bodies are soft, but I wonder if there's any overlap between soft girls and feedees. Anyone?

You'd think so, but I've definitely read statements by BBWs saying they don't want guys who have a thing for fat women (let alone gaining women!). I guess such women fear being fetishized.

Here I just mean people who are so fat they have trouble holding down a job. Like the cab driver Tom Wolfe wrote about, who ate doughnuts all day until he was too fat to fit into his cab.

It seems to me that people who become extremely obese must have challenges when it comes to holding down a job.

How do they do it?

Or do they not have a job? Are they supported by their families or spouses or...? Or are they independently wealthy?

Any stories about how you or people you know have dealt with this would be appreciated.

It seems to me that people who become extremely obese must have challenges when it comes to holding down a job.

How do they do it?

Or do they not have a job? Are they supported by their families or spouses or...? Or are they independently wealthy?

Any stories about dealing with this about yourself or others you know would be interesting.