canuck:my girlfriend encouraged me to track the calories i consume and burn using this website:
fatsecret.com/last week i cut out beer and some treats, but i was still averaging 4800-5200 calories a day.
6000 is not unusual, with a few beers, and i have had days as high as 7000 on rare occasions.
i have tried to cut down to 3500 but it seems like a punishment!
“Fat Secret” is a curious name for an app that presumably is intended as a weight loss resource.
Or is it in fact a covert feedist resource?! 😮
4 years
workingOnIt:
I think that the stress you're feeling is extremely understandable in your situation. It seems like you have pretty high standards for yourself (something I know all to well) which makes it really difficult to deal with the already difficult task of accepting sexual preferences that "deviate from the norm".
As hard as it is it might be to swallow, I am very confident in saying you can actively try and "force yourself away from this fetish" with all your might, but it's not going anywhere. I spent years trying to ignore my feelings and trying to convince myself that I could "get away from this." It doesn't work like that though, and in the end, that's really because it's a part of you. With that being said, I really really can relate to the stress your feeling in these circumstances.
I promise you though, if you find a way to manage the stress for the time being and give yourself the space to be open with yourself, that you likely won't always be this overwhelmed. You're already posting on this website which means at some level you're already working towards a level of self-acceptance. As you keep working through this process you'll get more comfortable with what you like and will be able to set aside unrealistic expectations more and more and see it in an unbiased light.
Having this fetish doesn't mean "you are doomed to be lazy." Having this fetish doesn't mean "you can't find a girlfriend who loves you for who you are." Having this fetish doesn't mean "you can't excel in your studies." It doesn't mean any of those things, or any of the other million things your anxiety is telling you it means. It's just an attraction like any other, another part of a perfectly normal and healthy sexuality.
Sending you positive vibes to get through this stressful time! Relax! Have a snack haha
Just quoting because this was an excellent post. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
4 years
WideJuan76:
It's been in my anecdotal experience that it is a mixture of genetics, environment and your own particular subculture.
Well, quite. This is the case with most human characteristics. It is endlessly fascinating.
5 years
KingofJiggle:
I heard my dad mention foxy roxxie a few weeks ago and now I can't help but think that maybe having a fat fetish is genetic.
Potbelly84:
I've had this fetish since I was a teenager (as most people here). I never thought that my admiration for fat bodies could be shared my someone in my family, but then two my older brother have been married to very big women. One of them has been married twice, and both times to big women. So... That makes 3 brothers in my family (myself included).
That's wonderful! Again, I suspect coincidence, but that's irrelevant. What a great connection to have with your brothers.
5 years
KingofJiggle:
I heard my dad mention foxy roxxie a few weeks ago and now I can't help but think that maybe having a fat fetish is genetic.
It's possible (likely, even) that one or more factors influencing a person's propensity for fat admiration is genetic, but it's unlikely that fat admiration is *primarily* genetically inherited.
I would posit that fat admiration is simply more common than we're led to believe, and that the fact that you and your dad both prefer larger bodies is more likely coincidental. Nice to have a common interest to discuss over dinner, though.
5 years
Good to know. Thanks, BiteSize.
5 years
Eesh. So. I updated a story that I last updated 4 years ago. A few members made very positive comments. In an act of brazen self-promotion, I messaged them to let them know I’d added some chapters. The content of the message was copied/pasted. Three were delivered fine. The fourth achieved the status of “Your message was flagged as spam”. Drat. Sorry. Does that have implications? Will I be shadowbanned?
5 years
Thanks both. Appreciated.
5 years
