Netherwulff wrote:
Most of the time, the habits used in substitution of a sexual fetish or 'preference' you have are debilitating to your life (things that can lead to OCD, depression, or anxiety, for instance).
You may wonder why I keep using the air-quotes; a fetish does not equate to a sexual preference. It's important to separate a sexual preference from what's considered a fetish.
Everyone thinks about it differently, but just think about the definition of the terms, relate it to how you think of being body-positive, and then go from there with whether you truly have a fetish, which 'can' be quite easily suppressed, compared to a preference, which 'cannot' be suppressed in most cases.
Actually...that's not quite correct. My understanding of the term "preference" meant just that; you prefer certain things in your partner, much the same as some-one might like plums better than peaches. If this is the case, it isn't that you cannot eat peaches...you just like plums better.
I know for a fact that a fetish is not like that. A fetish is an intense sexual desire, and suppressing it is a mistake.
...if you want to get over a fetish, you do one of two things:
1) Seek professional help.
This may involve the use of drugs, which annihilate your libido and sex drive for the duration of time you spend on them.
2) You may grow out of a fetish over time. That happens too.
Sometimes, what will happen is that I'll get a sense of "satiety," so to speak, and put down feeding (and this site) for several months. Those times are nice, but I (like most people) always end up back for more fat guts.
Good luck.