Evolutionary psychology does make a lot of sense to me. Anyone who studies animals will tell you that instinctive behaviors are inherited. How else would a salmon know to swim upstream to mate for instance? It wouldn't make sense for humans to be the only animals in existence to not have that feature. Rather than our big brain being used to overcome instinct, I think people usually use it to come up with excuses and justifications for why our base instincts make rational sense, so we must have chosen to do it on purpose. Tabula rasa fans, don't @ me. Anyway, OP's theory could have some truth to it, but I have a few other thoughts on the evolution of feedism. It's probably not just one thing. I do want to mention though that mutation is a huge part of evolution, so some aspects could be an exaggeration or a twist on other instincts that are normally expressed a different way.

Gluttony and hedonism is the most obvious as an ingrained instinct. Food is inconsistent in nature; sometimes the hunt fails, or nothing can be harvested in winter, and preserving excess food was impossible. It makes sense to eat as much as you can to stock up and build up some fat reserves that you can burn through when you run out. Everything pleasurable that we want to do had a practical application like that in nature.

The features that people find attractive in the opposite sex are unconsciously based on what would help with child rearing, but fat can accentuate some of them. Men are attracted to fertility cues in women; wide hips for giving birth, large breasts for producing milk, soft clear skin as a sign of good genetics. Fat will exaggerate all of that. On the other hand, women are attracted to signals that show a man's ability to provide and protect; having a large and imposing frame for physical defense (usually based on height and strength, but fat does it in a different way), and access to resources (normally wealth, but fatness shows off an abundance of food). Of course it's more complicated than what I just listed, but that's just a few of the basics.

It seems like a lot of fetish dynamics are some kind of exaggeration or modification (or sometimes a reversal) of traditional gender roles, which also have an underlying aspect based in survival. Men have an instinct to provide for and protect their partner, and feedism leans into that with feeding and pampering. The famale counterpart is an instinct for nurturing and caretaking, which can also be expressed through feeding, though there's a difference in orientation. I've noticed that a lot of female feeders prefer soft feedism and encouraging rather than the more active role that male feeders tend to prefer.

From the feedee's perspective, gift giving (food) and acts of devotion (feeding) are comforting because they show their partner's commitment to the relationship. A certain amount of self-sacrifice in a safe context shows that they have your back if a real problem arises. Plus, it's relaxing to feel like your partner is taking some of the pressure of having to struggle to survive off your shoulders. And yes, as OP mentioned, for women it also demonstrates their partner's hunting ability/access to resources.

You can't just take a bunch of digestive enzymes and digest your food at super speed. Your body uses the enzymes it needs, and the excess will be passed through with the waste. The best use for them is if you have digestive problems. There are also many different digestive enzymes that do different things, so what you get out of it depends on what you take. There is no blend that contains everything, and you may need more of something than what comes in a blend anyway.

- If you feel sick or have heartburn after drinking heavy cream, or eating anything super greasy or buttery (high in fat), then ox bile is the best supplement to take. Lipase does the same thing in a different way, so you may need a blend of both to get the best results.

- If you feel the same symptoms, or if you get really gassy after eating any kind of dairy, you will need lactase.

- If you get heartburn or acid reflux, you can reduce your symptoms by taking antacids, but what might work better is taking pancreatin since that addresses the cause instead of just the symptom. If this is a consistent issue, you may have GERD and might need to take a proton pump inhibitor like omeprazole.

- If you get symptoms after eating a lot of meat or protein, OR if the food has been sitting in your stomach for hours and you're starting to get rotten tasting burps, you should take betaine HCL with pepsin. This will increase your stomach acid, so if anything could help you digest faster, it would be that. Be careful though, as having excess stomach acid will cause bad heartburn.

There are many other enzymes besides these, but these will be good for most situations.

LMAO, it's not my thread. OP was some British gainer. I thought I'd try some Socratic questioning on him, but looks like he deleted his account right after I posted that. Either that or he blocked me, IDK

How is being fat connected to being gay? Genuinely curious

The grass is always greener on the other side. You may be idealizing women because you lack the experience of dating them. There are tons of straight guys voicing similar frustrations about women. The fact is, many people have toxic personalities, regardless of gender, and fetish-based communities have a way of attracting them. Unless you're bi and have dated both, it's probably going to appear one-sided based on your experiences. Peoples' worst qualities don't tend to come out the same way in platonic friendships.

I responded before I checked your profile and saw your age, but decided to leave it in case anybody less jaded and cynical decided to take your advice. There are people in their teens and 20's who grew up on social media and think that that's how romance is supposed to work, because they have no real frame of reference. Most people are looking for some kind of emotional connection and fulfillment, and paying a stranger to pretend to care about you over the internet won't give that, and will be bad for their mental health if that's what they expect. A relationship based only on money where you're just using each other is going to feel empty and meaningless because it is. If you're fine with that, then more power to you, but it should still be made clear. I understand that nothing in life is free, but that only makes it transactional if you boil down intangible things like happiness and self-esteem to a service you can pay for. The thing is, you can't buy those things this way. It's like the difference between owning your own home or staying in a hotel. They are both forms of shelter that you pay for, but they don't feel the same.

I hate to break it to you, but that's not what a healthy relationship looks like. That sounds more like findomme, or at best a sugar baby. Basically, it's a transactional relationship between a customer and content creator, not a romantic one. You say that you fell in love, but people who are in love don't just abandon each other the second you stop funding their expensive lifestyle for a month. If she told you she loved you, she was just telling you what you wanted to hear to keep you on the hook, unfortunately.

A good feedist relationship (and I promise there are still people looking for this) looks exactly like a vanilla relationship, but with feeding added in as a bonus. That means you're going on actual dates in person with someone you share an emotional connection to, and hopefully share some interests outside of feeding. There are people who can make a long-distance relationship work, but the goal is almost always to meet in person or even relocate to be together. And no, constantly sending money is not a requirement.

Next time you're talking to a feedee, you should be careful and vet her. Tell her the type of relationship goals you eventually want if it works out, and see if she wants the same thing. Tell her you don't feel comfortable sending money right away, and want to spend time getting to know her first. Then, actually get to know her as a person, not just a feedee. What does she like to do for fun? What's her family like? What are her dreams and aspirations in life? Don't make it sound like a job interview though. If you make her wait at least a week or 2 before sending anything, then you will know whether she's only interested in the money or wants something serious. If she just looks at you like a walking ATM, she will get frustrated and tell you to stop wasting her time, but Real Ones will be happy that you are interested in them, and not just their body. GL

I've got the perfect idea for you. Start wearing a fake belly and padding. Like a ridiculous amount of padding so you look like 500 lbs. When people are shocked and confused, just show them that it's fake and tell them you're trying to set a new fashion trend, or maybe that you're cold and want a discreet way to stay bundled up, or maybe you're trying it out because you want to be more empathetic towards pregnant women, take your pick. Then, as you gain weight for real, you keep slowly reducing the amount of padding so you always look the same size until you're so fat that you don't need any padding at all, and nobody will be the wiser.

And what is a man? A miserable little pile of secrets.

Anyway, this thread is inviting the trans comparison because of the way it's formulated. Is a fat man a man? Really? What kind of a question is that? Your gender may be informed by biology, but not to the extent that a fat set of tits and slightly elevated estrogen level can take that away from you. You are not your hormone levels. You are not your body type. You are not a set of stereotypes that you must embody, lest you lose access to your own identity. If you accept that gender expression is on a spectrum, then surely there's room in the category of "man" for fat men too.

Legend has it that if you say her name three times while looking into a mirror, she will appear before you to criticize everything you've ever said.