LMAO, it's not my thread. OP was some British gainer. I thought I'd try some Socratic questioning on him, but looks like he deleted his account right after I posted that. Either that or he blocked me, IDK

How is being fat connected to being gay? Genuinely curious

The grass is always greener on the other side. You may be idealizing women because you lack the experience of dating them. There are tons of straight guys voicing similar frustrations about women. The fact is, many people have toxic personalities, regardless of gender, and fetish-based communities have a way of attracting them. Unless you're bi and have dated both, it's probably going to appear one-sided based on your experiences. Peoples' worst qualities don't tend to come out the same way in platonic friendships.

I responded before I checked your profile and saw your age, but decided to leave it in case anybody less jaded and cynical decided to take your advice. There are people in their teens and 20's who grew up on social media and think that that's how romance is supposed to work, because they have no real frame of reference. Most people are looking for some kind of emotional connection and fulfillment, and paying a stranger to pretend to care about you over the internet won't give that, and will be bad for their mental health if that's what they expect. A relationship based only on money where you're just using each other is going to feel empty and meaningless because it is. If you're fine with that, then more power to you, but it should still be made clear. I understand that nothing in life is free, but that only makes it transactional if you boil down intangible things like happiness and self-esteem to a service you can pay for. The thing is, you can't buy those things this way. It's like the difference between owning your own home or staying in a hotel. They are both forms of shelter that you pay for, but they don't feel the same.

I hate to break it to you, but that's not what a healthy relationship looks like. That sounds more like findomme, or at best a sugar baby. Basically, it's a transactional relationship between a customer and content creator, not a romantic one. You say that you fell in love, but people who are in love don't just abandon each other the second you stop funding their expensive lifestyle for a month. If she told you she loved you, she was just telling you what you wanted to hear to keep you on the hook, unfortunately.

A good feedist relationship (and I promise there are still people looking for this) looks exactly like a vanilla relationship, but with feeding added in as a bonus. That means you're going on actual dates in person with someone you share an emotional connection to, and hopefully share some interests outside of feeding. There are people who can make a long-distance relationship work, but the goal is almost always to meet in person or even relocate to be together. And no, constantly sending money is not a requirement.

Next time you're talking to a feedee, you should be careful and vet her. Tell her the type of relationship goals you eventually want if it works out, and see if she wants the same thing. Tell her you don't feel comfortable sending money right away, and want to spend time getting to know her first. Then, actually get to know her as a person, not just a feedee. What does she like to do for fun? What's her family like? What are her dreams and aspirations in life? Don't make it sound like a job interview though. If you make her wait at least a week or 2 before sending anything, then you will know whether she's only interested in the money or wants something serious. If she just looks at you like a walking ATM, she will get frustrated and tell you to stop wasting her time, but Real Ones will be happy that you are interested in them, and not just their body. GL

I've got the perfect idea for you. Start wearing a fake belly and padding. Like a ridiculous amount of padding so you look like 500 lbs. When people are shocked and confused, just show them that it's fake and tell them you're trying to set a new fashion trend, or maybe that you're cold and want a discreet way to stay bundled up, or maybe you're trying it out because you want to be more empathetic towards pregnant women, take your pick. Then, as you gain weight for real, you keep slowly reducing the amount of padding so you always look the same size until you're so fat that you don't need any padding at all, and nobody will be the wiser.

And what is a man? A miserable little pile of secrets.

Anyway, this thread is inviting the trans comparison because of the way it's formulated. Is a fat man a man? Really? What kind of a question is that? Your gender may be informed by biology, but not to the extent that a fat set of tits and slightly elevated estrogen level can take that away from you. You are not your hormone levels. You are not your body type. You are not a set of stereotypes that you must embody, lest you lose access to your own identity. If you accept that gender expression is on a spectrum, then surely there's room in the category of "man" for fat men too.

Legend has it that if you say her name three times while looking into a mirror, she will appear before you to criticize everything you've ever said.

I got the joke. It was funny. I just couldn't miss the opportunity to bring Taft in.

They say this cat Taft was a fat mother...
(Shut your mouth)
I'm just talkin' 'bout Taft

Trump is the first fat president? You must have forgotten about Taft, a president so round that he had to get bathtubs custom made to fit him.

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