If they stare, it's only because you're giving them someone hot to stare at.

You know what they say about sticks and stones, right? Don't fear the comments, they're vapid and inconsequential.

And if they do throw stick and stones, the extra padding's going to come in really handy.

Say you do choose to rock the curves tonight, what's the worst that could happen?

All of that is jolly easy to say, of course....

For many, Feedism is a kink that is an enjoyable addition to more commonplace sexual activities, but not necessary in order to achieve a satisfying sex life. For others, it is more akin to a sexuality. In fact I'd go further; I'd say that for some, Feedism is their sexuality. When this is the case, there does need to be an element of it during sex for the Feedist partner to be turned on.

The first and most important piece of advice I have is to be extremely sensitive about the subject. This is an unusual kink/sexuality that those of us who have it did not choose. We are the way we are and there's nothing we can do about it. It's generally poorly understood by those outside of our small (!) community and therefore viewed with scorn, suspicion and ridicule.

In sharing his sexuality/kink with you, he's given you something extremely precious. He's entrusted you with something that has the potential to undermine him. One of the best things you can do (if you haven't already) is to try to talk openly about it. Try to get to know more about how he feels, his thoughts and fantasies. While you're not into Feedism yourself, you may find that as you discuss it, the idea of role playing some fantasies for him becomes much less threatening to you (and, very possibly, extremely enjoyable!)

But do be aware that weight loss may be devastating for him. I've been through it myself and read what must amount to hundreds of accounts online of others who've had their partner lose weight. In almost every case, the feeder supports their partner because it's the decent thing to do, but it's shattering and will almost certainly have an impact on sex.

I really admire you for coming into our community in order to learn about your boyfriend's sexuality. To an outsider, I've no doubt websites such as this feel very alien. Rest assured that most of us are decent, ordinary folks who are very happy to talk and give advice.

Your fears are merely an emotional representation of the shackles of patriarchal oppression! Cast them off! Free yourself from slavery to conformity!

We can't expect others to broaden their minds to body positivity if we hide our bodies and our attractions with loose clothes and spanx.

Fat distribution is most significantly influenced by hormones and it's more or less impossible to predict where fat will go before the weight is gained. The levels and influence/interaction of hormones with other physiological factors is extremely complex and is determined by genetics, epigenetics and envinroment.

There are a few things worth noting though: The first is that the evidence shows that fat is generally absorbed first in the abdomen, before subsequently being redistributed to other parts of the body. This means that if you gain very rapidly, you have a high chance of experiencing a disproportionately large belly, if only temporarily.

Secondly, trans-fats, those most maligned of all fats, are known to increase adbdonimal fat, whether or not a person gains weight overall. In a diet high in trans-fats, fat from other areas of the body is distributed to the belly.

This is precisely the sort of scenario in which I'm a specialist.