i met my current partner when i was maybe 325 lbs. it wasn't really planned, but i introduced her to feedism and it became part of our romantic life, and my weight climbed sort of gradually.

you are so right about fat distribution being a big part of the challenge here... i am pretty averagely endowed, but i already had a significant fupa when we met. by the time i was around 400 lbs, i was pretty much buried all the time.

now, even if you're buried, that doesn't mean you can't have penetrative intercourse. fat is soft, it moves! but eventually as i continued to gain it was just too difficult and uncomfortable to be in a position where it was practical or enjoyable.

i have been losing weight for the last year or so - still not quite down to 400 lbs again yet. but it's funny that my weight isn't coming off the same way it came on. my fupa unfortunately hasn't shrunk back to what it was the last time i was at this weight.

i've noticed a few very short stories popping up that are just teasers, pointing toward someone's patreon site.

this seems to me to be creating a competing sales model to ff's earning accounts, while using ff as the platform to advertise.

admins, what do you think?

i think the comments about the age of this site, changes and moderation are a little unfair. there are a number of active mods, and there have been a bunch of updates over the last couple of years.

are there still bugs and quirks, sure. i almost enjoy the occasional "chat leak" now.

munchies' note re: blocking reducing community engagement got me thinking about the "format" of a site, and how that influences how users interact. for instance, this site is primarily message, forum & chat driven. blocking in regards to personal messages and chat seems pretty straightforward, but in a forum situation it becomes more complex. especially when threads sometimes are active for years!

when i think of social media, i think of x, bluesky and feabie - posts are made, they can be shared, re-shared, and they are not dispersed and not cohesive. comments can be made on the share of the post, and never relate back to the source, etc. in that situation, blocking is much more important because you want to exclude someone's material from your "feed" which is curated by an algorithm. whereas in a forum you just don't open the thing and ignore the thread.

there is another forum that i frequent that has one active participant that i find really annoying. (i am sure others think they're great, not judging - just my taste.) whenever i see they are the last to respond to a thread, i just bypass it. i ignore it. i am not interested.

so i kind of understand the webmaster's stance - what would blocking do our forum? there was one troublesome user some time ago (initials: j.s.) who, i believe was banned from the site. so as long as these individuals are being dealt with, i would say i think it works, doesn't it?

if this is a question about other online feedism spaces, there was a thread on that recently:

fantasyfeeder.com/forum/posts

if it's an issue with blocking here, maybe post it in the feedback/suggestions forum.

i admire your willingness to take the initiative here, that is to be commended. i thought i would chime in with my perspective as i have been to maybe 20 events over the last 15 years or so, most of them here in the greater toronto (canada) area.

first, if it's an informal event not being known by a known group or club, someone involved in the organizing of the event needs to be established in the community. i see your account is 6 days old, you and i don't know each other, and i don't know if you've been an active member in the past. but i know most of us in the community would not even consider going out an meeting other from this (or any other online community for that matter) without having already built up a certain amount of trust.

once you get past the hurdle of actually attracting people to the idea, location is a tough one. it need to be central enough to get enough people to make the trip, which can be really tough. toronto is a big city with a lot of traffic. it is hours away from someone in the 'burbs. so this is always going to be a compromise. back before the pandemic i attended two meet-ups, one in the west end and one in the east end, and out of maybe 25 people only 4 of us attended both.

you also have to be interested in the social aspect enough that, if it's just a bunch of single thin fat admirers that show up, you're still interested in getting to know each other on a human level, not necessarily as a fetish. the last event my partner and i went to, it was 3 couples, and while food was a topic, it was pretty vanilla and chill, and that was great.

good luck! i wish there were more meet-ups, they seem to have dwindled down a lot since the pandemic.

starting out thin, there's a lot of little milestones along the way, i think. i remember being barely over 200 lbs when my belly got in the way when i was getting out of bed - i felt so fat!

little did i know what was in store! at over 400 lbs, just standing is hard work! stairs really make me consider my options...

when i got very fat, my hips and butt took on a bunch of weight. my moobs aren't huge, but definitely more feminine than my pecs used to be, and my fupa is very large. so yeah, definitely more feminine, but not enough to mistake me for a woman.

when my partner shaves my body, i find that is way more feminizing. it definitely makes me much more androgynous.

nash the slash

the new season of doctor who... my teenage daughter is now a fan. i grew up watching this on pbs in the 80s so it is a kind of circle of life things...

before the pandemic there seemed to be at least a couple of fat appreciation events every year here in the greater toronto area. they weren't feedism-centric, but there was a lot of overlap between fat admirers, fat positivity and feeders and gainers.

so it's been a long time since i've seen one of those larger events. i've been to a couple of meet-ups that were posted here in the forums more recently, though.

it's great to meet people in person that you've talked to in chat rooms or in the forums for years. it's a shame that canada is so big, because there a lot of people even from my own country that are just too far away to participate.