Enas:
Im curious, why is the statistic higher for men? O.o

Munchies:
Unfortunately, we'd need to get more information on how they collected the data and the participants. The article doesn't go into that, and it shockingly easily to accidentally bias data.

Green Eyes Dose:
How bout no. Most of the women I have dated off this site were "Lesbian" to begin with. You are just limiting your options by doing this. People like this site for the traditional normalcy versus the pronoun insanity and identity politics they have on that other obnoxious site.

Munchies:
How about you stop being a bigot.

First off, none of this is up to you. It's up to Hiccupx. Your opinon don't matter.

Second off, I call cap. Not only about you dating "lesbians" but that any woman on FF felt safe enough with you officially date. You have so many red flags that you are the red flag.

Also, you have pronouns. Your pronouns are he/him. You identify as a man. You are AMAB (assigned male at birth).

I love how you're obsessed with "traditional normalcy" when you are on a fetish site. You, sir, abandoned the traditional at least 14 years ago - probably more. You are an alternative person now.

Munchies:
I'm 100% on the spectrum. Although, most people seem shocked when I tell them that.

Glitter Jelly:
Same here. But that only tells you how little people know about autism.

Munchies:
No, that's not why. It used to be super obvious to tell. However, I got a lot better at functioning. The only time I get clocked nowadays is if I get overstimulated in public.

Besides, if you meet one autistic person, you've met one autistic person.

Glitter Jelly:
That's always what I tell people.

FAMGM:
Again, why does everyone talk about “this kink” as though, for everyone, it’s a kink?

When I was 4 years old, I was obsessed with the massive belly of the woman who ran day care.

It has always been there, pre-sexual awakening. Ergo, not a “kink”.

Delta9:
I will never understand why people keep private journals. They're literally just asking for someone to read it. I mean, you know your own thoughts and feelings inside your head, so why would you need to write it down; unless you wanted someone to read it then say "how dare you invade the privacy of my own thoughts."

That aside, I think the real question is can two people who are not each other's ultimate desire of attraction form a happy, healthy, and stable relationship together? There are only so many 10s in the world. The fact that he had to put that on his profile to get a date with someone, anyone, means he knew he was going to have to and was willing to settle for something less than his ultimate desire.
Are you still attracted to him? You must have been in the beginning since you messaged him. Did you really think you were going to get everything perfect with no downsides? I think he accepts the fact that you are and will probably always be fat. Maybe he doesn't love it, but he accepts it and has for the last eight years. I don't love that my car is old, slow, and leaking oil. But I do accept it because it's reliable, paid for, and I don't have to worry about scratching the paint.
Ultimately, I think this is necessarily how most relationships will end up. Finding a balance and stability with someone who wasn't really our first choice. The difference is most of us don't journal about it to tell our partners.