My home life was a bit fatphobic, so I had to wait until I moved out on my own before I tried to put some weight on. I was a bit too young and not mentally ready for the realities of what becoming fat and gaining weight would entail.

Later on, I got a pretty good opportunity to try again, this time having done more research on how to gain with a healthy regimen still in mind.

Having to remember to bring along a seatbelt extender for a rental car.

My brother knows, a few very close friends know and that's about it. My friends had heard of it before (and one told me that she dated a guy that was a gainer), so it wasn't too difficult to explain.

My brother was concerned about my weight gain and was coming from a good place before I told him, but is happy that I'm happy and am comfortable with myself.

Love to hear it from people who know me and that I know.

But I've had instances where there's been someone who thinks that we're at a point where I know them well enough to be okay with the comments and we're not, or just plain don't understand boundaries.

Seeing other people develop one when they're actively gaining weight is a huge turn on and really attractive. I love a full, face with chubby cheeks too.

That being said, when I started to grow one, I was really self conscious about it for a while. It took a bit of getting used to. But I've gotten a bit more comfortable with having one.

Fat me, fat girl

I've rarely been attracted to a thin girl, and find that I always prefer a fat girlfriend.

If there's cake around, I have a couple of slices before bed along with a nice big glass of milk for each slice I eat.

The frosting is so nice to have before bed

It's a mixed bag for me. Part of the appeal is the limitations that have been mentioned - squeezing into things, taking up a lot of room when sitting down, not being able to walk very far without getting out of breath, etc. It's definitely a huge turn on to experience being a fat person in some ways.

The issues I have most are pain related - wear on my knee, ankle and feet joints, along with some lower back issues with all the belly weight that I'm carrying. It's not pain in a good way, or, at least, not in an appealing way to me.

So long as the pain is not persistent, I'm for the most part happy with being my current weight and feel more comfortable with myself than I ever did.

Taking my time and allowing a bit of time to digest between plates, I have found allows me to eat a lot more than I could.

Also, by pacing myself I can get to have a lot more variety in what I'm getting each trip.

I haven't worn jeans in years lol