X_Larsson:
Maybe because you are not monogamous (as your profile states)? Red flag for many men, definitely.

GreenMeansGo34:
There are plenty of non monogamous men and women out there. Non monogamy and polyamory are very common and those types of relationships are just as valid as monogamous relationships.

X_Larsson:
That does not change my statement. For the fundamental masculine personality, "charing" a woman with someone else is a BIG no.
Women are not dispositioned in the similar way. In fact, a woman can accept her man has multiple women, as that confirms his attractiveness.
Exactly what is proven by the 80-20 split in outcome of modern dating apps...
(As I must assume you refer to above "relationships", which I would have called ONS.)

Mrman1980uk:
This is inappropriately hostile. It is difficult to discern a legitimate motivation for this post or for you having replied at all.

The reality is that it's inherently very difficult for people with unusual preferences - it's difficult enough even for people without unusual preferences to find somebody truly suitable where there's also mutual attraction. Adding a single unusual preference makes this exceptionally difficult; more than one at once may make it virtually impossible. (And being non-monogamous is not a "red flag" if it's done openly and consensually: it's a lifestyle preference. It is one that many may not share, but there is no legitimate or honest basis for hostility to those for whom it is a preference).

This does not mean that people should settle for something unsatisfactory - far from it. It is better to be single than to be in a relationship for the sake of it; but it definitely helps to understand in advance the inherent difficulties that one is likely to face so as not to be disappointed when those difficulties manifest.

X_Larsson:
White knight storming in?
She asks "why there is no man for her".
TopJimmy and myself have provided two very valid reasons; no reply from her, or very few men interested in having a long term relation with a non monogamous woman.
I have never in real life heard a man expressing a preference for not being the only man in the relation.

What I have stated are FACTS, not opinions. Facts are not hostile, neither am I.
Why would I otherwise try to help her, by providing reasons?

Mrman1980uk:
No, you are an abuser. You are deliberately and dishonestly misrepresenting your own behaviour.

You are being deliberately, overtly hostile, as well you know. Being emphatic to such an extreme extent that you feel the need to write in all caps, for example, is consistent only with truly extreme hostility. Describing a niche lifestyle preference as a "red flag" (the phrase meaning, as you specifically intended it to mean, a reason to believe that the person in question is untrustworthy, rather than merely incompatible) is deliberately, overtly hostile. Describing someone pointing out your intentional abuse as "white knight storming in" is deliberately, overtly hostile.

X_Larsson:
Haha.... I am not hostile or an abuser, nor am I telling lies or "misrepresenting"!
A woman not limiting herself to one man IS a red flag for most men, feedists not excluded. If anything, the nurturing element in a feeder would probably call for a stronger one-to-one relationship, than the opposite, is my personal guess.

If she is looking for feeders open to multi partner relations, not too far away, AND with money to spend, she might have to look for a long time. She can maybe attract additional contacts with a more interesting profile, more contribution in the forum, or better pics? Let us know what she "brings to the table", no pun intended.

If anything, she could participate in this discussion?
I am sure she can express herself without the assistance of white knights?
Anyways, I sincerely hope that people her DO meet other men and women into feedism. She is not the first to realize that we are few and far between.

X_Larsson:
Maybe because you are not monogamous (as your profile states)? Red flag for many men, definitely.

GreenMeansGo34:
There are plenty of non monogamous men and women out there. Non monogamy and polyamory are very common and those types of relationships are just as valid as monogamous relationships.

X_Larsson:
That does not change my statement. For the fundamental masculine personality, "charing" a woman with someone else is a BIG no.
Women are not dispositioned in the similar way. In fact, a woman can accept her man has multiple women, as that confirms his attractiveness.
Exactly what is proven by the 80-20 split in outcome of modern dating apps...
(As I must assume you refer to above "relationships", which I would have called ONS.)

Mrman1980uk:
This is inappropriately hostile. It is difficult to discern a legitimate motivation for this post or for you having replied at all.

The reality is that it's inherently very difficult for people with unusual preferences - it's difficult enough even for people without unusual preferences to find somebody truly suitable where there's also mutual attraction. Adding a single unusual preference makes this exceptionally difficult; more than one at once may make it virtually impossible. (And being non-monogamous is not a "red flag" if it's done openly and consensually: it's a lifestyle preference. It is one that many may not share, but there is no legitimate or honest basis for hostility to those for whom it is a preference).

This does not mean that people should settle for something unsatisfactory - far from it. It is better to be single than to be in a relationship for the sake of it; but it definitely helps to understand in advance the inherent difficulties that one is likely to face so as not to be disappointed when those difficulties manifest.

X_Larsson:
White knight storming in?
She asks "why there is no man for her".
TopJimmy and myself have provided two very valid reasons; no reply from her, or very few men interested in having a long term relation with a non monogamous woman.
I have never in real life heard a man expressing a preference for not being the only man in the relation.

What I have stated are FACTS, not opinions. Facts are not hostile, neither am I.
Why would I otherwise try to help her, by providing reasons?

X_Larsson:
Maybe because you are not monogamous (as your profile states)? Red flag for many men, definitely.

GreenMeansGo34:
There are plenty of non monogamous men and women out there. Non monogamy and polyamory are very common and those types of relationships are just as valid as monogamous relationships.

X_Larsson:
That does not change my statement. For the fundamental masculine personality, "charing" a woman with someone else is a BIG no.
Women are not dispositioned in the similar way. In fact, a woman can accept her man has multiple women, as that confirms his attractiveness.
Exactly what is proven by the 80-20 split in outcome of modern dating apps...
(As I must assume you refer to above "relationships", which I would have called ONS.)

ForeverFFA:
Does anyone else experience the issue where they repeatedly form intense romantic bonds with people who just aren't their type sexually? If so, how do you deal? The problem isn't about being ashamed of finding fat people attractive, but that it would feel terrible to dismiss someone who is amazing to me in almost every other way except that one.

Munchies:
It's not that hard. Don't be shallow and find things about them you find attractive.

ForeverFFA:
Fair. But my issue isn't the will to find other things about them attractive: my fetish is frustratingly hard-wired, to the point where I struggle to get in the mood from anything else. It's been a conversation that I've mostly avoided in past relationships like that out of awkwardness (and not wanting anyone to feel like they had to change for me), so I just went along with things I didn't enjoy.

NocturnalDevotion:
Go for the physical attraction, there used to be a show called Millionaire Matchmaker and she stressed that with the men. For me I cannot be with a guy who is not obese and I learned that from trying and failing to stay sexually interested in people that aren’t my “type”. Before meeting my husband I vowed never to compromise on that again and when I met him I was so excited to be with a big guy after so long. We really clicked and now we’ve been together 11 years, married for 5. I’m very lucky, he is an amazing person!!!

Morbidly A Beast:
Are you saying you can’t form bonds with people who aren’t fat?

I think it’s somewhat normal for people to not form romantic bonds they aren’t sexually attracted to. But it’s important to reflect on what others said here.

ForeverFFA:
No, I often form bonds with people who aren't, despite my fetish.

ForeverFFA:
Does anyone else experience the issue where they repeatedly form intense romantic bonds with people who just aren't their type sexually? If so, how do you deal? The problem isn't about being ashamed of finding fat people attractive, but that it would feel terrible to dismiss someone who is amazing to me in almost every other way except that one.

Getitgirl:
I found my fiancé on Feabie! We feel very lucky though since a lot of people on there are totally nuts lol (maybe we are too but our nuttiness just meshed well Ha!) We lived 5 hours away from each other at first but we’ve been living with each other for the past 3 years. It’s been awesome and the sex is noiceeee

BigBallBellyGirl:
I love the physical sensations of being too stuffed to do various things, like:

- breathe deeply
- sit up straight
- get into a standing position
- handle the pressure of a waistband on my belly
- tolerate temperatures above 68 degrees

There's a point at which you can do nothing but sit, partially reclined, with a pillow behind your back, the air all the way down, your bare belly pulsing from the fullness.