Gaining

A lot of confusion with this

Absolutely common! Probably one of the biggest and most repeated topics. You're not alone!

I didn't gain until I was in my 40s (for many reasons). You may wait, you may never gain. That's okay. You may want to engage in Feedism in ways that don't involve gaining.
- Padding
- Role play
- Occasional, non-gaining stuffing sessions
- Bloating with non-fattering foods and liquids
- Feeding someone else or enjoying a partner's fat body
- Writing/reading fat stories
- And of course, sexual videos and pics with fat people that excite you

Some people, when they're ready to dip a toe in, will gain 5 or 10lbs and see how it feels. If it doesn't feel right you stop or go back.

Everyone's relationship with their fetishes and kinks are unique. Do what's right for you. 😁
2 months

A lot of confusion with this

MickRidem:
Absolutely common! Probably one of the biggest and most repeated topics. You're not alone!

I didn't gain until I was in my 40s (for many reasons). You may wait, you may never gain. That's okay. You may want to engage in Feedism in ways that don't involve gaining.
- Padding
- Role play
- Occasional, non-gaining stuffing sessions
- Bloating with non-fattering foods and liquids
- Feeding someone else or enjoying a partner's fat body
- Writing/reading fat stories
- And of course, sexual videos and pics with fat people that excite you

Some people, when they're ready to dip a toe in, will gain 5 or 10lbs and see how it feels. If it doesn't feel right you stop or go back.

Everyone's relationship with their fetishes and kinks are unique. Do what's right for you. 😁


FF has a lot of people who flex. I know I'm guilty of it. But, if you look at wider feedist culture, most feedists don't live in the extremes.
2 months

A lot of confusion with this

[quote]Chloe24xx:there are times when the urge is stronger and it leads me to want to try it out but later I'm back to my normal self where I then feel weird and confused about it, because i have been ashamed about this side of me and struggled to accept it./quote]

You don't sound confused to me, just conflicted. Obviously there are upsides and downsides to gaining--only you can decide what's more important to you. And please don't feel ashamed. You can't help being into this...none of us can.

My advice is if you're not sure about gaining, don't--it's much easier to stay thinner and change your mind and get fat than vice versa. But if one day you decide you'd rather get fat, just accept it and enjoy it. No sense in gaining weight if you're going to guilt-trip yourself. Note that many a person will think about this for years, and then get to a place in life where they decide to let themselves go and get fat.
2 months

A lot of confusion with this

If it's something you keep finding yourself coming back around to, it may be worth looking at your shame. Even if you decided to act on your urge and try it out, It'd doubtful be enjoyable long-term for you alongside shameful feelings.
2 months

A lot of confusion with this

I definitely have gone through so much confusion about gaining for me it really came down to the fact that the urge to allow myself to be fat like I've wanted forever was way worse than anything I would lose fitness wise. But it's not the same for everyone. Just me personally I know that the truest me will be a fat version lol
1 month

A lot of confusion with this

exotic urge as in gaining weight?
1 month

A lot of confusion with this

What you describe, from my prospective is the sexual centre is linked to the idea or concept of gaining the true definition of a fetish. And like the desire to have sexual pleasure it accumulates, when satisfied resets. My experience is to eat in those circumstances. But I also have a routine love of gaining a bit like playing sport.
1 month

A lot of confusion with this

Chloe24xx:
I think it feels more 'true' to stay slim as I do like my body but it's simply just the erotic urge I can't explain I get often

FeederToFeedee:
Interesting! I mean, have you considered feeding others then, so that you can still thin while still indulging that desire by making someone else gain weight? Sent you a DM btw! ☺️


Boy shot his shot. How bold.
1 month

A lot of confusion with this

Chloe24xx:
I think it feels more 'true' to stay slim as I do like my body but it's simply just the erotic urge I can't explain I get often

FeederToFeedee:
Interesting! I mean, have you considered feeding others then, so that you can still thin while still indulging that desire by making someone else gain weight? Sent you a DM btw! ☺️

Munchies:
Boy shot his shot. How bold.

FeederToFeedee:
Haha I appreciate you not being too harsh about it. It also does sound like a pretty decent solution to be fair lol.


I mean, I think it's weird of you, but idk if she is fine with it. I generally keep it cool unless the other person declines and the guy can't accept a rejection.
1 month

A lot of confusion with this

Chloe24xx:
I think it feels more 'true' to stay slim as I do like my body but it's simply just the erotic urge I can't explain I get often

FeederToFeedee:
Interesting! I mean, have you considered feeding others then, so that you can still thin while still indulging that desire by making someone else gain weight? Sent you a DM btw! ☺️

Munchies:
Boy shot his shot. How bold.

FeederToFeedee:
Haha I appreciate you not being too harsh about it. It also does sound like a pretty decent solution to be fair lol.

Munchies:
I mean, I think it's weird of you, but idk if she is fine with it. I generally keep it cool unless the other person declines and the guy can't accept a rejection.

FeederToFeedee:
Oh, gotcha! I mean, besides looking for encouragement on here, it actually seemed like a workable solution to the problem quite honestly. That being said, yeah, I wouldn't want to come on too strong at all, and I hope it's taken well. Decently difficult finding people of around the same age!


Still, you gotta admit it's a little weird.

"Hey, I know you haven't expressed interest in this, but maybe you could be a feeder! In fact, what if you were my feeder."

LIke, I get it babes. The struggle is real. But maaaaybe this isn't the smartest way to go about it.
1 month
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