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Conflicted with the kink.

My beloved sister in Christ, I am come to you as someone who is also blessed and highly favored. I'm also a former gainer turned feeder and a cult survivor who has gone through many years of deprogramming as well.

Beloved you are overthinking this.

Being fat is no a sin. And gluttony is not about overeating. Gluttony is about satisfying your wants at the expensive of others. So yes, this can mean eating a lot of food, but it's not the only thing.

On top of that being fat does not necessarily mean being unhealthy. On the flip side, being thin doesn't mean health either. I was a sickly child who was underweight for much of my life. When I started my gaining journey, I stopped getting sick as much.

Mind you I was not living off of fast food either. I ate healthy and worked out. I'm currently rocking the athletically think look.

I'm currently in a relationship with a very large man. Now, he is looking to get fitter and lose some weight, but that is his choice. He doesn't want to be slim. He just wants to be able to keep up with me and any future kids we might have.

Now, there are some people on here that do enjoy eating a lot and being lazy. But that isn't a moral failing. They aren't going to Hell because they like their jiggly thighs and fluffy bellies. And neither are you.

It's all about finding your balance and what works for you. If you repress this, it will just fester and explode. Better to find your balance instead.

Have you talked to your fiancé about your feelings? If he is a man worth half his salt, he will love you as Christ loves the church. He will want to hear about your cares. You're going to be his helpmeet, his life partner. If he is worthy of you, then he will be happy to help you figure this out.

If not? Dodged a bullet.
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Conflicted with the kink.

CuriousMe:
[quote]Munchies:

Hey sis! Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate your kind approach. I have talked to my fiancé about my fetish, and he is supportive of me doing what I feel is best for my body and what is most honoring to God.

I totally understand what you mean about thin not being super healthy either. There is a balance.

One thing I have done recently is put away the scale, eat when and what I want. I do half-day fasts occasionally to edify my spirit. There is a verse that talks about how the flesh is in opposition to the spirit. Meaning earthly pleasures can be in opposition to the spirit. Gluttony is one of the 7 deadly sins. I say this as someone who struggles with it. No judgement at all on others.

There is a bit of a deviant nature to wanting to watch someone fatten up or to wanting someone to fatten you up. Self control is one of the qualities of the fruit of the spirit. And intentionally gaining seems in opposition of that.

On the other side, people can obsess about calorie counting and exercise obsessively. Equally unhealthy.

I think you are right about striking a balance. I feel peace about maybe intentionally filling out a bit before the wedding day. Just to what feels right in my spirit.

I still struggle with lust of the flesh (literally) and being on this site indulges that. But I’m trying to not repress the impulse and to try to get to a balanced place.

Once my fiancé and I are married, I feel like it will be healthier to express my urges because we will no longer be abstaining from sex.

And we both are eager for that day!


Alright, sister. Be blessed. I wish you well on your endeavors. Also congrats on your upcoming wedding!
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Conflicted with the kink.

In most cases, people who fantasize about being fat, end up gaining. It's just natural. You have no reason to stay thin, and people tend to gain as they get older. I would not beat yourself up over it. Just enjoy it. I really see no religious reason to stay thin.


CuriousMe:
Hey ya’ll. I’m a mid-thirties female who has struggled with sexualizing weight gain and fat for a long while. I don’t necessarily want to indulge in this fetish and find it to be extremely distracting. Like, every time I see a heavy woman in public, I have to fight imagining myself at her size.

My mom used to be thin before I was born and then she “let herself go” and has been hovering around 200 pds as long as I can remember.

When I was a kid, my cousins and I used to stuff our clothes and pretend we were really fat. In my teens, I was a little chunky and one comment from my dad had me start focusing on my diet and exercise routine more. I used to fantasize about heavyset men at that age and the fantasies always involved humiliation.

Then fast forward to an unhealthy relationship where the guy I was with was seeing his ex on the side who was very curvy. I was in size 2 and 4 and she was a solid 16. So at that point my fetish flickered back on and I was trying to intentionally gain. But I never liked how I felt stuffed or feeling lethargic. I enjoy working out. 😂

So then my fantasies started turning into non-consent weight gain where a fit friend or a boyfriend would try to fatten me up through “protein” bars and vitamins that they told me would help me lose weight. All the while I was working out and my leggings were getting tighter and my butt was growing bigger and my belly would grow. There would be some humiliation involved. That is still extremely hot to me. And it simultaneously disgusts me.

Then I got pregnant and really enjoyed gaining. And it was socially acceptable. I didn’t try to stuff or overeat but I did love feeling big and heavy. Seeing my belly all round and my breasts went from C to DDD. I liked how big my hips got and even my little pregnant waddle.

Post-partum, I had no issue losing the weight. I breastfed, worked out, ate healthy. And even started a health coaching course.

And here I am fit and now engaged to a heavyset man who is around 300 pds. 5’ 9”. His belly is big and round and he is trying to lose the weight so he can be healthier. And I have seen photos of him fit and he is fine! But there is the fetish part of me that is wildly attracted to him bulging out of his shirts and overeating, taking naps. I even kind of like being really fit next to him in photos and seeing his double chin.

We are saving sex till marriage. And we are both working out now, but I have this extreme urge to gain weight before the wedding day. And surprise him with bigger hips. It seems deceitful in a way to say I’m trying to stay fit and then to secretly take supplements and try to gain. But there is something about that that really turns me on.

I’m at a crossroads. As a follower of Christ, I feel it is dishonorable to my temple to intentionally try to stuff it. My natural shape is fit. And I’m fantasizing forcing it to be curvy.

So sorry this is so long but I made an account on here to try to get to the bottom of this. Has anyone else experienced this kind of inner conflict?

It feels very self-sabotaging and I tend to obsess about it. Looking up weight gain products, padding, and anything that can fill my urge to feel heavier without actually committing to gaining. 🫣

To all those who choose to gain, I respect you. I am truly just a fantasy type girl who landed a fat hubby.

By the way, he knows about this fetish. But he thinks I am beautiful as I am and doesn’t want me to trash my temple for the sake of satisfying an unhealthy sexual urge.
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Conflicted with the kink.

I’ve been there it’s hard. I grew up in the church my entire life, even went to private Christian schools and didn’t go to a secular school until high school. My first memory of feeling arousal was related to weight gain. When I got older and realized what I was doing and what those feelings were I felt deeply ashamed and did everything to correct it.

I hid it from everyone especially my partners because I was so terrified people would know I was an awful sinner that got off on people becoming helpless blobs of fat. It created a deep self hatred that has taken years of therapy and an understanding and supportive wife to conquer. I was always taught that gluttony was a sin and my dad was often beaten and abused by his mother for being chubby. So while he wasn’t as bad he was still incredibly cruel when it came to shaming my body.

And then one day after a girl I was with broke up with me I realized I wasn’t happy. Not just because I wasn’t with her anymore but because I realized I didn’t like myself at all. So I decided that maybe I should just try accepting myself and date people that share my kink. Eventually I met my wife and the rest is history.

We have both decided that we want this and we will do it as healthy as we can but life is to short to spend it denying who you are. And I am happier then I’ve ever been.

We both have an understanding that our health comes first, but we indulge our kink as much as we can up to that point. If she or I get a warning from our doctor that’s life or death we are choosing life. But there are plenty of healthy ways to gain body fat and still be at least somewhat healthy.

I’m not a dietician or doctor of any kind so take this with a grain of salt, but honestly if you are getting at least some exercise, eating healthy foods at larger portion sizes, and avoiding excessive sugars and fats even though they’re more fattening, then you should be able to still gain weight at an admittedly slower pace but while not putting strain on your organs, muscles, and joints. You may not live to be 100 but have you seen what 90+ year old people look like? Have you seen what they go through just to see another day? You diet and exercise and suppress your deepest sexual desires and all for what an extra 20 years in a hospital bed on heart medication anyway? Or who knows you could get cancer tomorrow or get hit by a bus. The point is if all you do with your life is try to make it last longer you’ll look back when it’s finally over and have nothing to reminisce on in your final hours.

As far as god goes, as a believer I really feel the church has deceived many people for a long time. People often misconstrue scripture to suit their needs or make additions to the Bible during translation so for instance the passage about “a man who lays with another man is an abomination” is really “a man who lays with a boy is an abomination.” I feel that gluttony being a sin is more in reference to someone in a place of power letting others starve while they eat in purposeful excess. I feel that God wouldn’t be so cruel as to make so many of us attracted to fat people if it was always a bad thing or that big of a deal to him, just like I don’t believe he wouldn’t have made so many people attracted to the same sex or both sexes if he hated them so much.

Tbh it’s really just biology, prehistoric humans were more likely to survive harsh winters and go longer without food if they were fatter. Women that were plump were more attractive to men because it signaled to them that they are more likely to successfully breast feed and survive pregnancy. Overtime a portion of the population has become extremely attractive to a trait that is now acquired by accident because of how abundant food has become.

My point is that having this kink and indulging it is 100% ok as long as it’s what you want. It’s not my story or anyone else’s, it’s yours so make it a good one.

I’m sorry this was long, please love yourself today and I hope you and your partner can find a way to express this aspect of yourself in a safe and healthy way
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