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Gaining weight secondary benefit of "helping" a friend

I know my primary desires to gain weight has been to get fat because it's something that I personally find attractive and something that I've wrestled with the idea of doing for over 10 years. I'm even thinking I might commit to doing a New Year's "Resolution" of intentionally gaining weight for all of 2025 and seeing the results at the end of the year. I just came to a realization recently that it might have a secondary benefit by my committing to intentionally gaining.

One of my closest friends is getting married in early 2026. He's always been a bigger dude and he hasn't necessarily been a big fan of that. He lost around 60 pounds and was able to keep it off for a couple of years, but recently has gained it all back. I'm going to be one of his groomsmen and, currently, I am significantly smaller than he is. I was thinking that, by taking the plunge on my, "Resolution" for the New Year and commiting to it, I'd probably end up fat enough to where I'd at least be similar to his size BMI-wise by the wedding, if not larger. In his mind, it might make him look more, " conventionally attractive," to be smaller than most, if not all of his groomsmen. Obviously I don't want to gain weight solely to help out someone else, but it might be a nice added bonus to me intentionally blowing up in the year leading up to his wedding.

Curious if anyone had any thoughts on this?
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Gaining weight secondary benefit of "helping" a friend

If he doesn’t like being big chances are he won’t think highly of you gaining weight, he might but that’s not something most people would think about.

Rather you should take what you’ve learned here and explain to him how it’s okay to be fat and it’s ok to be comfortable in your body
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Gaining weight secondary benefit of "helping" a friend

Morbidly A Beast:
If he doesn’t like being big chances are he won’t think highly of you gaining weight, he might but that’s not something most people would think about.

Rather you should take what you’ve learned here and explain to him how it’s okay to be fat and it’s ok to be comfortable in your body


I suppose it depends on why the groom wants to lose weight. I'd agree with you if it's coming from a place of self-hate. But there are numerous reasons why someone might want to lose weight. Health, practicality, and aesthetics come to mind among other things.

It's also possible that the groom might have zero opinions on OP's size one way or another. I know it's very common in male-male friendships for the friend to either not notice or not care if the other gains weight.

There isn't any information about their relationship to make a value judgement on it one way or another
1 month

Gaining weight secondary benefit of "helping" a friend

Morbidly A Beast:
If he doesn’t like being big chances are he won’t think highly of you gaining weight, he might but that’s not something most people would think about.

Rather you should take what you’ve learned here and explain to him how it’s okay to be fat and it’s ok to be comfortable in your body

Munchies:
I suppose it depends on why the groom wants to lose weight. I'd agree with you if it's coming from a place of self-hate. But there are numerous reasons why someone might want to lose weight. Health, practicality, and aesthetics come to mind among other things.

It's also possible that the groom might have zero opinions on OP's size one way or another. I know it's very common in male-male friendships for the friend to either not notice or not care if the other gains weight.

There isn't any information about their relationship to make a value judgement on it one way or another


For sure, I might have overstated how much he would mind or react if at all, generally speaking it probably wouldn’t even cross the mind of most people without a fat fetish unless explicit brought up.
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