Submission and domination

Not a dominant feeder

Come little feeder. I’d love to boss you around as I get fatter
3 months

Not a dominant feeder

Xenonprincess:
I'm not a dominant person, as a matter of fact I'm pretty submissive, anyone else in this position?
I feel like most feeders are more dominant and usually fill a kinda dom role but I have always been very submissive and always been submissive in relationships. I am into being submissive so I wonder if this works for other people.



I’ve eaten for some feeders who are more on the sub side, and we had fun experimenting with a more dom roll as feedee. It was fun, but I’m sure that balance is a little different for everyone.
2 months

Not a dominant feeder

Submissive feeder here still in search of a male Dom feedee. I like the idea of a guy making a complete pig of himself proudly and without shame, demanding I feed and wait on him hand and foot, catering to his every whim. A big guy with a big personality who asserts himself with his sheer size and by throwing his weight around.

It is frustrating that many guys assume I'm a Domme because of my "strong personality" and because I'm a feeder. But guys thinking I'm intimidating is exactly why the fantasy of finding one who doesn't, who I can give myself over to completely, is so appealing. I can switch it up sometimes, but I don't get off to having control over other people so it's pretty draining for me.
1 month

Not a dominant feeder

Not really sure what I would be in as a feedee, I am not sure if I would be dominant or submissive, in my minds eye I think it is somewhat neutral a bit of both.
1 month

Not a dominant feeder

StoryEnjoyer:
Not really sure what I would be in as a feedee, I am not sure if I would be dominant or submissive, in my minds eye I think it is somewhat neutral a bit of both.


Not all feedists are dominant or submissive. In fact, a good chunk exist outside of power play.
1 month

Not a dominant feeder

I'm submissive too and would love waiting on my guy. Him demanding more food and drinks and tummy rubs while he belches is such a turn on. It does seem that most feedees are more submissive so it's super hard to find one that's dominant.
1 month

Not a dominant feeder

StoryEnjoyer:
Not really sure what I would be in as a feedee, I am not sure if I would be dominant or submissive, in my minds eye I think it is somewhat neutral a bit of both.

Munchies:
Not all feedists are dominant or submissive. In fact, a good chunk exist outside of power play.


I feel like I notice a trend, maybe it’s younger people, or more online people, or just life in post 50-Shades world, of folks trying to shoehorn every relationship into a dom/sub power dynamic, which is just kinda funny to me.
1 month

Not a dominant feeder

StoryEnjoyer:
Not really sure what I would be in as a feedee, I am not sure if I would be dominant or submissive, in my minds eye I think it is somewhat neutral a bit of both.

Munchies:
Not all feedists are dominant or submissive. In fact, a good chunk exist outside of power play.

Letters And Numbers:
I feel like I notice a trend, maybe it’s younger people, or more online people, or just life in post 50-Shades world, of folks trying to shoehorn every relationship into a dom/sub power dynamic, which is just kinda funny to me.


Not sure how old you are, but this is hardly anything new. In fact, if you scroll through a lot of older feedist community posts (like Dimensions) you'll see that this kind of thinking is quite old. You and I know that being a feedist isn't inherently part of power play. But there's always been a sizeable chunk of the community that sees it that way.

Look at a lot of the older feedist media. Feeders tend to be coded as doms and feedees tend to be coded as subs. It's so ingrained in people's minds that anything outside of this dynamic is transgressive. In fact, if you look at some BDSM spaces, a lot of people think feedism is an aspect of power play.

It's not. I cannot emphasize how much it's not. But this is a mindset that's developed from the earliest days of the community and cemented by the mainstream not knowing what they're talking about.
1 month

Not a dominant feeder

StoryEnjoyer:
Not really sure what I would be in as a feedee, I am not sure if I would be dominant or submissive, in my minds eye I think it is somewhat neutral a bit of both.

Munchies:
Not all feedists are dominant or submissive. In fact, a good chunk exist outside of power play.

Letters And Numbers:
I feel like I notice a trend, maybe it’s younger people, or more online people, or just life in post 50-Shades world, of folks trying to shoehorn every relationship into a dom/sub power dynamic, which is just kinda funny to me.

Munchies:
Not sure how old you are, but this is hardly anything new. In fact, if you scroll through a lot of older feedist community posts (like Dimensions) you'll see that this kind of thinking is quite old. You and I know that being a feedist isn't inherently part of power play. But there's always been a sizeable chunk of the community that sees it that way.

Look at a lot of the older feedist media. Feeders tend to be coded as doms and feedees tend to be coded as subs. It's so ingrained in people's minds that anything outside of this dynamic is transgressive. In fact, if you look at some BDSM spaces, a lot of people think feedism is an aspect of power play.

It's not. I cannot emphasize how much it's not. But this is a mindset that's developed from the earliest days of the community and cemented by the mainstream not knowing what they're talking about.


I’m not talking about the feedist community, I’m talking about general life. There’s a desire to categorize people like they’re Pokémon that seems to be more common with younger folks but it’s not exclusive.
1 month