Fat experiences

I was wondering what people's experiences were like getting fat as an adult instead of being fat since childhood. How rapid and how large were the gains? What were reactions from friends, family, and coworkers like? What were some of the health impacts like (particularly early on)?

Mainly shocked. I was thin fit and an athlete for ages. I only started letting myself go, when I was in my early 30's. Most people have been shocked. Jokinly and sometimes saying how ive let myself go..

Frustrating at first, as a feedee/gainer. I think I have some kind of dysmorphia where I don’t perceive myself as fat as I actually am? I didn’t start to feel like I was actually fat until I passed 300 lbs. I’m pushing 400 and I still need like environmental reminders about how big I am to really get it, like when i have to cram myself into an airplane seat.

And I have no idea if it’s because I was average-sized until I gave into my fetishes as an adult, or if it’s a side effect of just always feeling like I want to be fatter lol

BMI 28 now after used to be 15. I don't feel remotely like a "fat" person because I was underweight to begin with.

Also, being tall, a BMI of 28 isn't really overweight at my height. BMI is inaccurate as it compares weight with height squared, but people are 3D not 2D, so it should compare weight with height cubed. In which case currently BMI underestimates fatness for short people and overestimates fatness for tall people.

The perception things is so true. I was always medium built/fit until I decided to gain weight, and it took me a while to really appreciate that I was fat, well after I actually became properly fat. Like I'd look in the mirror and wouldn't think that I was that big, but clearly the number on the scale, the clothes sizes I was having to buy, and the way I was just moving and navigating the world meant that I was fat. It's weird.

So, I was about 200-205lbs Fall 2021. That was my first time seriously considering gaining on purpose. I went up to 215lbs by Spring of ‘22 before my grandma commented on my weight, which made me feel like I needed to lose it, so I did. Then from June ‘23 to Feb. ‘24 I shot up to 240lbs., which is where I’m at now.

There were comments on it by friends and family. So, from my family, there was a smart-ass comment about how I’m a “growing boy” when we were ordering food. Then, there were a few comments from various friends. One friend actually told me I have a dadbod. Another has made a few implying comments. His first was actually asking me at the beach after I took my shirt off if I played football because I’m a big guy. Then, he made kind of a similar comment recently at an event that I’m a skinny guy, which I think was an attempt to get me to admit I had gotten fat or something.

In terms of health effects, I’ve had none, thankfully. I feel more tired when I work out, which is the most significant thing I’ve noticed.

It was my conscious decision. I had been slim since I was a child (about 150 pounds at 5'10" tall, at the age of 22).

I had known our community for some time and had consistently changed my diet. I let myself go and gained over 30 pounds in three months, to about 185.

The new weight was quickly noticed, but there was no great outrage, although there were some comments.

Health-wise, I only initially noticed pain in my knees and quick fatigue when walking (running was out of the question), but after a dozen or so weeks my body got used to it.

I was very skinny in my childhood but got fatter over time, especially recently, I was gaining weight really fast, but I didn’t get any reaction from coworkers (actually one of them even encouraged me to eat more hehe). From family I got really bad reactions, they like “beware” and “don’t eat too much”, but friends who knew me earlier said recently that I looked good and much more healthy, and one girl even complemented me for being fatter. I did not have any health issues, it just that it became harder to took the steps but what are the elevators for?

In all my gains over the years I got one comment about it directly and I just put up the boundary that my weight wasn’t a topic of conversation and it was never brought up again.

I’ve gotten a few tip toes around old pictures people catching their words.

But that’s it. Unless you consider online harassment part of it

my experience was kind of different, because i didn't start gaining until later in life... up until about 40 i was athletic.

my initial gains happened when i'd moved to another city. i met a ssbbw there, and in the couple of years we were together i went from fit to fat. but because i was in a place where i didn't know a lot of people, i didn't get many comments. i got some - especially my mother, who i saw pretty frequently at the time. but nothing too memorable.

fast forward to 2020, i split with that gf when i moved back to home city for work. because i'd gained about 100 lbs while away, i got a *lot* of comments from friends who i hadn't seen during my gain!

then the pandemic hit - and i gained even more. so, to this day i still get comments from people who haven't seen me in a few years.

there's only been a couple of occasions where anyone said anything that made me uncomfortable, most of the time i can roll with it and enjoy them and even take a little delight in the discomfort of others who aren't sure what to say, lol!