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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

Wow - how exciting for you! Considering your weight gain the boyfriend clearly still finds you attractive (and why not?). I'd be betting that he'd support you in your weight gain ambitions.
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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

MRFATS53:
Wow - how exciting for you! Considering your weight gain the boyfriend clearly still finds you attractive (and why not?). I'd be betting that he'd support you in your weight gain ambitions.

FatGirlWithALeanBoyfriend:
I am 95% confident that my boyfriend has romantic feelings for me. But being finding me attractive and to what expect is a puzzle. He seemed to try so hard to not hurt my feelings. He says PC cliches like "you're not fat you're beautiful," and "you have curves." I think he thinks I'm depressed or have some other mental issues.

I think his positive comments are understandable because he does not realise that you want to be fat and fatter still. Think you'll have to gently let him in on your secret - which could just be more powerful than your feelings for him. Could you be happy not being fat?
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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

MRFATS53:
Wow - how exciting for you! Considering your weight gain the boyfriend clearly still finds you attractive (and why not?). I'd be betting that he'd support you in your weight gain ambitions.

FatGirlWithALeanBoyfriend:
I am 95% confident that my boyfriend has romantic feelings for me. But being finding me attractive and to what expect is a puzzle. He seemed to try so hard to not hurt my feelings. He says PC cliches like "you're not fat you're beautiful," and "you have curves." I think he thinks I'm depressed or have some other mental issues.

MRFATS53:
I think his positive comments are understandable because he does not realise that you want to be fat and fatter still. Think you'll have to gently let him in on your secret - which could just be more powerful than your feelings for him. Could you be happy not being fat?

FatGirlWithALeanBoyfriend:
I told him and I wasn't gentle. He prefers to get a fast-paced info dump because telling him news slowly makes him feel like he's going to get the worst possible.
The talk went reasonably well. He said he still likes and he still wants to be with me. I did admit that he was far far far more physically attracted to me the way I was in 2019 but he says he is still physically attracted to me and that he thinks he will still be physically attracted to me when I reach 400 lb. He said he is not sure how he feels about a lot of what I told him. But we did have sex after the talk so that's a good sign.

Yes, well done, it does sound like a good sign so go for it! You never know but if/when you get to 400 lbs you may really like it and with him used to a nice big partner you might want to go higher!! Exciting prospect...
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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

Might as well tell him is what I think.
Communication of what each wants is pretty important is it not?
If he hated that you have gained weight he would have said it and have you exercise with him.
Sounds like he is OK with your current weight but at 400 that could be very different.
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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

Ditzy:
Might as well tell him is what I think.
Communication of what each wants is pretty important is it not?
If he hated that you have gained weight he would have said it and have you exercise with him.
Sounds like he is OK with your current weight but at 400 that could be very different.

Great advice as always Ditzy - only one way to find out though!
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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

I have learned over the years that its best to come right out with something than suffer never really knowing what your spouse thinks.
I was dating an older man thru a lot of my active gainer phase and he was ex Army and very fit.
He said if gaining is what you want go for it if it makes you happy.
He admitted he liked the plushness as I got fatter.
This kind of a thing as always hard until you do it then its out there and then you both can deal with it.
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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

The bottom line (forgive the pun) - if being fat turns you on and makes you happy, why be unhappy and turned off?
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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

Shadowmike:
I can't believe this is even a thing lol. I stood by my principles even when I was viciously bullied for liking fat women.

Yes, but I guess we're not all made the same way. And after all, we hearing about a lady here.
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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

Did you discuss the kink you have?
You need to understand just getting married doesn't solve problems.
Getting married then telling him your kink isn't fair to him.
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Thinking of telling my boyfriend my kinks

Good doesn't it feel better getting it all out?
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