This is a frustrated rant, but I do believe this is a good question.
As I gainer I've never had any experience with a feeder, not in person nor online, so my expectations come from what I see others tell about their own experiences. In a way we're sacrificing our bodies, health, mobility, clothes, furniture, job possibilities and social relations. All for a body size we find desirable, yet also making life harder. Is it unfair to expect a feeder's job has to reflect that sacrifice we make? They face monetary loss, that's true, but if I break up with my partner after he fattened me, he walks away with less money, but with his mobility and health intact, while I have to deal with the downfall of not having access to many jobs, fitting clothes or an outside life.
I say all this because in every conversation I had with a feeder the focus has been on what I have to do, what I have to eat, what I have to buy. Some time ago a feeder said that he would care and fatten me, that we would get a disability pension to expend on my gains. And it clicked, that way he didn't loose anything, but I did. He would gain sexual pleasure from fattening me and taking advantage of what I had, but he wouldn't give anything. I'm giving my body to you, but you won't even reflect that? What is the fairest exchange I can expect from a feeder in this regard? On my current weight and without intentionally gaining I don't expect anything from anyone but the basic respect and dignity as the humans we are, yet if making me fatter is the conversation, can I expect from my feeder that his material input reflects what I'm both giving him and giving up?
As I gainer I've never had any experience with a feeder, not in person nor online, so my expectations come from what I see others tell about their own experiences. In a way we're sacrificing our bodies, health, mobility, clothes, furniture, job possibilities and social relations. All for a body size we find desirable, yet also making life harder. Is it unfair to expect a feeder's job has to reflect that sacrifice we make? They face monetary loss, that's true, but if I break up with my partner after he fattened me, he walks away with less money, but with his mobility and health intact, while I have to deal with the downfall of not having access to many jobs, fitting clothes or an outside life.
I say all this because in every conversation I had with a feeder the focus has been on what I have to do, what I have to eat, what I have to buy. Some time ago a feeder said that he would care and fatten me, that we would get a disability pension to expend on my gains. And it clicked, that way he didn't loose anything, but I did. He would gain sexual pleasure from fattening me and taking advantage of what I had, but he wouldn't give anything. I'm giving my body to you, but you won't even reflect that? What is the fairest exchange I can expect from a feeder in this regard? On my current weight and without intentionally gaining I don't expect anything from anyone but the basic respect and dignity as the humans we are, yet if making me fatter is the conversation, can I expect from my feeder that his material input reflects what I'm both giving him and giving up?
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