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Indeed, it's a common complaint on here. I even added a note to the "Getting Started/Guide to FF" sticky before to help address it:



If I were you, I'd also add that you're only interested in women in the "About Me" part of your profile- it'll help cut their messages down since they have no choice but to view your main profile to message you in the first place, hahaha.

I agree with all the above, but just remember there are so many more men than women on this site and it must be tough for all but the suavest! I try to imagine what it must be like to be in their position, and sympathise. It's not easy to come up with something cool, witty and original. BUT it's far more likely to get a favourable response if you've read a girl's profile and can really demonstrate you've got something you want to talk to them about, as opposed to just wanting to get your leg over.

And can I add: I get tons of 18-21 yr old messaging me. Even taking into account that some are bound to be 57 really, it seems unlikely that so many 18 yr olds really want to chat me up. And before anyone jumps down my throat for being ageist, I'm really not - I'm happy to talk to anyone with something interesting & well-expressed to say, and there are plenty of 18 yr olds who can do that. But being realistic I reckon what's really happened is that they haven't even read enough of my profile to know that I'm probably older than their mum.

So yeah. Read the profile or you're just contributing to the girls' impressions of guys scattergunning messages indiscriminately to anything female. But we girls also have to remember we're in the fortunate position of being able to criticise & pick & choose because that's how the numbers work out. Being all princessy about it does not become us.

Well it looks like Seabear, who started this thread, has left already... now something that really irritates me is when people arrive here and then just delete their profile just as you were getting to know them. Even worse is if they come in here, criticise people, and then leave without giving it a chance...

So like yeah. What. Ever.